Some children are just the opposite. When they see others doing well but they cannot do well, they inevitably feel frustrated. So, as parents, how should we deal with children who are frustrated?

editor's words: Some children are born with strength, quick movements, and fast running; some children are clever and have strong hands-on ability; some children are well coordinated and dance beautifully... Some children are just the opposite. When they see others doing it but they can't do it well, they will inevitably feel frustrated.

So, as parents, how should we deal with children who are frustrated? Today’s article may give you some inspiration.

and so on! When a child encounters a setback, the first thing parents feel deeply is their own frustration! All the childhood experiences I had had came back overwhelmingly. We hope that the way we face setbacks can be used as a life experience to "guide" our children to make great strides forward.

wait! From the moment the umbilical cord is cut, your child is no longer your child. The setbacks parents have experienced should not become trauma to the next generation. We must endure it desperately and let our children become the masters of their own stories.

Companionship Method 1: Find the Source of Frustration

Children who long to make friends, because they cannot control the distance between them, physically collide with each other every day, and emotionally pull each other out of breath. No one played with him, and the child was crying out of breath. His mother walked over and hugged him deeply, but the body language of hugging was also a closed circle.

The child ran away and wanted to be alone, so just wait. "Keeping distance is also love!" The method of love cannot be reminded with words. There are thousands of forms of love, and the children are busy collecting them one by one.

are also frustrated by unsatisfied selfish desires: Which of them are caused by seeing "others have it but I don't"? Which is the “real desire within”? Even as adults, we often ask ourselves where does this frustration come from? Scarcity of material? Poor soul? But it is cruel to ask children to comply immediately and to persuade children to "give up" or "make another choice."

understands that every child is a "poor person" in material terms, but no child should give up his ambition to achieve good things because of such "poverty", not to mention that they are born with a rich spiritual outlook, and know the boundaries of "desire" and the motivation generated by "desire", which exist at the same time and do not conflict with each other.

Companionship method 2: The necessity of waiting

There is a child who has never spoken in class for several years. Relationships make children anxious and there are many moments when they are speechless. In class, he was an "uncooperative" student. Teachers with rich experience have observed that children may suffer from "social anxiety disorder" such as "selective mutism". What to do? Behavioral therapy? See a psychiatrist? Not necessarily. "The best way is to let us 'wait a moment.'"

In order to learn to "wait for children," a group of Portuguese teachers and parents organized a group called the "Little Turtle Project" to lead children to practice relaxation methods, such as imagining that the body is a balloon, inhaling and exhaling, imagining spitting out all the discomfort in the body, and then releasing it.

Companionship Method 3: The Necessity of Dialogue

Some children participate in piano competitions. In the competition, they watch the performances of others and themselves, and their piano skills are developed in this way. Some children refuse to participate in the competition, and form their own band at a young age. "I have my own world!" Children with two styles have their own joys and sorrows in their musical journey. When practicing the piano, frustration came because I was told the height of the skill and felt the height of the mountain. If I wanted to climb over, there would be all kinds of hardships.

Sometimes frustration appears because people "pursue something". maintains the dialogue between parents and children, and works with the children to sort out the context of pursuit. Only when frustration strikes can they have the strength to persevere.

Self-identity and the way home

In Beatrice Alemania's "Dear Glass Child", the glass child is transparent and clear like a thousand mirrors, reflecting the beauty of the world. However, she has a sensitive personality. When she is angry or sad, her nails or feet will have cracks, and she will be rejected by others. Until she stopped escaping and became herself, she became shining and bright again, not because of the scenery around her, but because she accepted her true and complete self.

If you understand the "imperfections" in yourself, you can understand that the "perfect child" around you will crack, break, and... not so beautiful. accompanies her to accept these moments, and they will eventually become the beautiful leaves of grass lining the picture book and the scenery of home.