A newly renovated house at a friend’s house. Just six months after ventilation, my friend was about to move into the new house with his family, but my husband disagreed. The reason is that the second child in the family is now three weeks old and likes to paint everywhere. My husband doesn’t want the walls of his new home to be messed up by the second child, so he wants to wait and move.
Drawing is actually a human instinct. The reason why the second child did not show up before the age of three is that the child's grasping ability has not yet developed well, and the other is that under the care of his parents, he has no chance to get pens and other drawings. As a special "language" for children, painting is very important for children. It has internal logic and expression, and is a very important channel for us to understand children's hearts.
Italian psychologist and educator Evi Croty's "Children's Fear Psychology" leads us to understand their inner fear by observing children's graffiti. He said: If children want to grow up healthily and happily, parents need to learn to distinguish the normal fears related to children's growth, neither underestimate nor overly anxious.
The role of children's fear and emotions
Fear and emotions are a kind of human protection mechanism, and its history is as long as human history. Fear can protect the human body from potential dangers in nature and is one of the necessary factors for survival.
When babies are born, they will naturally have some fear behaviors because of their unfamiliarity with the surrounding environment. The baby's shock is a manifestation of fear. They come out of their mother's compact uterus and show concerns about the outside world that cannot be touched. When babies grow to six months old, they feel calm about people who take care of themselves, but they feel fear of strangers because they worry that unfamiliar people will cause harm to themselves. As they grow slowly, old fears will be overcome slowly by them, but new fears will also increase slowly. These are the meaningful fears that children must experience during their growth.
To summarize the effects of fear include: self-protection, survival needs, preparing for dangers, increasing vigilance and developing their resilience.
How to identify children's horror emotions through graffiti
When every child experiences horror emotions, some emotions will be overcome, and some may cause trouble to the children if they are not guided correctly, so it becomes important to identify children's horror emotions.
When children are graffitiing or painting, they will convey a lot of information, so they can understand children's horror emotions from their grip posture, space, starting point, lines, strength, shape and illustrations. If the child holds a pen in a nervous way, it means the child is under a certain fear. Whether children are confident or hesitant in the process of drawing can be identified through lines. The lines are full of confidence, which shows that the child is full of security and confidence in his heart. If the lines are hesitant, it means that the child is not safe. Children’s lack of strength in writing or frequent corrections are a manifestation of their lack of self-confidence.
By carefully observing the performance of children's details during graffiti, you can roughly understand the current emotions of children.
What should parents do
As the closest and most trustworthy person for children, parents' understanding of children's fear psychology plays a very important role in the healthy development of children.
When children grow up, parents should not be too strict in their education, because strictness will make children feel guilty, which will make them feel fear and tend to punish themselves. In life, we often see some elementary school students in the first grade who habitually wipe their homework repeatedly when they first learn to write pinyin and Chinese characters, and always feel that they are not writing well enough.This is actually a manifestation of their fear. They are afraid of not meeting the teacher's requirements or their parents' requirements, so they try repeatedly. Doing so will only reduce children's sense of self-worth and their self-esteem level. After parents understand children's fear and what behaviors may cause children to fear, they will avoid causing fear to their children in their lives.
Parents should not underestimate children's fear, give children enough sense of security, let them feel the love and need from their parents, avoid threats, intimidation and punishment of children, and maintain a tolerant attitude towards their children as much as possible and respect their feelings.
Graffiti As a non-verbal message, it can convey a lot of information about children's hearts to parents. Sometimes the information conveyed by this non-verbal information is more realistic and reliable than that conveyed by language. As parents, you can encourage your children to do graffiti and learn more about their inner activities in this way.
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