Savadika~Hello everyone~
Today is Friday. How will everyone play this coming weekend?
After Afang had pearl milk tea, he often took them to play around, and sometimes made appointments with my friends and family for a party with her baby.
But when bubble milk tea meets some strangers, they will be slightly afraid of living, and they will hide in the arms of Fang and my husband. If someone who is not familiar with bubble tea wants to hug them, it may cause them to cry.
believes that many mothers have the same problems as Fang.
So the problem is, what should I do when the baby cries when he sees a stranger?
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Correctly face your baby's fear of birth
When a baby is infancy, although he can't speak, he can already recognize people and know who is the father, who is the mother, and who is taking care of their family. But in the face of strangers, they will be very confused, some babies are dumb, some babies even cry.
▲Pearl milk tea is now not afraid of swimming coaches
Afang found that some mothers would feel very annoyed when they saw their babies were afraid of living, wondering if their babies were too timid. In fact, this is completely a normal performance.
When facing strangers, they will have an emotion called "stranger anxiety".
What is "stranger anxiety"
"stranger anxiety" generally occurs in babies from 6 months to 2 years old. This is actually an age characteristic, not a "naturally timid".
In fact, when babies begin to "recognize birth", mothers should still be happy.
is able to distinguish who is mom and dad and who is a stranger, which is the perfect performance of the baby's brain development. They know that when facing parents, grandparents, they should feel dependent. Strangers walk in front of them. They know they should not rely on them, but they don't know how to face them, so they cry in response.
However, each baby's "stranger anxiety" is also different. For example, some babies will not feel scared when they see women who are about the same age as their mothers, because they will mistakenly think that they are mothers~
. That is to say, mothers don’t need to be too nervous about the so-called "recognition of birth" of babies, because This shows that they have grown up ~ know how to distinguish ~
baby "stranger anxiety" development process:
less than 4 months
babies generally do not recognize birth. He is curious about all the new things around him, including unfamiliar strangers.
Therefore, at this time, anyone who teases, he will respond with joy and smile.
4 to 5 months old
babies will be "alert" to strangers. They will look back and forth, comparing the faces of strangers and mom and dad, and look at the faces of strangers for longer.
5~7 months
When a stranger is in front of you, the baby will appear more serious and nervous.
7 to 12 months
Some babies have strong emotional reactions such as crying and avoiding when they face strangers. At this time, the baby's "recognition of birth" reaches its peak.
Of course, each baby's reaction varies from person to person~ A Fang is just a reference for everyone~
will "stranger anxiety" disappear?
With the further development of the baby's brain, the emotional development begins to mature day by day, and they can gradually reduce the level of alertness to "unfamiliar". When
is a baby, you may cry to strangers; when you are 2 to 3 years old, you may squeeze and call people under the guidance of your parents; when you get older, you can face strangers more politely.
Of course, Afang has always emphasized that every baby is different. Mothers should not pay too much attention to whether "stranger anxiety" will disappear, because we adults also have social phobias, so of course babies will also have resistance to strangers.
However, we can still use a more euphemistic way to help babies overcome "unfamiliar anxiety". How does
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overcome "stranger anxiety"?
Some mothers may form a misunderstanding of thinking, believing that the baby is afraid of the unfamiliar environment because of lack of exerciseLian, so he often takes his sensitive baby to an adult who is strange to him.
A Fang looked at and shook his head.
Nowadays, some adults are very afraid of ghosts, can they not be afraid of ghosts by going to haunted houses, watching more ghost movies and "exercising"?
▲ Brother Pearl is afraid of the "stranger" sea
baby's "stranger anxiety" is the same reason. There are many sensitive babies at
. They cry more and are more clingy since they were born. They are born more easily insecure than other children. If parents force him to be in a strange environment in order to "exercise" him, it will only make him feel more insecure and cry harder.
So, how to correctly help the baby overcome "unfamiliar anxiety"?
step by step, don’t make it to the sky in one step.
Moms, if it’s convenient, can occasionally take the baby out for a walk when friends are gathering. They often see unfamiliar surroundings and don’t have to stay at home all day.
Now I heard that there are many parent-child restaurants in China, where there are amusement facilities for children from babies to children. Mothers can meet and chat in them, and babies can also take good care of them. Fang especially recommends mothers to try this kind of restaurant party~
Take your baby out more to stimulate various senses, which will effectively alleviate the unfamiliar anxiety in the future.
Slowly contact strangers
Sometimes guests come to visit at home. As the "little master", the baby must still interact with the guests.
But guests can't rush to the baby to ask for a hug. They can be separated from the baby a certain distance, wave the palm or toy, and watch the baby's reaction. If there is no resistance, approach slowly, start by touching the little hand, and test whether the baby will accept it.
Of course, if the baby is very resistant, then don't force it. This process of
may last for a few minutes or several days, depending on the baby's sensitivity.
Give your baby a sense of security
When a baby meets a stranger, he will cry, the main reason is because he has no sense of security. Where does the baby's sense of security come from? Of course it's mom and dad.
When a baby is crying because of an unfamiliar environment, mom and dad should accompany the baby in time, be patient, and not be too serious. If the baby can't accept the cuddle of a stranger, the mother can hold it, and let the stranger amuse it, just interact with it.
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Don’t label your baby
"Hey, my baby is a confession!"
"My baby is so stupid, I don't even know Aunt XX."
"This baby won't get autism when he grows up..."
"Why do other people's children laugh when they see people? My baby cries when they see people. Can he find a girlfriend in the future?"
Faced with the baby's recognition, some parents started to label as soon as they came up, and even excessive Anxiety, worry about the future of the baby.
But Afang said before, every baby is different, our own baby is unique, there is no need to compare it with "others’ children".
Afang really loves bubble tea. They are two unique little angels in my heart. Whether they recognize birth or cry, they are normal in my eyes. The behavior of
babies is constantly developing and gradual. What our mothers have to do is to patiently adapt to their development at each stage and give them timely help. Never ignore your children's feelings, don't humiliate them, label them because they are afraid, and don't force them to respond in a way that they dislike.
You must know that Afang was also a crying girl in kindergarten when she was a child, but now she is also a female boss who can take charge of the latex garden, often live chat with everyone, and lead the Saisha dream to grow bigger and stronger~
So, mother We really don't have to worry too much about the baby's "recognition"!
So, today’s sharing is over for Afang, let’s see you next time~
(Some pictures of the article are compiled from the Internet, if there is any infringement,Please contact to delete)
Other children are watching, how about Afang?
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