The child cries and doesn't want to go to kindergarten, is it a compromise to bring it home? Or is it cruel to let the teacher take it away?

Text/Xiao Xue’s mother

Kindergarten has started for more than two weeks today. Although it has been over for a while, there are still many children who are very resistant to going to kindergarten.

When I went to work in the morning and passed by kindergarten, I could still see many children crying in their mother's arms, and some even shouted hoarsely not to go to kindergarten, and the teacher beside them was always comforting.

The child is crying and does not want to go to kindergarten. Is it a compromise to bring it home? Still cruelly stay behind?

For some parents, they are very sane. They feel that when their children are at the age of going to kindergarten, even if they are crying, their children need to get through this stage. And some parents are very entangled, knowing that it is not good to take their children back with a soft heart, but they are reluctant to pull away.

So the child keeps pulling with his parents, the child coquettishly crying and wants to go home, the parents patiently comforts and entangles, and makes up his mind. Teacher wanted to help take it away, but the parents were worried about leaving a shadow on their children. They cried even more sadly when they returned home, making them very embarrassed.

Generally speaking, most parents are still very sensible. Even if they feel uncomfortable, they must pretend to be strong and turn around and leave. On the one hand, I still have to go to work, and I don’t have time to spend with my children. On the other hand, I believe that the teacher’s level can make the children happy. In addition, this kind of thing can't be "bad". has two or three times once, and the child is very good at grasping the parents' psychology.

The child cried so heartbreaking that he didn’t want to go to kindergarten. Parents didn’t scold or yell. Others are impatient. When I met parents who were more anxious, I couldn’t coax a few words patiently.The voice began to become severe.

"Look at other children who don't cry. Are you crying and crying, are you still a man?"

"Cry crying, crying every day, I know how to cry, what a little ancestor!"

"Try crying again! The teacher will criticize you again"

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In fact, this kind of intimidation by parents might stop the tears from being scared at the time, but it hurts the child's heart very much. big. "Kindergarten anxiety" itself means that children face an unfamiliar environment, strangers, and have no sense of security in their hearts. Parents are the source of their children’s sense of security. If you don’t comfort, you can even scare your children. This will only aggravate your children’s feelings. Panic .

Children will feel that their parents don’t want him anymore, and they are very scared in their hearts, making it harder to adapt to the kindergarten life. In this regard, parents should not yell and criticize their children in terms of words or behavior. If they can't figure it out, it is better to hand it over to a more professional teacher.

Faced with the anxiety of children entering kindergarten, three ways to help you get it done!

First, try to divert your child’s attention before sending your child to school

Before sending your child to kindergarten, don’t always emphasize "Listen to the teacher, someone bullied and tell the teacher" etc. These words will only aggravate the child. Anxiety and fear.

On the contrary, parents have to ask some questions that divert their children's attention, such as "Do you want your mother to pick you up after school, or your father to pick you up?" or "Eat fish at night after school or spare ribs" etc. .

Give the child a higher level question in advance,Then the child's thoughts have changed in another place. It's no longer that every time a child goes out, he thinks about not going to kindergarten, but thinking about the questions you asked him.

Second, guide children to make friends in kindergarten

Many children are not used to kindergarten, except that their parents are not around, and they are not used to unfamiliar environments. Parents can encourage their children to make friends in the kindergarten. When he has a familiar playmate in the kindergarten, will have support in his heart. Going to the kindergarten every day, he also has expectations.

For example, yesterday my friend asked myself to eat bear biscuits, and today I have to ask my friend to eat my own cake. As the children become bound, they gradually adapt to the kindergarten life, and the parents also Don't worry about it anymore.

In fact, when children go to kindergarten, it is mainly a process of adaptation. Most children only need a period of time. With the comfort of their parents and teachers, they can adapt to the kindergarten life. Therefore, parents should not be too anxious, and there is a small way to try, that is, let the elderly help to send the children, the children's parting anxiety will not be so great.

Interactive topic: How long does your child go to kindergarten without crying?

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