Recently, the topic of #Daughter was slow to eat for 40 minutes and her mother snatched the show-off# has sparked heated discussions among netizens. Some netizens showed off the same mother, some netizens said that they were the mother in the video "self", and some netizens said

Recently, the topic of #Daughter was slow to eat for 40 minutes and mother snatched the show-off# has sparked heated discussion among netizens.

Some netizens posted the same mother, some netizens said that they are the mother in the video "self", and some netizens said that this trick is useless for children...

The child's delay in dragging seems to have become one of the most headaches for contemporary parents. So what is the situation for a child to procrastinate? Why is it useless for parents to repeatedly urge them? Is there any way to improve these problems for children?

Today, Duomei will talk to you about the topic of children's procrastination.

Why do children like to procrastinate and drag

There is a reason behind anything. Only by figuring out the reason can we find the corresponding countermeasures. Children are procrastinating and procrastinating, which may be the following reasons:

1 Lack of the concept of time

Time is a relatively abstract concept for children. For children, they cannot tell how long these times are "immediate", "just", "hurry", and "within ten minutes", so everything they do is at their own pace, slowly.

2 Inadequate concentration. Children are prone to distracted

Children with insufficient concentration often cannot control their will. When facing things such as learning and doing homework, they will become distracted and distracted, and they are easily attracted by other things. For example, when a child is in a daze when doing his homework, he may still be thinking about the previous thing he is doing, but his mind has not been completely withdrawn.

3 The frontal lobe is not mature. The plan execution ability is poor.

The plan execution ability is determined by the frontal lobe area of ​​the brain. The frontal lobe is mainly responsible for rational judgment and behavioral self-control. It is the slowest brain area in the development of children's brain. Younger children have not yet developed the prefrontal cortex of the brain, and the brain's ability to be responsible for planning and control is not enough.

Take the child’s homework as an example. The child has a lot of homework, but he doesn’t know how to arrange his time reasonably and complete his homework efficiently. In this case, parents can help their children sort out how much time it takes for each homework, help their children make plans, which one to do first, and which one to do later, to be more planned and improve their children's efficiency in doing homework.

4 Parents over-taken over and urge

Some parents are too worried about their children's study, eating, etc., and they are tireless to urge their children to eat, urge their children to do their homework, tell them the importance of eating, learning, etc. As this continues, children will learn to rely on them and their enthusiasm for learning and eating will be greatly reduced.

often nagging children, which can easily cause children to get bored and rebellious, and sometimes they will deliberately act against each other.

4 methods to solve the problem of delay

1 Help children establish the concept of time

Parents can use some tools, such as hourglass, alarm clock . This method can help children understand time and establish a concept of time.

For children of younger age, they can use hourglass more, which will be more intuitive for children.

2 helps children improve their abilities

Some children's procrastination behavior is caused by insufficient abilities.

For example, children's slow clothes, slow writing, slow shoes, no way to hold chopsticks, and cannot twist towels properly are all caused by insufficient fine motor ability. Parents can practice the child's fine motor ability in a targeted manner. After the ability is improved, the child's movements will also have a qualitative leap, and the efficiency will be improved when doing things.

3 Give your children enough encouragement

Children do what they should accomplish in a limited time. Parents should patiently guide them and let their children find ways to solve the problem, rather than defeating the child on the side of the problem.

can turn the sentence pattern of "you hurry up" into a sentence pattern of "I hope" such as "I hope we can go out in 10 minutes so that we can catch up smoothly." When the child is well done, parents should also remember to encourage their children in time.

4 Cultivate children's concentration

Children's ability development is progressive layer by layer. Focus as the underlying ability. If it is not cultivated well, other abilities such as memory, imagination, logical thinking ability, etc. will be difficult to develop well. Children's concentration needs to be cultivated from an early age and can be improved through professional and systematic training.