As the saying goes, "No matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education", so many parents will make a lot of material investment in their children's education.
. Some parents with poor financial conditions do not have the ability to give their children the best educational resources, so these parents often feel guilty and feel ashamed of their children.
But in fact, "can't be poor education" not only refers to Educational materials satisfying , but also "rich" in educational methods. If parents only have materials but not the correct way of education, that would be terrible.
A Zhu’s family conditions were not very good when she was a child.A Zhu’s parents were busy making money, so they had less education for A Zhu.
, and Azhu also in childhood, had not received much appreciation and value from her parents , and she was in a state of extreme lack of . When facing some things, she often felt very anxious and impatient, which is what we often call impatient.
Later, after growing up, getting married and having children, although the family's financial conditions improved a lot, Azhu's personality still did not change.
When educating children, they always look anxious and often make various requests for them. However, they do not give children time to learn, adapt or exercise, but they are eager to get educational results.
In this state, it is impossible for the child to give satisfactory results, so Azhu often criticizes the child for this, and she is very irritable, leaving a very bad impression on the child.
A Zhu's situation is actually a typical "poverty", and the negative impact of parents on their children is extremely terrible. Because parents who are "poor" are destined to not be able to raise excellent children, and they will also become "stumbling blocks" on their children's growth.
What impact will parents who are "poor" have on their children?
Impact 1: It will cause children to lose many opportunities for growth
Parents who are poor in their hearts are often conservative and backward in their thinking, so their ability to accept some new things is poor.
For example, the child is very interested in painting and wants to sign up for a painting interest class, but the parents think that they did not learn painting when they were young and were doing well, so they rejected the child's request.
. Parents with such thoughts are destined to erase all the opportunities for their children's growth, making their children mediocre.
[Tutu Daddy's Suggestions]: Parents should understand the principle of keeping pace with the times. The current society is completely different from the previous society. The times have improved a lot. The previous life experience is no longer suitable for the present.
Therefore, parents should know how to accept new concepts and adapt to the new environment, so that their thoughts can match the current social situation, understand and learn the latest educational concepts, and let their children seize the opportunities for growth, so that their children can grow well.
Effect 2: It will make children have a wrong view of money, only interests in their eyes
Parents who are poor in their hearts often have a worship of money. This is because parents who are poor will feel a great sense of lack, and this feeling will interfere with parents' correct understanding of money. It makes parents have a very fanatical pursuit of money and it is easy to form a habit of profit-oriented.
However, these parents often do not like to make money down-to-earth, but want to obtain money through some abnormal means. This may set a wrong example for the child, and make the child also have a wrong view of money, becoming a theory of money, and being too obsessed with money, and even making some mistakes because of money.
[Tutu Daddy's Suggestions]: There is nothing wrong with parents loving money, after all, money can bring a good living environment to their children.
However, as the saying goes, a gentleman loves money and gets it well. Parents should not be profit-oriented, but should make money down-to-earth and not take money too seriously. After all, no matter how much money is, it is just a purchasing power. There are many things that it cannot replace, including the healthy growth of children.
Impact 3: Make children like to be greedy for small gains
I saw an aunt in the supermarket before taking a child to the supermarket. When the aunt arrived at the tasting area, she called the child to eat it wildly. Originally, everyone tried it out for one serving, but the aunt and the child wanted to finish all the food in the tasting area. This is actually a typical mentality of taking advantage of , and it is also a feature that parents with poor hearts possess.
They put their pattern, literacy and even self-esteem behind for the sake of a little profit in front of them. Their children will become short-sighted under the influence of their parents and can only see the fur in front of them.
[Tutu Daddy's Suggestions]: Parents are virtuous, but it is wrong to take advantage of a small amount, which will seriously affect the development of children.
So, parents should pay attention to their behavior, at least not take advantage of their children, and do not let their children become petty.
Influence 4: Let children fall into the whirlpool of inferiority
Parents of poor parents have a killer weapon, which is to turn anything into something that may make children feel inferior.
For example, some parents often say to their children "It's not for you" and put a lot of what they do on their children, which makes the children feel deeply guilty, thus creating a strong sense of inferiority complex and becoming self-confidence. Sometimes they will have psychological disorders due to parents' excessive words, leading to emotional disorders or more serious problems.
[Tutu Dad's Suggestions]: Since as parents, you need to be responsible and have the awareness of being a parent. First of all, parents need to understand that the behavior of taking care of and educating their children is morally necessary, legally necessary, and is a reasonable matter.
So, parents should not "take credit" to their children anymore, nor should they always give their efforts to the name of parenting. This will only increase the psychological burden of their children and will not play any positive role.
Conclusion
Overall, the biggest impact of parents who are poor on their children is that they will make their children feel extremely lacking. Whether materially or spiritually, the children will feel deeply powerless, and gradually breed many bad habits, wrong concepts, etc. Therefore, parents should pay attention to avoid being poor and become qualified parents.
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