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"Being a parent" is the most hard and unrequited job in the world. Parents rely solely on their passion and love for their children and their selfless dedication to their children. But enthusiasm will be exhausted and love will be worn down by life. There is a stage when parents suddenly discover that they don’t love their children and cannot get satisfaction and interest from the process of taking care of their children. Does this situation start to hate themselves? Where's the baby?
A word from my son feels that I have paid for nothing for so many years, and my heart is cool.
This is a narrative from a mother who was really hurt by her son today When it came time, my son’s words made me feel that I have spent the past few years in vain. Since the second child, my mind is indeed more inclined to my sister's side. Because my sister is small, he takes care of more and spends more money in life. Experience more.
But I am afraid that my son will be wronged, and I feel that mom and dad will not love themselves if they have a sister. I am also afraid that the relationship between the siblings is not good and the son will do anything to hurt his sister. Put the son first in everything, but the father is more in charge of the son's affairs.
This morning my son wanted to go to school without brushing his teeth. He was so aggressive that he would say "I don’t love my mom anymore. From now on, my dad will take care of me. I love my dad and my sister loves my mom. Enough ." His son’s words were like a basin of cold water poured out to the heart, and suddenly a kind of "You don’t love me, so well, I don’t love you , why have I paid so many years? , In order to take good care of you, you gave up your business, but in the end got such a result, I will go out to work when my sister gets older.”
Analysis:
The parents feel that they don’t love their children. This feeling of disgust does not come suddenly. It is because various things are mixed together, life is too busy, too messy, and too panic. This result is not a serious sin, maybe 80% 'S parents have had such emotions.
Like the above-mentioned mother, it may be because he was too busy and tired to take two children. From the moment he let go of his son’s affairs, he developed a feeling of "disgust" towards the child, but he did not find out, but the son’s The words became the last straw to overwhelm the camel, and I felt tired of my son.
These two manifestations indicate that parents are starting to become disgusted with their children
1: No longer caring about their children’s performance
parents They are all expected to be born into a dragon and hope that their daughter will become a phoenix. Especially mothers want their children to achieve academic achievement. Therefore, mothers are very concerned about their children’s academic performance, but after a lot of efforts, the children’s grades still have not improved. Mom begins to feel disheartened. If one day you find that you no longer pay attention to your child's academic performance, you may start to hate your child.
2: No longer restrain the child’s behavior
In the family, mothers are the verbose role, and mothers are often verbose because of restraining children’s behavior. For example, children don’t wash their feet, don’t brush their teeth, eat and chirp, etc., but one day the mother no longer cares about these trivial matters and no longer restricts the child’s behavior, it means that the mother is tired and begins to feel bored with these things. Up.
Why are parents bored with their children? How to deal with this emotion?
1: Life is stressful
When the child is old, the elderly is old, the burden of the family is all on the husband and wife, and they start to work for life, unintentionally caring about the child, when the child appears Mistakes, I start to feel disgusted again, and feel that the child is a burden.
Two: Family SpearShield
Family conflicts are indispensable. Whether it is between husband and wife or between parent and child, when conflict occurs between husband and wife, parents will also bring emotions to their children. There is conflict between parents and children. It will make parents feel disgusted with their children.
3: Mother's self-worth is lost
Many women give up their jobs and lives to take care of their families, and are slowly out of touch with society and working women There is a sharp contrast, and then the mother will have self-worth doubts, and start to think about whether it is worthwhile to do it, whether it would be better to live better without children.
Four: Being a parent is responsible for your child, but you must also learn to release the pressure
Being a parent has the responsibility of raising and educating the child, not because of you If you are in a bad mood today, you can vent it to your children, and you can't give up behaviors because of certain behaviors of your children, but parents must also learn to pressure, don't let the children break down without raising adults.
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