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Recently, a birthday cake from was given to her mother on #span Weibo The topic of "textbook#" rushed to the hot search and was hotly discussed by netizens.
In the video, a boy from Baoding, Hebei, received a surprise cake from his mother on his birthday.
The cake is decorated with textbooks of various subjects, and it also reads:
"The earth will not be destroyed in a day, you have to do your homework."
Look like.
Netizens talked a lot, and they awakened everyone with one word:
"The bad taste of adults is not fun at all."
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! The child was already overwhelmed by school work.
For birthdays that only happen once a year, parents still spoof, asking for the child's psychological shadow area?
may be fun in the eyes of parents;
and the child’s world is very small,With simple and sensitive hearts, they will be serious, sad, and even desperate.
education expert Yin Jianli said:
"To tease a child is an adult condescending to take advantage of the child’s naivety, deliberately to make the child make mistakes, cry and be afraid. Amusing adults to be happy brings humiliation, worry and loss to children."
Parents’ nasty fun is not to make children happy, but to make fun of children and make themselves happy. How much does it hurt children?
The kid who is being teased is hurt more than you think
A netizen once complained about being teased when he was a child.
Because her mother is a nurse, she often plays in the hospital.
And my mother's colleagues, a group of nurses and aunts especially like to tease her.
Because she has been cute since she was a child, those nurses and aunts passing by her would pull or fiddle with her hair...
Every time she was unhappy, and then her mother always watched and watched. laugh.
One time, something particularly excessive happened.
those aunts surrounded her and teased her,An aunt suddenly took off her skirt, and everyone burst into laughter.
At that moment, for an eight-year-old girl, she felt ashamed for the first time.
She burst into tears, but her mother was still there, laughing with her.
She thinks that her mother does not love her at all.
When she grew up, when she thought of that scene, she felt that she was not respected, humiliated, and her self-esteem was impaired.
The aunt who picks up the skirt, she hates it to this day.
She has been wondering whether she is so inferior that she is reduced to someone else's plaything!
As a result, she has a very low self-esteem personality.
writer Jiang Fangzhou 's father, a policeman.
When Jiang Fangzhou was a child, when he was unwilling to read, his father would look serious and took out the handcuffs to handcuff her to her hands.
made little Jiang Fangzhou think that as long as he doesn't read and write well, he will be arrested by the police.
Jiang Dad has another trick, which is to hold up his big palm and signal to hit Jiang Fangzhou in the face.
Finally, his palm will fall heavily on the other hand, pretending to hit her.
Seeing Jiang Fangzhou's frightened look, his father would laugh out loud.
and so on,Jiang Fangzhou has always had a shadow, and he is also very insecure.
She often doubts herself, and does everything possible to please her parents, forming a pleasing personality as she grows up.
It can be seen that adult’s evil interests are often accompanied by intimidation, teasing, and humiliation, which will make children lack trust and sense of security, and even worse, make children develop extreme personalities.
Do not tease children, it is the most basic cultivation of adults
We often see the situation of Mr. Bear teasing children.
For example, the mother is pregnant with a second child, and the neighbor’s aunt teases the child:
"Your mother doesn't want you anymore, because she is pregnant with a younger brother."
The world collapsed, and the heart was broken into scum.
How many children resist their parents to give birth to a second child only because of a word from others.
And it is just such a "joking" that penetrates the child's heart like a needle, causing a series of psychological problems.
During the Chinese New Year, many adults also like to tease their children.
For example, at the wine table, the adult licks the wine on the chopsticks to the child.
I don't know, this kind of trickery caused a child to die from alcohol poisoning.
As an adult, our most basic cultivation is,Don't tease children.
Be a qualified parent, don’t make fun or tease
The famous educator Chen Heqin resolutely opposes teasing children. He thinks that playing with children is also a moral education. Defects in morality appear.
We must stop teasing children and let them have a healthy and happy childhood.
1. Treat children equally
On social platforms, many young parents like to spoof their children, and they say "playing" with their children.
They kept playing tricks on the children, making them dumbfounded and angry.
This kind of ignorant behavior not only makes children feel insecure, but also makes them have personality defects.
Tao Xingzhi once said:
"Everyone says that children are small, and everyone is careful. If you think that a child is small, you are even smaller than a child."
Although children are small, their self-esteem is very strong. Once their self-esteem is damaged, the children's personality and behavior will have a series of deviations.
Therefore,As parents, we must treat our children equally and let them feel respect so that they can become a self-respecting and self-loving person.
2. Severely stop others from teasing your children
In China, many parents always put affection first.
When others tease your child, you can feel your child's embarrassment and anxiety.
But often many parents laugh at the sidelines.
When a child asks his parents for help, the parents will say: "I like you, so I am teasing you!"
As parents, when others make fun of your children, we must strictly stop them:
Don’t be indifferent. What is more important than a child?
When children are protected, they will also have a sense of trust in their parents, which is conducive to the healthy growth of children.
3. Educate children and fight back if they are teased
At the same time, we must set principles and bottom lines for children.
If someone breaks through the bottom line and defense line to tease children and cause them discomfort, seek help or ask for an apology.
A child with principles and bottom line,Not only will they not be easily teased by others;
They will also save themselves and others, and will not play pranks on others or make fun of others.
Any way that means "trick" is not conducive to the growth of children.
Adults don't like to be teased by others, so if you compare your heart to your heart, how can children like it?
Have you ever teased your child? Or have you been teased in your childhood? Welcome to share in the comment section.
This article was originally created by Fenghe Parents Camp, welcome to pay attention, and bring you knowledge!
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