took Zhenbao to play in the community square. She met a new friend and the two were having fun.
The sun is just right, the children run and jump and have a lot of fun.
Suddenly, a little boy came to the fitness equipment area. The children who had fun saw him from afar and ran away instantly.
I don’t know who shouted in a low voice, “The shrew’s son is here, run away!”
I saw the boy’s face suddenly became unnatural.
I later learned that "shy" is the name children call boys (Xiaoyang) mothers, and some adults also call Xiaoyang's mothers in private.
Xiaoyang's mother is famous for her stinginess. She is impatient and has a bad temper. She has quarrels with her neighbors from time to time, and she always has to take advantage of her, otherwise she will not be willing to let go and even go to other people's houses to cheat.
Naturally, Xiaoyang’s mother has a bad reputation in the community.
Forget it, Xiaoyang's mother couldn't stand her son suffering any grievances. Once, Xiaoyang was accidentally pushed by his friend while playing with him.
It was normal for children to fight and make a reconciliation soon. But Xiaoyang's mother couldn't stand her son being wronged. She rushed up angrily, pushed the child to the ground, and started to scold him, frightening the child.
Later, the children in the community didn’t dare to play with Xiaoyang anymore.
is a little further away from "Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Many children are told by their parents like this.
No friends are willing to play with Xiaoyang. Xiaoyang feels lonely and unhappy.
I felt it was a pity when I heard what Xiaoyang had happened. The child is right, the wrong one is his mother.
It is obvious that Xiaoyang's mother's anxious temper and her emotional management ability not only make her reputation badly, but also makes her son isolated by her friends.
Parents are the people closest to their children. Their emotional management ability not only affects themselves, but also affects their children's emotions.
If your parents are emotional, they will be kind in the first minute, but their face will change sharply the next minute, and they will be furious about a small matter. Living in such an environment, children are prone to nervousness.
Because he doesn't know when his parents will lose their temper.
If children are under tension and depression for a long time, their personalities will become cowardly and their whole body will become inferior. They will even become emotional and moody like their parents, making the children around them dare not approach them.
On the contrary, parents with strong emotional management skills convey a kind of peace and harmony to their children, without storms, but without panic.
In such a family atmosphere, the child is influenced by the eyes and has unknowingly developed a certain emotional management ability.
A while ago, Zhenbao's nose was scratched by a little girl in the class, leaving a scratch.
When picking Zhenbao that day after school, she took off her mask as soon as possible and asked me to look at her nose.
I naturally felt sorry for the child, but I calmed down and asked Zhenbao what was going on at that time.
According to Zhenbao, when doing exercise during class, a classmate in the class touched her, and her nose was like this.
touched it and the nose was scratched? I looked like I was scratching, not like I was touching.
At that time, I did not find the teacher as soon as possible, but learned about the situation, then took a photo and sent it to the teacher, and communicated with the teacher about the situation I had mastered, so that the teacher could investigate the truth of the matter.
The teacher investigated clearly in the afternoon. It was indeed a girl who accidentally scratched my Zhenbao. The child was unintentional, not intentional.
I believe that children are innocent and will not deliberately hurt others. So I chose to forgive, and this matter was over. Zhenbao was not affected much and should still go to school and have fun with his classmates.
Later, the child’s parents came to me, expressed their apology to us, and offered us some compensation.
I received her apology and felt that this was also a kind of comfort to us, so I just want to compensate.
I am glad that I was not impulsive at that time. When I heard the child say the child’s name, I angrily found the child or argued with the child’s parents.
When people are emotionally excited, what they say and do are often not controlled by reason.
Good at that moment, I managed my emotions without causing negative impact on my children.
Emotional management is a course that adults need to take.
Psychologist Li Qunfeng said that parents have poor emotional status, and their children's emotional status is also worrying; parents have low emotional control ability, so their children's emotional self-regulation ability will not be too high.
Parents are in a peaceful mood, the family atmosphere is warm and loving, which is more conducive to the healthy growth of children.
So, for yourself and for your children to grow up healthily, parents should learn to manage their emotions, so that they can educate healthy and positive children.
Encourage with your parents.
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