"Although I follow my mother's surname, I will never let my child follow her mother's surname.

With the progress of the times, people's thinking has also changed. The traditional notion that men are superior to women is overthrown, and women are becoming more independent. Controversy also began to arise regarding the child's naming rights. Z1z

netizens once made remarks on the surname of the popular character papi-chan’s child, which caused huge controversy.

papi-chan is a representative figure of new women in the new era. Because of hilarious videos and bold remarks, it quickly became popular on the Internet and was loved by women. Papi sauce is different from ordinary women. She has unique views on outlook on life, values, and marriage. She has avant-garde thoughts, is independent and novel, and has won the support of many women. Therefore, she has been labeled as an "independent woman". For women with such advanced thinking, many people think that they should be more avant-garde in the issue of children's surnames. However, at this point, papi sauce has exceeded everyone's expectations. With her thinking ahead, she still followed the traditional concept, letting her child follow her father's surname.

Netizens talked a lot about this, mocking her for her collapse, but some people also expressed support. Among them, the loudest voice was a woman who had come over.

Because of family reasons, the woman has adopted her mother's surname since she was a child. She said that adopting her mother's surname is not as simple as everyone thinks, and the unspeakable concealment can only be understood by those who come here.

It is reported that the family of the woman lives on the side of her grandpa and grandmother. She wanted to pass it on with her grandpa, but she never thought that life is not as simple as a surname. Grandpa and grandmother also have their own grandchildren. Although they are of the same blood, there is always a certain gap between "grandchildren" and "grandchildren" in people's consciousness. This situation made her not favored by both parties, so she firmly stated: "Although I follow my mother's surname, I will never let my child follow the mother's surname in the future. It's really a shame!"

There is a certain degree of one-sidedness in opinions, but the troubles caused by violating traditional concepts are still inevitable. In life, there are many families with two children with their parents' names, but the troubles encountered in life are undeniable.

1. Affecting feelings

grew up in a family. Although they are born from the same root, but with different surnames, they can easily become a weapon when two children have conflicts. It is inevitable that the one with the father’s surname will ridicule the other, and declare sovereignty, calling the mother’s brother an "outsider". In this regard, the one with the mother’s surname will grow up "under the eaves", causing a psychological shadow. Conducive to growth.

2. Disturbance to children's lives

Although the new era has new ideas and the patriarchal society has been overthrown, traditional concepts will still affect people. The trouble caused by the child being given the mother's surname still exists. Many children will be questioned and misunderstood as single parents or stepfathers in life, which will cause unnecessary distress and affect their mental health.

3. Dad embarrassed

Although men and women are equal in the new era, it violates the laws of nature and allows children to follow their mother's surname, which will inevitably cause a psychological harm to father. In this popular society where children follow the mother's surname, it may cause embarrassment for the father in the future. Therefore, before letting the child follow the mother's surname, we must respect the opinions of the father and consider the feelings of the father.

Regardless of the child's surname, the most important thing is that parents have a bowl of water. Two children with different surnames should be treated together, and the children should not feel that there are differences in life due to different surnames. At the same time, it is necessary to tell the children the reasons why they are different from others, protect their hearts and mutual feelings, so that they can grow up physically and mentally.

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