Because I was in the classroom of my parents, I met many mothers and established long-term contacts. Last night, it was already very late. When I was about to rest, I received another message from a mother who had been in touch for a long time.

The message of this mother is as follows:

"Hello, teacher, I have something to ask you again.

It's because I have two children, the younger one is over four years old, the older one is just in the first grade, and a little over six years old. I think I just want to ask, I really find it difficult to take care of for the kind of raising two children.

The older child is back, he has to do his homework, I need to manage him, but there are still young ones, If I take care of the older ones, I can't take care of the younger ones again. Because the younger ones are with his brother, he will definitely want to play with his brother. In short, if the two of them walk together, they will want to play with each other. However, if I go alone, it is impossible to be so ideal, so I really feel a headache about this.

and the younger ones, in fact, I no longer treat the eldest brother like before, which means that he will do his own school and how to study for him. I don't pay much attention to my second son. I still remember the last week , On Friday, the teacher assigned homework and came back to read books, but I forgot this. It was just that when the two children were together, I didn’t know how to manage them.

and there was also such control over time.

I have a lot of doubts. Teacher, do you think that for the boss, I should ask him how you should arrange your time every day, and what plans do you have? Or do I like my colleagues, and I set this schedule for him every day? Because I found that I helped my child do it well. After planning, this is the plan I gave him, and he will not think about what I want to do today. So, I really don’t know between the two. Should I make a schedule for him first, or let him make plans and fill in the schedule.

I don’t want to continue our traditional education. I always teach children and criticize children. I hope that through how to manage them, I can treat children without always being urging them, and I urge them to do this. I found that there is another problem, that is, If I arranged for the child, the problem now is that it is only six:30 after the child was huddled back after the night, and it will take half an hour to eat when he comes back. It is at the fastest time to eat, and it is 7:30. Then, just like today, he ate very early, but I have something to do, and then there is no way. It's just that I have to supervise and study with him, because I am the only one who takes two children, so after I finish my work, I let him play. When it's 9 o'clock, he has already let himself go and is already playing there, and he doesn't have that kind of idea. I want to learn how Yang is. So, I think it is very difficult to manage this time.

Because, my colleagues say that the main purpose of primary school is to cultivate good learning habits for him. I think that in the critical period of the first grade, the homework is not very difficult now, and then I have so much time to train and train. I really don’t want to miss this time because I really want to catch him. After all, I am also a teacher myself, and I know, I have taught some When the student arrived at junior high school, some students were obviously very smart, but they were unwilling to learn. They had no goals, or they didn't know how to manage themselves. What they were going to do, they didn't know how to review. So I just hope that my child, at least he could know how to manage his time. There was no need to really say that if I kicked him, he would just move.

before, I might have had some plans, and for the children, so I now want to be independent of the children. I don’t want him to always ask me to take care of this kind of exercise, or my family, so there are a series of questions. The main thing is to manage this time.

Then the second question I want to ask you is, how can I balance it with two children?

I don’t understand. Because of the second child, it’s time for him to learn. It’s a golden period of language for him. If I don’t train him well during this period, I will probably lose a lot. Let’s talk to me when you have time.

I will take the children tonight. I brought it up some time ago, and the two of them were really playing together and making fun together. I was really going crazy and crazy, and today I was a little disappointed. But I kept adjusting my own state, and I didn’t want to, just keep coaxing the children. Then I also hope that I could look at the problem more rationally and guide the children well. I just hope that I could see how to make the children regular and get used to having elderly people at home. But I don’t want to rely on the elderly because the education of the elderly is still lacking in a different generation. What should I say? It is better to ask for yourself than to ask for others. It is that I hope that my child will be better if I can control it myself and should not rely on anyone. Because anything can happen, I can only rely on myself, and then adjust it, do it well, and be more efficient. Although I know that it is limited to always thinking about how to work hard, I think there is only such a way in life. You must also find a way to do it. It is impossible that you are just waiting for the result, right?

After reading this mother's message, I thought a lot. If I were in her environment, busy working and working hard to raise two children, I would definitely encounter many difficulties and more troubles. The advice I gave her is three points:

first, the child’s father must participate in the education of children. If the child’s father is not proactive, the child’s mother must make clear requirements and start with the simplest participation. You must participate and you cannot be a manager using the excuse of being busy with work. A father can give an impact on his child that his mother cannot, which is conducive to the child's growth. Moreover, through actual participation, husbands can experience the hard work of their wives in their physical participation, which is also conducive to the harmony of husband and wife relationships, and is conducive to the formation of a good family atmosphere, which is of great help to the formation of children's healthy psychology.

The second suggestion is to determine the order between the big treasure and the second treasure in the family . Guide the Dabao to manage the second treasure, and the second treasure should listen to the Dabao. During the management process, Dabao will become proactive and learn a lot. In this way, my mother will save a lot of troubles in the lawsuit and will free up a lot of time. I have a friend who manages children this way. As a result, Dabao said to his mother with emotion: "Oh, my brother is disobedient. I really want to hit him! I finally know how sad and angry my mother was when she cares about me and I don't listen!" [covering her face] [covering her face] [covering her face]

The third suggestion is to not have such high requirements for children . When children were young, they were given more time to have free time to have fun, and they didn’t have to think about how to not lose at the starting line now. As long as you can develop the habit of reading and exercise every day, you can freely play at other times. More importantly, there are many things to pay attention to, not just learning knowledge. Children's healthy psychology, self-management ability, children's thinking ability, expressing and communicating ability, sense of responsibility, etc., are more important to some extent.

The fourth suggestion is that regarding Dabao’s time management, it is recommended that mothers and children discuss together, so that Dabao can take the initiative to think, and everyone will make a plan for together. Moms can ask questions that their children cannot see. Let’s discuss the part you can do it together, depending on what rewards you can give, what punishments you need to bear if you can’t do it. In this way, a time schedule will be formed. If the child actually participates in the formulation, he will be more proactive and motivated. And it can help him develop restraint. Over time, the child will have the ability to manage time.

has many parts, which looks easy, but you will encounter many obstacles when you practice it. But no matter how many obstacles we have to face and overcome them. In this process, many problems will become smaller and many small problems will become smaller. # Talk about the widowed parenting I saw# #Home with two treasures# #Workplace mother#

What good suggestions do you have to give to this mother? Everyone is welcome to express their opinions and share your valuable experience.[rose][rose][rose][laugh]