I am a second-child mother, Dabao is in the sixth grade, and the second-child is two years old. People say that Chinese parents are the most anxious parents in the world. I have a deep understanding because I am also a member of the vast and anxious army. The academic anxiety of

I am a second-child mother, Dabao is in the sixth grade, and the second-child is two years old.

People say that Chinese parents are the most anxious parents in the world. I have a deep understanding because I am also a member of the vast and anxious army.

The academic anxiety of children entering junior high school, the confusion of rebelliousness during adolescence, and the problems of parenting in the growth period of young children are all straws that make me crazy and collapse.

My big baby has been the kind of "other people's children" since he was a child. He has a good personality and is serious and proactive in his studies.

Dabao's fifth grade first semester, we found that she began to lie without changing her face.

This discovery shocked us. The child's father was particularly angry. He was heartbroken and did not understand why this situation happened under the strict tutoring, until I encountered this book.

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It turns out that the child’s lying comes from his own defense mechanism. The child knows that if he tells his parents the real situation, and the negation, accusation, or even beating, he would rather use lies to exchange for a moment of peace at the moment.

is indeed the case. When we recall the first time a child lies, our reaction is to conduct moral criticism education with anger and condescending attitude.

We do not investigate the root cause of the problem. When encountering problems, we just blindly deny and suppress them. The child first feels wronged psychologically, and then the emotions of resistance and escape will follow one after another.

In the eyes of the author, Teacher Li Xinyi, every child is an angel.

The so-called "problem children" are not problem children in the true sense. The manifestation of children's life behavior is related to the strength of life energy.

The difference in strength of life energy is manifested in two different life states. The two life states have their own advantages and disadvantages, and there is no distinction between praise and criticism.

Parents do not know the child’s life status and blindly discipline them will be counterproductive.

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The behavior of children with strong life energy is full of energy, naughty and active, and they can't stop from morning to night. Many parents easily make judgments for them: if they lack concentration and do not listen to the teachings, they will definitely not be attentive in their studies in the future. So, a "bad boy" was born. The parents tried every means to suppress him and forced him to calm down.

The more children are denied, the more they suppress, the more problems the children present, and the more serious psychological problems they encounter.

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Children with weak life energy are introvert, timid, nervous, and fragile inside. Some children are also weak and sickly.

The weak and timid children arouse their parents' desire to protect themselves.

The problem is coming again, excessive care and care make children more dependent on their parents.

Under the parents' burden, children's autonomy and self-confidence will not be cultivated, but will lose their basic ability to live.

When children are young, parents can tolerate them. As children grow up day by day, their patience gradually disappears. They can’t do this and can’t do it well.

The child is used to the care and taking over by his elders. Now that he is accused of accusations, he feels wronged. He blames his elders for interfering in his affairs, and on the other hand, he does not dare to leave his parents' protection. Over time, the repressed emotions accumulate more and more, and mental problems are about to break out.

All parents in the world think that they love their children.

But, ask yourself, do you really understand your child? Do you understand the psychological reasons behind children’s various behaviors?

"Let Love Go Home" reveals to us the truth behind good kids and bad kids is the strength of life energy. So what are the factors that lead to the strength of life energy? Can we really create the life we ​​hope for?

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