No matter what the reason, when you say this sentence, it only has one meaning, which is to express our anger. In addition, it also shows that every time we have told us has no effect. So have we ever reflected on why children are not obedient? Why just eat without washing your hands? What is their purpose in doing this?
The child got attention
The mother got angry because of this incident. Because of this, the mother noticed the child and the child got attention. If the child is obedient, washes his hands before eating, and packs up his toys, he will not get any attention. Doing this can at least let the mother see herself, and doing this can at least let the mother not look at her phone. Therefore, being obedient is simply a stupid idea.
Use behavior, don't preach
If we want to change the behavior of children, use behavior, not language.
is not endless preaching. If you teach too much, the child will soon become "mother-deaf" and they will be immune to the mother's nagging
In conflict, the child is unwilling to listen, and the child cannot teach the child in words during the conflict, because at this time he cannot listen. Even if the child says nothing, he is still using actions and attitude to show confrontation.
We need to express ourselves by actions, make rules in advance, respect the rules, and respect the children's choices. Respect your child to choose not to follow the rules. It is useless to reason. Don’t use punishment. We need to calmly tell the consequences of not following the rules, and then insist on restraining our anger. restrain, restrain, restrain
For example: Make rules for washing hands before meals with your child and the consequences of violating them.
. If you don’t wash your hands, then I will choose not to eat with you. "Clean away the food, and the food is only provided to those who have washed their hands; the second time, when the children do not wash their hands, there is no need to nag, just act and stick to the rules gently. In this way, mothers will not be dizzy by their children, and children will not use not to wash their hands to achieve their goals.
For example, if a child is picky about food and does not eat, we set rules in advance, and say what he wants to eat in advance. If you give your advice after the meal is ready, two options are: Eat honestly or not, and you can’t eat anything before the next meal. Firmly adhere to the rules and enforce the rules. No rules can lead to a circle,
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