Do you know that a thousand mothers who have confinement have a thousand reasons to cry every day. The baby is born and the mother and son are safe. It is logically a happy ending for reunion. The new mother should be full of joy and expectation for the future parent-child life.

Do you know that there are a thousand mothers who have confinement in their mothers every day who want to cry. The baby is born and the mother and son are safe. It is logically a happy ending for reunion. The new mother should be full of joy and expectation for the future parent-child life. How could she cry?

A well-known Maternal and Baby Network has conducted a survey on users in 32 cities across the country, including Beijing, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen. The results show that 53% of mothers have cried several times after giving birth, 35% of mothers have cried many times after giving birth, and only 9% of mothers have cried never after giving birth.

Regarding the emotions during confinement, 25% of mothers evaluated themselves as "failed", 45% of mothers evaluated themselves as 60 points, 28% of mothers evaluated themselves as 80 points, and 2% of mothers evaluated themselves as 100 points.

Speaking of postpartum, especially during the confinement period, many mothers feel unbearable to look back. The change in identity role, the rush when taking care of the baby, various customs and taboos, conflicts in parenting concepts, and tense family relationships, etc. all make mothers feel scared!

Why do women who are in confinement always have various reasons to cry

A new father complained to his friend: "Oh! My wife just gave birth to a baby and was in confinement at home, and my mother took care of her inside and outside. But somehow, she has a growing temper recently. Every day when I get home, I cry to me. This and that matter have made me feel overwhelmed!"

asked me to say that if they are all like the attitude of this dad, it would be strange if the new mom doesn't cry. Is this pretentious and unreasonable? Maybe you have forgotten that many women were optimistic/toddlers before giving birth to children, and they were far away from them.

Since giving birth, physical damage and mental anxiety have been hit by double blows: Hormonal changes in the body lead to emotional instability, frequent getting up at night to take care of the child, endless milk, endless diapers, and unsatisfied crying ... All of them make mothers want to cry inexplicably, want to find someone to talk and comfort to soothe the depression in their hearts.

This special time, if even the father is not considerate, support, or share the burden, and thinks that his wife is "all the matter", then the mothers will really only have to cry!

Many times, what can defeat mothers' inner defense is not the pain of giving birth or the hardship of raising a mother, but the incomprehension of the family, and the sadness of no one behind them!

"I didn't sit well in confinement, so I regret not being the first time." Confinement is a lifelong thing

Whenever I talk about confinement, a colleague of Guan Mom is very excited: "I didn't sit well in confinement, it is the last thing I regret in my life!"

Colleague was at home during the confinement period. Although she was taken care of by her mother-in-law, she didn't have to say that her body was suffering. During the day, relatives, friends, colleagues and other visits, she couldn't have a good rest. The child cried at night, and he was all in charge of food, drinking, defecation and urination... I don’t remember how many times I cried, which was very harmful to my body and mind. I was not bad about depression, but fortunately, I slowly adjusted.

Now the child is 1 and a half years old, but he has left behind "sewments" - Pelvic floor muscle relaxation , which brings great inconvenience to life. Because I didn’t understand at the time, I didn’t care about it and no one reminded me that I missed the best time to recover, and now I have a hard time to say! The experience of another friend of Guan Mom during her 1 month is even more upsetting. She originally hired an month old nanny , and all aspects were agreed upon. As a result, the child was only taken care of for 5 days after he was born. The confinement nanny had an accident in her hometown and she had to go back immediately. My friend was very passive and contacted many parties but couldn't find anyone suitable to take over. In the end, it was to take care of himself and leave the confinement period !

Many mothers around me who care about themselves will choose to go to the confinement center to spend this special (particularly bad) time. But some people also believe that the confinement center only takes care of one month, at most 42 days, with a sky-high price of tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands or even hundreds of thousands. Isn’t it too expensive?

can only say that everyone's situation and trade-offs are different, and they cannot be generalized. Choosing a confinement center is actually the same as finding a job or buying a house. Every stage of life, the decisions we make are what we think are correct . The final answer is only to know whether it is appropriate or not. What can

confinement center bring to us? Weighing the pros and cons, I care most about these 3

confinement centers have become popular in recent years, and have become a common choice for many young mothers and second-child mothers. Sadly speaking, when Guan Mom gave birth to a baby, she didn’t realize that she could go to the confinement center. At that time, it was rare to see a good-branded and trustworthy confinement club in our local area.

Nowadays, the confinement club provides a wide variety of services. From the perspective of mothers, these three things that should be paid the most attention to:

. There are dedicated people to take care of the baby 24 hours a day, equipped with a team of professional nanny and doctors. Moms can leave everything except breastfeeding. Leave professional things to professionals, and both babies and mothers can receive scientific and thoughtful care.

. month meal provides thousands of dishes, eat nearly 60 ingredients every day, and every meal is different. Most mothers care about this. More than one mother once said: she didn’t get fat even after eating 6 meals a day in the confinement center, but she gained ten pounds in one month after she went home! This is the difference.

. The first time I am a mother, I don’t know how to take care of the baby, the staff here will use professionalism and care to dispel all kinds of concerns for you. Someone will teach you how to comfort your baby crying, hiccups, , bathing, touching, early education, etc., and your father can also receive training at the same time.

In fact, no matter what level of confinement club, as long as the service in these three aspects can be done perfectly, it will be good, and it can minimize the burden and anxiety of mothers and their families.

Of course, going to a confinement center is not perfect, and in fact, many mothers' concerns are understandable. Choosing a confinement club actually has certain disadvantages, such as:

◇You can let go of anything in the confinement center, but you can’t do anything after you get home. Everything needs to be learned from scratch. Mom should be anxious and anxious.

◇And it is also "expensive". It is normal for first-tier cities to spend tens of thousands of yuan, and it is common for tens of thousands of yuan. This is a considerable amount for ordinary income families, and it always feels too luxurious and wasteful to spend it all at once.

◇The qualifications and quality of confinement centers on the market are uneven, and the professional level may be insufficient, the service does not match high consumption, and the centralized care of babies without meeting environmental sanitation may be at risk of infection.

So, if mothers want to choose a confinement center, they must be very clear and make a decision after comprehensive consideration and exploration.

written at the end

The actual situation of each family is different, and the way of confinement is also different. The confinement center is just one of the choices. Although the confinement club is good, its effect is short-lived. The biggest root cause is whether mothers can obtain sufficient understanding, support and help. If these can be obtained at home, it is not that important whether to go to the confinement center or not or not to invite a confinement nanny.