Early in the morning, the mothers in the community gathered together and discussed the topic of living in the school in full swing. As a member of the mother, I am naturally very curious about everyone's opinions on their children's living in school.
There is a mother who is a "supporter" of living in the school. She thinks that if she lets her children live in the school early, she will be able to be independent sooner, and she will not be a "little princess" or "little prince" at home like now. In order to make his point of view more credible, the mother also used her relatives and children as an example.
The child of the relative mentioned by this mother is an elementary school student. She had poor self-care ability and relied on her parents for everything.
But when my parents sent him to the boarding primary school, everything changed.
Children not only learn to be independent, but also help their parents do some housework within their ability when they get home.
And some mothers are "opponents" of boarding system. They feel that children need their parents' care when they send their children to school at a young age. Children are prone to lack of love and are alienated from their parents.
After listening to everyone's hot discussion, I finally realized a rough idea. supports . The mothers who let their children live in school early mainly because they like the benefits of boarding system for children , which belongs to the "tiger mom" type.
, and opposes mothers who let their children live in school too early. Most of them are "loving mothers" types, and thinks that living in school too early will make children lack love.
Discussions between mothers are often "the husband speaks for the sake of the mother speaks for the sake of the mother speaks for the sake of the mother speaks for the sake of the mother speaks for the sake of the mother speaks for the sake of the mother." It is difficult to reach an agreement in the end. In fact, discussions about boarding have always been a hot topic in education.
Famous host Bai Yansong So he also expressed his own opinions on whether to send his children to live in school. Bai Yansong believes: "Even if you work hard with your wife, you will not send your child to school if you beat him to death."
Nowadays, parents are very "filmed" in their children's education. A few months old baby started to attend early education classes. The child who just learned to walk was sent to full-care class. The child was sent to boarding school as soon as he reached elementary school.
Parents attach great importance to their children's education, but children are not emotional machines. They can be sent to factories for construction when the right time.
Children are warm individuals and need to grow up under the nourishment of love. Parents let their children leave their homes too early and force their children to become independent and mature too early will cause great harm to their children.
Parents should not be complacent because their children have gone to boarding school and become capable, independent and mature.
Send your child to a boarding school too early, and the harm is beyond your imagination
※Influence children's social ability
Some parents may think that allowing children to integrate into collective life too early is helpful to cultivate children's social ability.
But in fact, those children who are sent to boarding schools too early will show more social disorders when interacting with others. Some children like
are difficult to cooperate with others, and they only like to be alone. Some people lack confidence and shrink when interacting with others.
Because the growth of a child is like the rooting and sprouting of a sapling, there are certain rules. When parents still need the warmth of their families, sending their children to campus will undoubtedly disrupt their normal growth steps.
Parents let their children develop their social attributes under the premise that their children's demand for love, the most primitive and basic needs, cannot be met. This practice will undoubtedly harm and encourage children to grow.
※Influence the relationship between parents and children
When the child was still young, for him, the best classroom was the family, and the best teacher was the parents.
However, some parents put the cart before the horse. In order to cultivate their children's independence and to make it easier for themselves, they sent their children to boarding schools too early and started their life as boarding students.
Premature living in school will not only affect the child, but also affect the parent-child relationship between the child and the parents. The impact of is often reflected in two more extreme ways.
After a child is sent to a boarding school from an early age, the relationship between and his parents will gradually become alienated . They will "hold revenge" , thinking that their parents are cruel to send themselves to school because they don't love them anymore.
The grievances suffered during the process of living in the school and the helpless moments experienced may deepen the "resentment" of children towards their parents.
The second type of children will lack love when they live in school. After returning home, will rely too much on their parents . They may always stick to their parents, and if their parents go out and are not at home for something, they will feel extremely insecure.
Their personality will also change, may become unreasonable, and even be stubborn about parents. These two types of parent-child relationships between a child and his parents after he lives on campus too early are exactly two extremes, both of which are unhealthy.
※Affects children's mental health
Some parents may think that children nowadays are like flowers in greenhouses. If they are sent to campus early, they can grow up early.
Although those students on campus seem to be independent on the surface and do not need their parents, their will have more or less problems with their mental health.
Because when the child is young, no matter how senior teachers are, they are not as good as their parents, and no matter how good the teaching environment is, they are not as good as their home.
Children who live in school too early generally lack love, and a childhood lacking love will have an impact on the child's life.
Some children who live in school will Premature puberty and premature love , transferring the need for parents' care to the opposite sex. Some children will be very inferior and lack self-confidence, thinking that they are abandoned by their parents and placed in the school.
Conclusion
No matter what the reason parents are considering sending their young children to boarding schools, please think twice before making a decision.
Because parents cannot just pursue the goal of keeping their children full and warm clothes, and don’t forget that children need not only food, food and clothing, but also warm love from parents.
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