Fairy Tale King Zheng Yuanjie said: The meaning of mother is influence. The influence on the child is both congenital implantation and acquired penetration, and penetrates every cell in the child's body.
shows the power of subtle influence.
Looking at ancient and modern times, at home and abroad, from the tattooed mother-in-law to Edison's mother, the growth of every great person is inseparable from the wise guidance of the mother.
President of the United States George Washington once summed up the influence of his mother on himself: I owe everything to my mother. All my achievements in life are due to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her.
Therefore, the confidence of how far a child can go in his life comes from his mother’s education since childhood.
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The mother’s habits determine the child’s habits
In fact, from the time the child is an embryo, the mother’s behavior and habits are affecting the child’s growth.
Your eating habits affect your child's taste;
Your interest in life affects your child's life direction;
Your values affect your child's attitude towards the world;
Regarding the power of habits, Bacon said: Habit is a tenacious and huge force that can dominate life.
Mr. Cai Yuanpei, the former president of Peking University and a famous educator, once lamented when recalling his childhood: his mother taught his brothers that "it is better to get up early than to go to bed late", which benefited him throughout his life.
Mother taught them not to be greedy for a warm bed in winter and not to be greedy for the late sunset of the sun in summer. Stick to a good sleep schedule and overcome difficult lifestyle habits.
His mother’s teachings benefited this great educator throughout his life, and he cultivated a large number of outstanding talents at Peking University.
"The sea is shaken by wind and thunder, but there is no obstacle to reciting the strings. I have spent so much time cultivating peaches and plums. I am so lucky to meet Mr. Cai at this time." These lyrics once recorded the gratitude of teachers and students at Peking University to President Cai for taking charge of Peking University.
The famous litterateur Ba Jin said: The successful education of children starts with the cultivation of good habits.
There is a saying: habit dictates.
Developing good habits will help children embark on a healthy and bright life.
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The mother’s character affects the child’s character
Everyone often says that character determines destiny. However, it is easy to ignore that the formation of personality is formed subconsciously.
The German thinker Johann Wolfgang von Goethe once said: Genius is most easily cultivated in loneliness, and character is most easily formed in a storm.
When we talk about people's character, it is often easy to ignore the influence of the forces behind it.
Pang Zhongwang attracted attention due to his impressive achievements and extremely poor family background.
When people pay attention to his tenacity, sunshine, self-confidence, excellence, and no inferiority in his family background, they tend to ignore his mother who is disabled and has never attended school for a day.
He once wrote in his diary: Since suffering has chosen you, you can leave your back to suffering and your smile to the sunshine.
This rare determination is not possessed by most adults, but it appears in a 10-year-old child.
This has to make people look at the mother who accompanied him growing up.
This is a woman who suffered from severe spinal disease and had her legs amputated as a result. She never went to school for a day.
However, he has a tough character. When she learned that the minority was suffering from congenital heart disease , and everyone suggested giving up, she pushed her wheelchair and ignored some cold faces from her neighbors, just to raise money and save her child's life.
She did not "lie flat" due to her physical disability. In order to pay for her children's tuition, to subsidize her family, and to pay off her debts, she stayed up late at night to embroider, shouldering the responsibility of motherhood with her frail shoulders.
Everyone marveled at Pang Zhong's sunny-looking and smiling character, but little did they know that his thin, disabled mother never cried in front of her children. When facing her children, she always smiles and says: Whatever you face, just solve it.
In the interview, Pang Zhongwang said: My mother often said that people should look forward. My mother laughs every day, why should I feel uncomfortable?
One sentence tells the source of his happiness - mother.
This mother educates Xiao Zhongwang with a positive attitude, so that he can be so tenacious, confident and sunny.
As the 28th President of the United States Woodrow Wilson said: Character is a by-product that arises from the great process of completing daily tasks.
Teaching by words and deeds, spring breeze turns into rain. It is in days like this that mothers sow their children's character and harvest their destiny.
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The pattern of the mother determines the direction of the child's life.
As parents, we all hope that our children will "come to the officialdom without disaster".
However, the child's journey depends on the mother's vision and structure.
The famous American writer Mark Twain described mothers this way: On our mother's knees, we obtain our noblest, most sincere, and most lofty ideals.
As a child grows up, all his consciousness is influenced by his mother. A short-sighted mother cannot raise a child with a long-term vision; a narrow-minded mother cannot raise a child with a broad mind; a careless mother cannot raise a noble child.
In "A Dream of Red Mansions", the fates of Jia Baoyu and Jinling Twelve Hairpins foreshadow the ending of the Jia family, but there is only one person among them that makes people sigh, that is Jia Lan.
, the eldest grandson of the Jia family, changed his destiny by relying on his own efforts to gain fame after his family was confiscated.
This change of fate is closely related to the upbringing of his mother Li Wan.
Li Wan was born into a famous family. She was the legitimate eldest mistress of the Jia family. However, due to the early death of her husband, she was ignored in the Jia family.
But she was smart and did not settle for the soon-to-be-overthrown wealth and status. Instead, she chose to stay away from the bustling villa of Jia Mansion and moved to the simple and quiet Daoxiang Village , just so that her son Jialan would have a clean environment to grow up.
While the young men in Jia's family were all living a life of sensuality, wealth and debauchery, Li Wan taught Jia Lan to accept poverty, practice his body diligently, and deepen his knowledge, so that the young boy showed a composure that was inappropriate for his age.
Although a child cannot choose his own origin, the mother's pattern has a profound impact on the child's future direction.
There is a saying: A rich family is not as good as a good mother.
Mother not only brings the little life into this world, but also brings him to understand the world.
As the educator Homlinsky said: Every moment you see your children, you also see yourself; when you educate your children, you educate yourself and test your own personality.
Author: The Lost World.
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