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Nowadays, most young people have to go to work. When their children are born, they will ask grandma to help take care of their children.
Relevant research data of the China Center for Aging Science shows that the proportion of elderly people participating in intergenerational care in my country is as high as 66.47%!
The elderly can take care of children so young people can go out to work without worries. After all, hiring a nanny is worried that the nanny will not take care of the child carefully, and grandparents or grandparents take care of the child are indeed the care of wholeheartedly.
When many young people get married, they are suppressed by mortgages because they buy houses, and they are not very financially prosperous.
The elderly can reduce the economic pressure when they come to work hard. Some elderly people pay and work hard . Some elderly people don’t have money, so they work hard. Of course, some elderly people don’t pay or work hard.
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Lili met such an old man. Lili's husband is the only child. She originally thought that her mother-in-law would come to take care of the child after giving birth. Who knew that her mother-in-law refused to help take care of the child? refused to help take care of the child, but she had to watch her grandson all day long, and often hang videos for Lili from time to time to watch her grandson.
However, although Lili is full-time at home, she is busy with and because she is a novice mother. So over time, Lili becomes a little impatient. Sometimes, even the phone calls come over as soon as just coaxes the child to bed.
Later, Lili simply changed her phone to and mute . She was too lazy to answer her mother-in-law's video, so her mother-in-law started to worry.
One day, my mother-in-law brought someone to the door and turned out to be surveillance at Lili's house. My mother-in-law said that she could watch it at any time when she wanted to see her grandson. At that time, Lili was sleeping with her child in the room and didn't care much about this matter.
But when Lili turned around, she told her best friend about this and asked her best friend: The mother-in-law asked to install surveillance at home, see if her grandson should agree?
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Best friends said that this mother-in-law was a bit too much . She didn't pay or work, but she still wanted to see the child every day. You said that you hire a nanny to install surveillance at home, mainly to monitor the nanny.
But the mother took care of the child herself, and the mother-in-law came to the door to install surveillance, as if she was peeking at the son's every move in . What do you think?
Lili also felt that what her best friend said made sense, so she unplugged with the monitoring power supply. As a result, the mother-in-law called her son and scolded Lili's wife, .
My mother-in-law said I have worked hard for for the rest of my life. Now I want to enjoy my happiness when I am old, but my waist is uncomfortable. How can I help you take care of your children?
Now I want to see my child install a surveillance camera, but I didn’t ask you to pay for it, and I even cut off my surveillance camera. Is there anything I can’t show it to me?
When I first got married, your dad's family was poor and there was only one room. He was still separated by a curtain in the middle of the house. He lived with your grandparents. He was not like this, but you are now spoiled!
Lili's husband quietly plugged in again. Later, Lili simply covered the camera with a black cloth. When she came back in the evening, the couple had a fight!
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been an eternal problem since ancient times . There are reasons for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
However, there are also some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who get along well, among which the mother-in-law is good at being a human being!
So we say that getting married depends not only on your husband, but also on your mother-in-law!
After getting married, if you meet these kinds of mother-in-law, it means you have "blessed"
Type 1: mother-in-law with a sense of boundary
mother-in-law with a sense of boundary , for example, when you go to your son and daughter-in-law's house, you have to call in advance, will knock on the door of your daughter-in-law when you enter the door of your daughter-in-law , and you will not actively interfere with your son and daughter-in-law's decisions.
If you help your son and daughter-in-law take care of the child, when the daughter-in-law educates the child, the mother-in-law can also do so that even if she does not support her, will not interfere.
The second type: mother-in-law who accepts opinions
Many times the reason why there is mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict is that after giving birth, the mother-in-law thinks that the child should be taken care of in this way and stick to his own opinions. Such elderly people are generally more stubborn.
For example, after , the child has to urinate after , the child has to squeeze his breasts, etc. , these are not scientific parenting methods, and will harm the child.
But if a mother-in-law can accept the opinions of his daughter-in-law, he will accept the opinions of scientific parenting from his daughter-in-law and will not take care of the children according to his old experience.
The third type: a mother-in-law who is not gossiping
Some small families will ask their mother-in-law to help take care of the children after giving birth, but after helping with the mother-in-law, she will go out to play in the community. If you gossip about some big and small things in the family with the aunts in the community, will make the son and daughter-in-law very embarrassed.
So if you encounter a mother-in-law who is not very gossipy and has a tight-lipped mouth, you will be blessed.
or above three types of mother-in-law are easy to get along well with their daughter-in-law and will not have too many conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
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