Mirror
Some children around us are just boring gourds and don’t talk much outside. In fact, it’s not a big or small problem when they get home. Faced with this kind of child, many parents even think that the child is a bit well-behaved. But in fact, the child's performance deserves our attention.
If a child is born with this kind of introversion, it means that the child has acquired inferiority complex . This has a lot to do with the child's parents. There must be something wrong with the parents' educational philosophy or educational environment.
In daily life, we find that we often talk like this, which means that our children are not very confident. Parents should be careful and intervene quickly. Be careful that the children may already have a potential sense of inferiority. If children are not guided, their development throughout their lives will be affected.
The first sentence: Then give it to him
If our children say this when someone else takes away what they like, it means that the child has developed an inferiority complex in his heart.
Xiao Yang participated in a speech contest in school, but he and another classmate were barely selected in the primary selection. The other party actively fought for it, but Xiao Yang said very generously, "Give it to him." At first glance, it seemed that Xiao Yang was upright and upright, but in fact, it turned out that the little guy had lost confidence in himself, and he was acting apologetically to escape the difficulties he was about to face.
Actually, does Xiao Yang really want to give up? Maybe he was used to giving up. He gave up on himself from the bottom of his heart. He felt that this was the end of his life and there was no hope. This may have a lot to do with his parents' long-term suppression and disapproval of him.
However, this kind of inferiority complex is unacceptable. In the future, children will be confined to a small environment and will never be able to escape.
The second sentence: No, I can’t.
If you take your child to feel the body and experience something, and the child answers you with “I don’t dare, I can’t,” it means that the child really has no confidence in himself. They just feel in their own hearts that they are not good enough and dare not. This is the biggest disapproval of children for themselves.
This kind of subconscious lack of confidence often prevents children from having the courage to try any challenges and attacks.
In fact, the reason why children appear in this situation is often related to the wrong education methods of their parents.
They never encourage or praise their children. They only know how to blindly undermine their children's self-confidence and repeatedly bring up their children's shortcomings. Instead of paying attention to the child's strengths.
Now that we have discovered the mistakes in educating children, if you also have such a problem, correct it quickly. Don’t let our repeated mistakes hurt our children’s self-confidence throughout their lives. We must know that there is a direct relationship and connection between a person’s success and his self-confidence.
The above content is for reference only. Please proceed under the guidance of professionals. We are all novices on the road to parenting. How to take better care of our children? You can follow me and discuss things on the road to parenting with me. .
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