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The morning before yesterday, snowflakes suddenly floated in the gloomy sky. I looked through the window happily for a while, and before I could take a photo, the snow actually stopped!
When I was feeling regretful, my cousin suddenly called me and said "hello", and my happiness was beyond words. I thought she was sharing the joy of the first snow this winter with me, but she repeatedly expressed her gratitude to me, which made me wonder why, and what good thing I did?
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After chatting for a few words, I realized that during this period of online classes, my cousin stayed at home to accompany her son, a 6th grade child. Originally, the pressure from children who went to junior high school was quite high, but their grades had declined a while ago. My cousin thought that she could finally participate in her children's learning, but she actually performed more positively than the children.
Get up early every morning. After breakfast, you will move a stool and sit behind the child, listen to the class with him, remembering that the notes are clearer than the child; when you are resting, you will urge the child to complete the homework in time, preview and review the homework, help the child correct the homework and upload the homework; plus three meals a day, washing and housework, etc., you are so busy that you don’t touch the ground.
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I thought the child would be moved by her power of "role model", but I found that it was just touching myself. However, the child showed annoyance and even started to argue, confront, and hate learning with her for a while...
, but it made my cousin very sad.
was originally for the sake of the child's goodness, so that the child could study hard and improve every day; he was busy and backfired; he complained to his "pig teammates", and the child's father stood completely on the child's side and condemned his cousin for not being in charge of the child everywhere. Studying is always the child's own business, so why do you need to do something that can interfere with the affairs? It's thankless to work hard!
How come you don’t feel uncomfortable after listening to it?
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My cousin couldn't help but miss me. She was crying at the time and felt that during this online class, not only the children were going to be "destroyed", but also their own family was going to be "destroyed"!
In fact, I also think she doesn’t need to do this. Often, parents’ fear of their children is a manifestation of their lack of confidence and the result of parents’ inability to reconcile with themselves.
So, I mentioned her the "three no" principle of tutoring children at home, and suggested that she might as well give it a try first.
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1. Don’t be supervisor
All parents in the world want their children to learn with care and focus! However, in ancient and modern times, at home and abroad, how many children can truly study hard and focus on learning?
is just because of the child's nature. Where can I not like to play?
Therefore, the focus of children's study is not measured by parents and teachers as supervisors, but by children gradually formed through continuous exercise and experience during the long study process.
supervisor, as the name suggests, is a type of monitoring. Just imagine, who wants to be in a monitoring state anytime and anywhere? If you don’t want to be a child, if someone keeps supervising the workforce during the parents’ work, you won’t want to do it too!
does not act as a supervisor, and does not care about the child and let the child do whatever he wants. Instead, we must put forward our own requirements and hopes in a timely manner and encourage our children to learn in their own ways. We can help our children at any time, and even help them adjust their direction and solve their problems, but the requirements for the children themselves will not be too high and it is difficult to achieve.
so that children can gradually develop good learning habits.
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2. Don’t put pressure on
Recently, the rectification measures of training schools have been discussed online. This should be a powerful auxiliary to the double reduction policy, or an enhanced version.
Once upon a time, books and training classes became the whole of children's life; especially children who have to go through primary school and junior high school growth, are not old and have weak self-control. Parents see it in their eyes and are anxious in their hearts, and they cannot provide personal tutoring, so they have to place their hopes on the endless tutoring classes. Every year, "white money" is spent like flowing water. What about children's learning?
Good students are always the top of the pyramid. Not all children can jump up after experiencing blind pressure, some training and tutoring. However, the children on the top of the tower have already formed their own learning methods and do not need extra tutoring at all.
Therefore, parents should not blindly "pressurize" their children. Use the "cramming" method to turn their children into boring and depressing test-based machines. As a result, there are many children who have lost interest in learning, and the learning effect is naturally not good.
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3. Don’t visit the "battlefield"
Some time ago I read a joke saying that the temper of today’s parents is inversely proportional to the age of their children. In other words, the older the child, the better the parents' temper. When the child is in elementary school, parents are confident in tutoring homework and are disappointed; when the child goes to middle school, they gradually start to struggle; when the child arrives in high school, parents are left to do their logistics.
Think about it carefully, it is true.
In fact, this is a manifestation of incorrect practices by parents. Is the authority of parents reflected in tutoring homework? When a child encounters learning difficulties and does not understand homework, he should encourage him to think independently and in-depth research from an early age, and always think of his own method to solve the problem; then parents will discuss with their children whether the method is correct or not.
instead of being a parent, I went to the front line and was the first to explain to my children in detail and thoroughly. As a result, the child knew how to do this question, but he lost his ability to think. In the future, he relied on his parents to explain it everywhere. What should I do when I talk about middle school? What should I do when it comes to high school?
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So, parents don’t have to be too anxious during online classes. Children during online classes may also be relaxed in their learning attitude and their academic performance declined due to their at home; but there are always children who will emerge during online classes.
The difference between these two children is whether they have the ability to be self-disciplined.
How does the ability to self-discipline come about?
is about daily training, parents' moderate reminders and supervision, children's constraints on themselves, and parents' confidence in their children; but it is not about parents' supervision at all times, in front of others. #Winter Life Check-in Season#
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