The toad in "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychological Doctor" is the person who is influenced by his parents' words and deeds.
Toad was born in a wealthy family. His grandfather founded the family brewing business. After his father became the head of the family, he took over the business. He lived in a big villa and drove an sports car .
However, the toad's childhood is cold.
My father is strict, he is rarely warm to toads, and is used to criticizing and criticizing. The most common thing he says is:
"Theophilus, how many times do I want me to tell you? Don't do this!"
"Go back to your room. I didn't think about how to apologize, and I'm not allowed to go downstairs!"
Toad will never meet the high requirements of his father.
Mother is quiet and obeys her husband's orders. She cares very much about her father's evaluation and always looks at her face, for fear that her husband will be dissatisfied. In order to avoid making her husband unhappy, she followed his strict parenting view, often deliberately put away her mother's side and rarely hugged her.
But the mother likes to treat toads as a baby, always calls him "Little Theo" in front of other boys, and even asks him in front of friends if he has worn clean underwear.
Because of the father's indifference and strictness, the mother's neglect made the toad unhappy.
He disguised himself as a hippie, made people around him happy, and stole other people's cars. Finally, he suffered from depression , and his whole body became sloppy, his eyes were dull, and his life was messy. The example of a toad is not an isolated case. In life, many of us unconsciously become parents like Mr. Toad.
Children are a blank piece of paper, every word and action, deeply influenced by parents.
When parents are kind, love their children unconditionally from the heart, accept and face all their emotions and feelings, we can further understand their children and establish a deep parent-child relationship with them. This kind of relationship is the greatest confidence for children to be happy.
As a parent, if I want to abandon me as a parent, the child must listen to my ideas, treat the child as an independent individual, allow his difference, go to the child with love, and accompany the child to grow up together.
Writer Feng Chen once said: "The so-called parent-child relationship is just a mutual nourishment. I originally thought I had given everything for you, but in the end I realized that I also fulfilled myself."
What parents give to their children, the children will give to others.
Every word and action of parents will be projected on their children, affecting their handling of external things.
If you want to raise a good child, parents need to pay attention to their words and deeds, treat their children with love and patience, truly establish a warm and touching companionship relationship with their children, and grow up happily together!
May every child be treated with gentleness and live a happy life.
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