Don’t renounce from one kind of attachment to another
After becoming a Buddhist for a few years, you may be able to easily renounce many things that you could not renounce in the past. You no longer care about those things that are considered secular. things. For example, you no longer pay attention to whether the car driving by you is Ferrari or Audi , you no longer care about beautiful clothes and bags, you can even stop eating meat and you can stop smoking.
It can be said that you have renounced very well in these aspects, and you have indeed renounced some things, but you may also be controlled by other things. For example, if you renounce meat but become obsessed with vegetarianism, and even think meat is unclean, those who eat meat will arouse your disgust and hostility. At this time, you should renounce vegetarianism. You are obsessed with being vegetarian, and the direct result of your persistence is to create various harmful emotions, such as hostility.
Similarly, although you no longer care about the latest Ferrari, you start to care about other things. You start to care about how to get red coral beads, collect various Buddha statues, and care about the gossip of eminent monks. This represents your renunciation. Not completely, you just slip from one cage to another.
The thing you think is the most important is the object you need to escape from the most.
The thing you think is the most important is the object you need to escape from the most, but it is often the thing you least want to escape from and the most difficult thing to escape from. .
For example, if you are a car lover, you may not care about the broken windows at home, but when you find that your car has been scratched, will you remain indifferent? If you will be irritated, it means that you are here I have not yet left the matter. Once it involves something that you think is important, you can understand "whether you really have renunciation "
Whether renunciation depends entirely on the details. For example, are you upset because someone doesn't like something you like? Are you annoyed because someone has a habit of arranging their toothbrushes? If you are completely renounced, you should not have any worries because you have given up all attachments.
What needs to be noted is that what you abandon is your attachment to everything, not everything. Having renunciation does not mean that you have to run away from home, or donate all your property, or live like Milarepa. From a certain perspective, renunciation also means that if you have to go to Milarepa In the life of Riba, you will not refuse.
There is a story. A believer went to visit a great siddha. When he saw the siddha’s luxurious residence, he had doubts in his heart and asked: I heard that you are a person who has given up this life, but looking at you Those things in the house don’t seem to meet your criteria for giving up this life. The achiever smiled slightly: Giving up everything does not mean that you and I have to live like Milarepa. Although I live in such a house, I have long lost my attachment to these things. I can walk out at any time.
The standard for truly having renunciation is that you can abandon anything you are familiar with at any time, step out of accustomed scenes, without hesitation or reluctance, and can accept any change; a person with renunciation will not be discouraged by anything. Anger, remember, is anything, not just those very worldly things, but also those things you consider sacred, such as the act of worshiping Buddha. Don’t get angry and persistent because of changes, don’t get angry because of offended habits.
Renunciation does not require you to give up everything. What you need to give up is just attachment. Giving up will make you freer. But it's not easy to let go of these things, it takes some time, skills, and a teacher who knows how to get you to let go of them.
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