"Our country has always had a family planning policy, but with the decline in the growth rate of newborns and population, the country has now fully liberalized the policy of second and even third children. But even with such a policy, many young parents are still unwilling to joi

"Our country has always had a policy of family planning , but with the decline in the growth rate of newborns and population, the country has now fully liberalized the policy of second and even third children.

But even with such a policy, many young parents are still unwilling to join the team of having children. In fact, it is human nature to have such an idea. After all, today is different from the past, and the cost of children's education and living costs are constantly increasing. For ordinary families, raising children One child is already the strength of the whole family, let alone two or three children?

But not everyone has such an idea. Some families who have the idea of ​​two or three children or have a good financial background have begun to respond to the country's call and have two children and three children. Some families are full of expectations and yearning for the arrival of a newborn, and they can be said to think about it day and night. But with the arrival of children, new family problems gradually arise. Especially for some mothers, they are already pregnant My heart is exhausted.

"I used to think about it day and night, but now I can't avoid fear." The words of the parents of the second child are heartbreaking.

The reason why I said this is that the author came to this realization after reading a mother's sharing. A mother of two children described her personal experience. The eldest daughter of is now 10 years old this year. In the eyes of this mother, her daughter was also her heart treasure and the little cotton-padded jacket that warmed her heart. But now I hate her more and more, My daughter ran away from home not long ago. Far from being anxious, I thought to myself that it would be great if she really lost her. If she really lost her, I wouldn't break down every day.

Seeing this mother’s thoughts, many netizens angrily scolded her as the biological mother of a girl, how could she have such irresponsible views. But after seeing the experience of this mother working day and night for her daughter, I can't help but feel sympathy. This mother said that she has two children at home. The eldest is 10 years old and the second is still young. Her husband’s job is also limited. Very busy, often away from home, usually raising two children by myself. Although my grandparents help during the day, I take care of the two children by myself at night. During this period, I have to help my eldest daughter with her homework.

Not only that, every time I cook for my children in the morning, I have to wake them up countless times to eat, and I have to remind them before going to school. In such a short time in the morning, I wanted to urge her more than 30 times so that my daughter could leave home and go to school on time without wasting time. if period When the second child wakes up, she still has to hold her second child to cook for her daughter. After taking care of the two children, she has to rush to work non-stop. Such day-to-day life has also made this mother physically and mentally exhausted, and she can no longer bear such pressure.

But even though I have given so selflessly and worked hard for my daughter, my daughter is still not sensible. I ran away from home after a quarrel with my grandfather a few days ago. I searched for him immediately, but strangely, I didn’t find him during the search. I was as flustered and anxious as I imagined, but I wished she would disappear and never come back. In the mother's heart, the existence of her daughter also became the cause of her collapse.

In addition, the mother also said that in addition to tutoring her daughter in her daily homework, she also accompanied her to dance practice and reading, sometimes until 12 o'clock in the middle of the night. Because her daughter was too procrastinating in doing things, she could only urge her endlessly every day, and she also had to educate and reason with her. This kind of life makes her collapse day by day, From the mother's self-report, we can also understand that she has done her best to educate her daughter, and she also tried her best to give her daughter the best life. However, she is unable to do anything at all, and a person's power is limited after all, so she will have a collapse mentality under multiple pressures.

It is not a bad thing for young parents to want to have a second child, but they should also act according to their ability and make a choice based on their own reality.

In fact, many families nowadays respond to the national policy to raise two or three children. This is not a bad thing.It can also alleviate the phenomenon of low birth rate to a certain extent. But before raising a second or third child, it is more important to make a decision based on your own actual situation. The first and most important thing is the financial aspect. If having a second child will bring huge financial pressure to your family, then do not make corresponding plans and plans.

Secondly, in terms of family division of labor, in fact, the reason why the mother above had such a collapsed mentality was because too much life pressure was placed on her alone. Although has help from parents, more needs to be borne by oneself, and the husband cannot help relieve the pressure because he has to take on the responsibility of supporting the family. This has also led to the fact that the child he once longed for has now become a burden to him, and he has such a mentality towards his daughter. Real-life events like

are also a good example for young families who plan to have a second or third child. Do not compromise due to impulse or other people's persuasion. As parents, we have the responsibility and obligation to provide the best conditions for our children, so we must carefully combine our own reality to determine whether we can shoulder the heavy responsibility of raising multiple children. This wise choice is the best.

Parents, as their children's first teachers, have the responsibility and obligation to help their children and establish correct behavioral norms.

In fact, the mother's personal experience above also exposed a reality that cannot be ignored, that is, the child is already 10 years old and fully capable of arranging his own daily life. But this little girl still needs her mother's urging and help to go to school on time, eat and do her homework every day. To a certain extent, it is a manifestation of lack of independence.

As the first teachers of their children, parents have the responsibility and obligation to help their children grow up gradually, but they must also learn to let go so that they can have the awareness to do their own things, which can also improve the independence of their children. On the road to educating children in , young parents still have a lot to learn. I hope that through the efforts of their parents, their children can grow into more independent and confident people. In this way, the parent-child relationship will be closer, why not?

[A message from the author] "I used to think about it day and night, but now I can't avoid fear." The words of the parents of the second child are heartbreaking. The parent-child relationship that should have been a close one should not have evolved into what it is today. Both the eldest and the second child should be the treasures of parents, not pressure and burden. I hope parents can find the right ways and methods to get along with their children, and build a harmonious and friendly family atmosphere with their children.

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