Before reading the book "Nonviolent Communication", I had never had a more appropriate understanding of nonviolent communication. Let respect, understanding, appreciation, gratitude, compassion and friendship, rather than selfishness, greed, hatred, prejudice, doubt and hostility

The chapter I want to share is the chapter "What blinds love". Before reading the book " Nonviolent Communication ", I have never had a relatively appropriate understanding of non-violent communication. After reading it, I realized that non-violent means to integrate love into life. Let respect, understanding, appreciation, gratitude, compassion and friendship, rather than selfishness, greed, hatred, prejudice, doubt and hostility, dominate life.

If the world today is ruthless, it is the ruthlessness of our lifestyle that causes it. Our transformation is closely related to the state of the world, and changing the way of communication is an important beginning for self-transformation. The book "Nonviolent Communication" explains to us from twelve aspects how to improve the quality of communication between us and others.

First of all, we must have love in our hearts and let love integrate into life. On this basis, we need to explore what exactly deceives our love. We need to find the results through daily observations and describe them clearly. To successfully communicate non-violently, we also need to establish a vocabulary to express feelings, so that communication can be smoother. Feelings stem from our own needs and we cannot sacrifice others to meet our needs.

Effective violent communication requires us to make a request with the help of a specific description. Sometimes listening is more powerful than language. Listening will heal people's physical and mental health, so it is particularly important to learn to listen. Integrating love into life not only means loving others, but also loving yourself. We fully express anger and use coercive forces to avoid harm. We do this to avoid harm, not to punish others. When we are in a low mood, we must understand our needs with our hearts, so that our hearts will gradually become peaceful and we will regain the enthusiasm of life. Nonviolent communication also requires us to learn to express gratitude.

After reading this book, I learned the importance of non-violent communication. Learning non-violent communication will benefit a lot in our future life and work. Perhaps it is because it reads faster and understands some of the contents lightly. But I believe that as the number of readings increases, I will definitely have a deeper feeling.