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In the process of raising boys, mothers should pay special attention to the following three points if they want to avoid detours.
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A mother who is a boy,
, must know how to separate
In recent years, there has been a new word called "Mambo man". Many young girls avoid "Mambo man" for fear. This kind of boy has everything. If you listen to your mother, everything is centered on your mother, and you lack your own opinions and discernment in your relationship and life.
has caused such a situation, mother has the responsibility that cannot shirk.
They take care of their children in every possible way. From what time of day to wake up, what to eat, what to wear, and what to do today, they choose for their children. The final result of
is that boys rely too much on their mothers. Some mothers are too strong, causing their children to grow up particularly immature. When the children grow up, various problems will arise. Which course to take, whether to go to class, and what to look for You can't pay attention to such work.
as a mother, no matter how much she loves her son, she must be pushed to grow up at the right time, especially for boys after 6 years old.
As Dr. Emerson Eglige wrote in "Raising a Boy": Boys cannot always be treated as little dolls, and boys cannot never be allowed to grow up. One day when he wakes up, he will become a boy instead of a little baby. When he wakes up another day, he will become a man instead of a boy.
A few days ago, a mother and her third-grade son had a "Don't Call Mom Treaty":
Language: Look up the dictionary yourself if you don't know, don't call "Mom"!
Mathematics: When you are done, check yourself, don't call "Mom"!
English: Use new words in a proper way, don't call "Mom"!
If you encounter difficulties, please try to solve it by yourself at the first time. Don't call "Mom" at the first time!
As a mother, sometimes you need such a "decision", not anxious to do something for the child, obliterate the child's learning process, believe in the child's ability, and give them affirmation and support.
Mom’s best gift to her son is not to protect him for the whole life, but to teach him independence and responsibility.
Because when he grows up, he is not only your child, but also your husband and father.
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To be a boy’s mother
must know how to behave like a baby
In "Youth Talk", a mother tells her son:
"No matter how knowledgeable you are, how many languages you can speak, it is not important, I hope you can be a Responsible and responsible pure men. If you do housework now, you will have a sense of responsibility, and in the future, you will be responsible for your family."
The cultivation of a sense of responsibility for boys is very important. How to train
? Start by letting him know that he cares about his parents and the people around him.
once attended a friend’s birthday party. After dinner, the table was filled with fruits, milk tea, and desserts. I said to my friend’s 8-year-old son: "Quickly, get a cup of milk tea for your mother!"
results The child touched this cup, touched the cup again, hesitated, everyone asked him what he was doing, the child replied very seriously:
"My mother has a cold, I want to drink hot! I touched them to see which cup The hottest!" The answer
warmed up to many adults present. My friend
probably didn't expect that his son would still be worried about the fact that he had a cold, so he was shocked and touched his son's head. She has been very uncomfortable because of a bad cold these days, and she can hardly hide her weak look in front of the child. What I didn't expect was that
became weaker, but his son grew up instead.
When your boy has his teeth and claws, and the oil and salt are not getting in, you might as well take the initiative to ask for his help and behave with him to let him know that his mother is not omnipotent, even a little weak, and he needs care and help. Understand the responsibility of being a man.
once received a very interesting message in the background:
will act like a baby, the best life.
Being a boy's mother, especially needs such a routine.
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When a boy’s mother
loves more patiently
I often hear boy’s mothers complain:
raises boys more trouble than girls;
raises daughters and raises sonFei mother; the daughter of
is a warm little jacket in winter, and the boy is the military coat of summer...The traits of
boys, such as naughty, naughty, unlimited energy and unruly, always make mother extremely tired.
Therefore, when raising boys, many mothers are more "violent" than raising girls. They are always unconsciously angry, nagging more often, and speaking louder.
In the same family, boys are generally beaten and scolded much more often than girls.
However, the boy didn't mean it.
The different performances of boys and girls are largely caused by differences in their physiological structure and brain development. The physical development of boys is later than that of girls, their intellectual development is also slightly slower, and their language skills in listening, speaking, reading, and writing are also lagging behind girls.
The non-cooperation shown by boys is almost forgivable. Many mothers ignore these characteristics of boys. They often use violent tempers to hurt boys, stop and scold them, and even use violence. Some children's nagging becomes more inappropriate. What's going on, the more you fight, the more you get skinned, and you will become extremely rebellious as you get older.
No matter how naughty boys are, they also long to be treated by their parents.
When a boy's mother, you must love to be more patient.
If he is energetic and can't sit still, take them out to walk, run, and release his energy;
if he is mischievous, please set up rules in advance, let him go if he is in principle;
I always can’t hear you like a okay person, walk over, squat down, look at the child’s eyes and say it seriously...
Spend more time and patience with boys in the past few years, and the subsequent education will be easy a lot of.
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