I am 28 years old, my husband is 35 years old, and we have been married for 2 years. I have always wanted a child that belongs to us, and I usually have a good relationship with my husband, but I just never got it. My husband also knows how I feel about wanting to have a child, a

I am 28 years old and my husband is 35 years old. We have been married for 2 years. I have always wanted a child that belongs to us, and I usually have a good relationship with my husband, but I just never got it. My husband also knows how I feel about wanting to have a child, and he usually comforts me gently and tells me not to be impatient. Seeing how gentle my husband is, I sometimes feel that the two of us are actually pretty good.

My husband and I met on the train. Once, I was riding home and he was sitting opposite me. At first, I just thought this man was pretty good-looking, but later, I don’t know who suggested it first, so we started playing cards together. We played cards all the way, and sometimes he got the opponent's card. As long as I played the card, he would not play me. If we were on the same team, he would let me play first. Only when I really couldn't play, he would play the big card and let me fly.

I am a good person who also loves to play. Because of his check, I had a lot of fun playing. I thought we would go our separate ways after getting off the bus, but we met again when we took a taxi outside the station. He offered to carpool with me, and because I wanted to get off first, he enthusiastically helped me move my luggage out of the trunk, and let the driver drive away without asking me to pay the fare.

Because we left each other’s contact information when we were in the car, when he returned to the city after the year, he took the initiative to contact me and invited me to return to the city with him. I also had a crush on him at the time, so I agreed.

After we returned to the city from our hometown, he would come to me for dinner from time to time. Sometimes when he encountered problems at work, he would also tell me. I felt that this man was very sincere, so when he confessed his love, I readily agreed. On the surface, he is chasing me, but in fact, it makes sense to say that we are in love with each other. Everything after

came naturally. We traveled together and lived together. Finally, we got married under the witness of our relatives and friends.

After we got married, we were still as loving as when we were in love, but I was more and more eager to have a child of my own. I told my husband about this wish, and he let me "let everything take its course." But I'm still anxious. So in recent months, as long as my aunt is two days late, I can't help but take the pregnancy test stick to test. I also looked for various pregnancy tips online, but ended up disappointed every time.

My husband went to work a few days ago. I suddenly felt uncomfortable, my head hurt, and my legs were sore. When I tested the antigen , there were two lines!

I took a photo of the antigen results and sent them to my husband. He didn't react at first, probably because he didn't see it. About two hours later, my husband sent me two words - Got it?

I instantly understood that he didn’t like to watch short videos or anything like that, and we had never used antigen before. I bet he thought I was pregnant.

I suddenly became very playful and wanted to tease him. So I told him: "Yes, you are going to be a father, are you happy?"

I thought he would be very happy, but his reaction was beyond my expectation. He told me: This child came at the wrong time. There are viruses and everywhere now. The child is so fragile. If he is infected, I don’t know what serious consequences there will be. What if it is deformed?

When I saw him saying this, my heart skipped a beat. I told him that even if I was infected, if I managed to fight it off without taking medicine, the impact on the child would not be great.

Unexpectedly, he told me that he not only drank alcohol but also smoked cigarettes due to socializing some time ago. People say that drinking and smoking will cause the embryo to deteriorate and the child to be born will be unhealthy.

I told him that my best friend Xiaowei drank and smoked during pregnancy, but after the baby was born, her child was very smart, smart and cute.

Actually, when I said this, I felt a little uncomfortable. He had so many excuses, so he probably didn’t want children.

As expected, he told me that we had just gotten married and had little savings. If I got pregnant now, I would not be able to work and would have to stay at home to raise the baby.His salary is not high, which puts great financial pressure on the family.

He also told me that he did not want the elderly at home to help, and that we should raise our own children by ourselves. It would be too unfilial to ask the elderly to raise our children again!

If I don’t understand what he means by this point, then I’d be stupid. So I pretended to be joking and told him: Why are you so honest? That is an antigen test strip. The two bars mean that I am pregnant, not that I am pregnant.

God knows how I felt when I said this to him. He clearly knew that I wanted a child so much, and his attitude really disappointed me.

Actually, I probably know what he thinks. Without children, we would play unscrupulously. If we divorce in the future, we won't have so many entanglements because of children. But it makes me sad when I think about him refusing to have a child with me.

The little lady said, in fact, not having children is not a bad thing for you. You think that he doesn’t want children because he has multiple escape paths, but why can’t you do the same.

When two people are together, the most important thing is to be happy. If you feel that you are happy with him, then you should work hard on your marriage; if you feel that being with him is almost boring, and you happen to have no children now, it is not difficult to turn around. If you really have children in the future and find out that it is not suitable, then the cost of turning around will be much higher than now.

Therefore, couples should carefully consider the matter of having children, and should not just rely on temporary enthusiasm. Once you have a child, you must support him for a lifetime. If you just feel that you [should] have a child, but you don’t have enough ability and mentality to raise him, and you don’t have a suitable environment for him to grow up healthily, then it’s really better to wait and wait.