is a baby child growing up day by day. , Many parents find that everything depends on their baby and become less and less willing to talk to their parents. Except for some necessary communication, there is basically no communication.
Faced with the situation of children, many parents start to worry, for fear of what happens to the children, but even if they want to enter the children's heart, they are turned away.
Dai Dong: If the child refuses to communicate with parents, there must be a problem with the way of communication.
The famous parent-child educator Dai Dong once accepted such a case. A mother asked him for help and said that her 13-year-old daughter I was locked in the house and would never go out when it was unnecessary; but I was blocked from communicating with my daughter on WeChat and had to ask him for help.
Dai Dong said: " When a child refuses to communicate with their parents, there must be a problem with the way of communication. "
Children do not become uncommunicative in one day. This is a gradual process. In addition to a very small part of the reason for character, there is also a large part of the reason is that the child has resisted the parents' words, so they refuse to communicate with their parents.
What are the hidden problems behind children's unwillingness to communicate with their parents?
1. Parents’ superiority
Many parents think that they are superior to their children, and many parents think that children are their own accessories. When talking to their children, always has a sense of "superiority", but How can you tell your inner world with someone who always talks with you on the shelf?
Therefore, parents must learn to change their attitudes. Perhaps when the child is young, parents can establish authority, but as the child grows up day by day, you must let the child know that you are not only its parent, but also with him Friends of equal status, , only in this way will children be willing to communicate with you.
2. Parents are not good listeners
A netizen once shared the answer to this question on the Internet. He said: “It’s not that I don’t want to say it, but that every time shares a new thing and opinion, he will be frustrated. Come back to , so that he is gradually reluctant to share.”
Many parents cannot be a good listener. When they catch the loopholes in the child’s words, they will find ways to go back and prove that the child is wrong. But isn't this that the parents personally closed the door to communicate with their children?
Parents want to maintain good communication with their children. Please learn to listen to the content of their children. Only when you understand what he really needs in his heart can you have the opportunity to walk into his heart and give them the right help.
3. Parents always make decisions on behalf of their children.
Children will encounter many confusions and problems in the process of growing up, and they will be contrary to the opinions of their parents. At this time, many parents will ignore their children’s opinions and make decisions for their children. Eventually, the relationship with the child became increasingly tense.
Parents are just a guide on the path of a child’s life . How his life goes and what he can go has a lot to do with his own will. When multiple-choice questions are placed in front of the child, what parents have to do is not to give orders. Instead, it helps the child analyze the possible results of the two choices, let the child weigh the pros and cons, and try to make the current "optimal solution" .
"Communication" plays a very important role in family education. As children grow up day by day, their independent personality and awareness of independence become stronger and stronger. If you still maintain their education at the age of 3 or 4 Way, it will only push them farther and farther. Don’t want your child to be “relatively speechless” with yourself, you must try to let go of your posture and listen to your child’s true thoughts. Only in this way can you reap your child’s true treatment.
Today’s topic: Why do you think the older the child is, the less he communicates with his parents? Welcome to leave a message and share in the comment area.
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