We are becoming more and more strict with "child safety" guidelines in life. For children, people take it for granted that anything sharper than a golf ball can be considered sharp.

We have become more and more strict with the "child safety" guidelines in life. For children, people take it for granted that any object that is sharper than a golf ball can be considered sharp.

When we round off all the corners and make all sharp objects disappear, we also cut our children off from the world around them. Despite our best intentions, children should ultimately learn to cope with a variety of circumstances and experience things independently within their capabilities.

Overprotection may be another kind of harm. Philip Larkin said: "They hurt you, your father and your mother. Although they didn't mean to, they did hurt you."

We want our children to be successful, have good academic performance, enter a famous university, have a good job... and of course, be happy. Parents today face many challenges. But are these worries, planning, preparations, and interventions really good for our children’s futures?

may not. As one dean of a well-known college said: "Children today are overly disciplined."

If you really want your children to be prepared for the future, you should let them experience more on their own. If you want to be able to face the challenges he will eventually face - just like we did - you should let go.

1. Adversity

What are our initial expectations for what our children will do in adversity? Do we want to see him looking around, waiting for help from others? Would we like to see him blaming others for causing trouble? Do we want him to lie? As the proverb goes, an olive tree won't get shorter just because you say it's "too tall."

In contrast, you should teach your children to climb trees. In the same way, if you always protect your children when they are in trouble, they will neither understand how to solve it next time nor why they should take responsibility. Why? Because they've never done it before. We will also miss the gift that adversity gives us: growth

Adversity makes the strong stronger. When children face adversity actively or passively, parents should tell them that adversity is not only a part of life, but also the way to make people stronger.

2. Criticism

We all hope that our children will become outstanding people, and we also hope that they will become happy people. Don’t forget, you also need to have confidence. Children who are not criticized cannot develop a high degree of self-confidence. On the contrary, they are often extremely conceited. They develop a need to be praised, and only praise defines their identity.

Therefore, they don’t know what they like, but become what others like. Children who are over-praised also lack motivation to improve because they do everything right. Unfortunately, this is not reality.

Not everything a child does is right. Although every child has unique talents, the role of parents should be to help them discover their talents rather than praise them for everything they do.

3. Hard work

Not too long ago, children had economic value. They had jobs: gardening or working in factories, which supported the family. But now, children have sentimental value because they make their parents happier. At the same time, we also want them to be happy. Naturally, they no longer have to work like we do. Parents earn money to support their families, so that their children can take piano lessons, attend summer camps, learn tennis, etc.

However, this is not reality. Children will one day become adults, work to support their families, and take on responsibilities. If you never encourage them to work hard to earn something, they won't realize the value of hard work. Why? Because they have never worked. In the process of being spoiled, they miss out on the valuable qualities that work can give them: responsibility, patience, self-confidence...

4. Frustration

Frustration is the root cause of a series of addictive behaviors and impulsive problems.People who don't handle frustration well will do anything they can to eliminate the feeling: drugs, alcohol, gambling, overeating... Frustration is a part of life. We can't get everything we want. But it's likely that every parent feels guilty that their child is experiencing frustration and wants to do something to relieve their frustration.

This is not right. Instead of teaching your children that setbacks are not the end of the world, you use your power to satisfy their desires. Setbacks, like adversity, are opportunities. It teaches us how to be patient, rational, strong, and not controlled by emotions.

5. Experience

Children always want to do many things that we don’t want them to do. They want to play with tools, build blocks, and take apart machines—they are adventurous by nature. Unfortunately, parents tend to resist these requests from most children. Parents ignore children's natural love of play, which is a necessary step for them to understand the world, develop skills, and increase self-confidence.

These experiences teach children how to create—not only do they create gadgets, but they also powerfully define themselves. Such children know what they want and what they are good at.

There are thousands of methods of education, but their purpose is similar - to make children become better people. For this purpose, let us protect them less!