Text | Fortunately pregnant sister (senior maternal and child nurse, original is not easy, please do not plagiarize)
Although most families now only have one or two children, in our previous generation, almost every household has several children. Each child is treated differently at home, and his situation is different when he grows up.
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Case
Fortunately, pregnant sister's home neighbor Aunt Li's family has three children. The second child is a daughter and the third child is a son. Seeing that the three children are all grown up and each After getting married, Aunt Li should be able to enjoy her twilight years, but this is not the case.
It turned out that since Aunt Li had a young son, she gave all her love to the third child, often ignoring the feelings of the two daughters.
Sometimes, it is obvious that the son did something wrong, and Aunt Li also blames the boss for not being optimistic about the younger brother and counting all the mistakes on the daughter.
If things go on like this, the youngest has a very arrogant personality. He stretches out his hand to open his mouth when he is in his home clothes. Not only is he delicious and lazy, he also has no learning skills. He dropped out before graduation from junior high school.
The two daughters were very upbeat. They were admitted to university all the way and got a good job. They got married and settled in the city smoothly, and helped their brother build a big house in his hometown.
But the youngest is not up for it. He doesn't have a serious job even in his 20s. Some time ago, he said he would get married and asked the two sisters to support a sum of money as a gift.
In this way, with the help of his family, Aunt Li's son finally got married, but he is still restless, idle all day, and often does not go home.
Some time ago, I heard that Aunt Li’s child owed gambling debts and wanted to sell the house for repayment. The family didn’t even have a place to live, and they had to ask two sisters in the city for help.
Aunt Li yelled and committed evil, and said that she really didn't expect that the only son she held in her hand since she was young would be so unpromising when she grows up, but it has become a drag for the whole family.
But the fact is true. Often, whoever the parents favor the most, whoever is the least promising one.
The biggest "evil" of parents is to love a child too much
1, the favored child is easy to pet and proud
In a multi-child family, parents usually give the most part of their love to the youngest child, giving him endless love And indulge, and take it for granted. In addition to focusing on small things,
will directly ignore even if it makes a mistake, and even shift the responsibility to the big one, never paying attention to Dabao's feelings.
This kind of education will only make the favored children become selfish and selfish, pampered and arrogant, and enjoy the feeling of being valued. The purpose does not rest. After children like
are out of society, no one will pamper them as unconditionally as their parents. Not only is it difficult to become a big weapon, but it is also easy to get involved.
2. Children who are left out will be very sad.
When parents give all their love to one child, then other children will inevitably be left out, and their childhood is difficult to be happy.
If you don't have a happy childhood, you will feel very insecure in your heart, and you will easily become a child who lacks love when you grow up. Not only does you lack the ability to love someone, but your yearning for a better life will disappear.
Over time, they will feel that they are not doing well and are not worthy of the love of their parents, so they become sensitive and even inferior. They will easily miss opportunities in the society in the future, and they may lose their bright future.
Parents should love their children in this way
1, not eccentric, a bowl of water is flat
The eccentricity of parents not only easily makes the favored children become arrogant, but also becomes degenerate and incompetent when they grow up, but also makes the neglected children lack of childhood love , Inner self-esteem and cowardice.
In order to prevent this from happening, parents must have a bowl of water in their daily lives, and distribute their time, energy, money, and food and clothing evenly, so that every child can feel his father. Mom's full love.
2. Don’t be too harsh on Dabao. Although
is big and has the responsibility and obligation to take care of the small, but they are also children who have not grown up, and they also need the care and attention of their parents.Cherish.
Therefore, in daily life, no matter what happens, who is right and who is wrong, parents should not just criticize the boss, use "the big one should let the small one" to restrain Dabao's behavior, and we should uphold the principle of fairness and justice. Treat every child equally.
[Said fortunately pregnant]
Every child is his own body, palms and backs are the same, parents must treat them equally and give equal love.
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