What is it like to have a crying child at home? When it comes to crying children, my first reaction is: headache. Facing the frequent and continuous crying of children, even the most patient parents will be upset. Wan's mother always thought that she had a crying and hard to serv

What is it like to have a crying baby at home? When it comes to crying children, my first reaction is: headache. Facing the frequent and continuous crying of children, even the most patient parents will be upset.

Dong Mom always thought that she had a crying and hard to serve, but after her cousin's nephew was born, she realized that she had seen a big witch. My nephew is 3 years old and is really crying. When I was a child, I cried while lying, sitting while crying, holding while shaking. Finally, I fell asleep with exhaustion from crying. I just let it go and cried again, which made the whole family very collapse.

I thought it would be better if it was bigger, but who knew it became even worse! It is especially difficult to deal with when eating. You have to eat noodles when cooking and dumplings when cooking. It’s endless. It’s rare for a family to have a good meal. But what’s so angry is that the child cries loudly, and the neighbors knock on the door several times, saying that it affects others' rest, but it makes the family very troubled!

My sister-in-law has discussed the issue of children with me, and has read many related parenting books. She found that the general view is that: The reason why children cry is because their needs are not met . In addition, in addition to the reasons for personality, it also has a lot to do with the parents' attitude.

When faces children crying, what method will you take to deal with

Crying is an innate instinct of children. When babies are born, they will cry, which means they can breathe independently and survive. After that, crying is used to express needs, such as having to eat milk when you are hungry, having to coax you when you sleep, and having to take care of you when you are uncomfortable.

But when the child grows up, crying may become a means to gain attention, coerce parents to meet their requirements, and avoid being punished for making mistakes, etc. Over time, children will become dependent on crying. How do you deal with the crying children? Usually there are only three ways:

◆The family members choose to give in and comfort, and meet or meet the child's requirements in a conditional manner.

◆The second parents have become "immunized" to this. When the child is tired of crying or finds that crying does not work, they will stop by themselves.

◆The three parents will be very annoyed by their children's disobedience and ignorance, and they cannot rule out the use of yelling or even beating to stop crying.

Obviously, the latter two methods are not recommended by , especially the last one. Although strong blockage can achieve obvious results in a short period of time, in the long run, it is not conducive to the physical and mental health of children and the development of a good personality, and is more likely to arouse children's resistance to stress.

So, if your child loves to cry, don’t blame or yell. You toughly stop him from crying, but you did not relieve his emotions and could not see his needs. After such a long time, will subconsciously hold back due to inertia and fear when they want to cry.

When faced with crying children, parents' handling methods will lead to a big gap in their children's personality

Parenting experts believe that in the face of crying children, children who are comforted and forced to cry will have completely different results in the future. When they grow up, there will be a significant gap between in terms of personality and psychology.

• Happiness Index

Children who loved to cry when they were young often value their needs and ideas. They will express themselves in crying to seek responses from others and try every means to achieve their goals. Therefore, such children generally do not feel too wronged and their happiness index will not be too low.

Children who do not cry or hold back from crying may become emotionally restrained when they grow up. He may not pay too much attention to his inner needs, often care about other people's views and feelings, and is more strict with himself, and even thinks that he "does not deserve happiness at all."

• emotional management ability

Children who have been satisfied and comforted by their parents since childhood will not suppress their emotions. Joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness are completely at will. Perhaps it comes quickly and goes quickly. It can also be well relieved and released when encountering bad emotions.

Children who don’t cry or hold back their tears are used to suppress their emotions and when they encounter sad things, they are still very calm on the surface, but only they can experience the pain in their hearts. Long-term depression may lead to emotional out of control and easy collapse, or psychological problems.

• empathy ability

also mentioned earlier that my second baby is a crying baby and often crying for small things, but fortunately it does not affect his emotional intelligence development. He is usually considerate and sensible, and is a "little warm man". Children with more sensitive emotional needs often have strong empathy, know how to consider other people's feelings, and are more likely to make friends.

Children who do not cry or hold back their tears are also indifferent to the emotional changes of others due to their own depression. Therefore, it often gives people a feeling of being indifferent and difficult to get along with, which will become the biggest obstacle to his future social interaction.

• psychiatric defense

crying is an expression of emotion. Children who love crying are easy to open their hearts to others and are easy to receive comfort and help from the people around them. This allows him to relieve the pressure in a timely manner when facing difficulties and setbacks, and solve it flexible and elastically.

Children who do not cry do not express their emotions easily, wrap themselves tightly, and lick their wounds alone. However, too much psychological defense line will easily break the defense and even give up when encountering problems.

has a crying baby, so the opening method is correct

does not cry for no reason. When facing a crying child, we should remember one thing: is worse than being loose than being blocked, and it is better to quot than being loose. It is recommended that parents use emotional guidance method to solve the problem in five steps :

. Give your child a "vaccine" in advance

For example, tell your child: Don't make noise when watching a movie; sit on your own dining table and chairs for dinner, and don't eat and play; eat cleanly, and don't throw it on the ground... Let the child have a clear idea before engaging in a certain activity so that he will not cry and make a fuss when there is a conflict.

. Observe the needs of children and make judgments

Behind the crying of children is the needs. We should pay more attention and observe in daily life and discover the needs of children in a timely manner. But after understanding it, don’t be satisfied immediately, but guide him to express his needs and focus on solving problems rather than just venting his emotions.

• . Squat down and listen to your child’s thoughts

  After guiding the child to express his thoughts, parents might as well do one more action, that is, squat down and look at the child and listen to his expression. When a child feels that he is being paid attention to and recognized, his emotions will slowly calm down.

. Let the child try to solve problems by himself

When facing challenges, we should tell the child how to do it, and more importantly, guide him to act. For example, if a child hits someone, we tell him that this is not a way to make friends. You can try saying hello to the other party, shaking hands, or exchanging toys to play with them.

When a child cries, he should express his understanding of his emotions: You look very angry now, I understand you very much, I can help you, can you tell me? When encouraged, understood and respected, children will slowly complete emotional transformation during the expression process, see their emotions more clearly and understand how to express their feelings better.

Conclusion

Children's crying is an appearance. Parents should see their children's real needs from their children's behavior, teach them to express their emotions reasonably and manage their emotions well. This is the fundamental. Only by installing a "valve" in a child's emotions can he face various challenges in life more calmly in the future!

Follow the health manager/family education instructor [Wanjia Mom] to raise children scientifically and raise children wisely.