The first week of school, have you and your children adapted?
Every year at the beginning of the school season, many children are depressed because they can’t adjust themselves, and many parents can’t sleep at night because of anxiety... All kinds of emotional and psychological problems caused by "entry school" test children as well as parents.
This year is the first year of the implementation of the "double reduction policy". We interviewed 10 Shanghai mothers and selected 4 of them. Let’s talk about "entering the garden" , "double reduction" and "in volume" ……
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5 pap img2p "Parents of Primary One Group", every day at noon, it is the time for children to eat. The teacher will upload photos to the group to comfort the parents' love of their children.
Li Yan saw his son "Edamame" in the crowd at a glance. He was eating with the help of his teacher. It seemed that he was not in a high mood.
Li Yan looked a little worried, is the child upset? But she still resisted the urge to send a message to the teacher for confirmation.
Although it has been a week since school has started, Li Yan's heart still seems to be hanging in the air. Seeing the picture of "parents overgrown outside the kindergarten wall" on the Internet, she seemed to see herself.
On that day, because she was going to work, she sent her child to the kindergarten and left. Seeing the child being led by the teacher into the class, she couldn't help but chant: If you can't get through if you have something to call her, call the child's grandmother, and the grandmother can come over at any time.
Fearing that the teacher might not remember too much, Li Yan called her mother-in-law several times that day and asked her to bring her mobile phone wherever she went.
That night, after the child came back from kindergarten, she was eager to know how the child was doing at school. When the child said that she missed her mother, her heart suddenly became soft.
The person who came here reminded her not to look back after sending the child to kindergarten. If you look back, the child will be more dependent on you when they see you.
Li Yan also learned to do this,But every time she heard the child crying so piercingly, she couldn't help but ran back to comfort her.
After a week, the whole family was in a hurry and felt a little at a loss.
Some people say that even if a child is weaned from breast milk at the age of 1 to 2, he will still be very attached to his mother. Only when he goes to kindergarten and walks into a strange group alone is "weaning" in the true sense.
and Li Yan feels that it is not only the child who needs to be weaned psychologically, but also her~
img_span5 Wang Shanshan felt that his daughter Qiao Qiao was really about to enter the first grade of elementary school.
She accompanied her children to go through the textbooks. Although she is a relatively "Buddha" mother, in kindergarten, the children still learn some basic things.
A pre-learning video sent to the group soon made her feel calm.
This video went viral on various video sites. After watching it, Wang Shanshan fell into ambivalence again.
's primary school,The rankings in the city are not bad. Parents attach great importance to their children’s early education. Will this kind of "finishing ahead of time" also appear in the class of their daughter? If it does, can the child keep up?
The more she thought about it, the more irritable she became. Wang Shanshan began to "communication" with her daughter, trying to find some "clues", such as who performed better in the class? Who is particularly active in answering questions? Who is the teacher's main compliment?
I don’t know if I didn’t listen to it. The child’s reaction was a bit "big", and they were talking about trivial things: Which classmate can’t find the toilet, who is slow to eat at noon, and who I couldn’t sit still in class and was criticized by the teacher...
The more the child talked, the happier she said, "Mom, I exchanged stickers with my classmates today." The Mathematical Olympiad and New Concept English were not within her consideration. The child felt that everything in school was very interesting and made her happy.
Wang Shanshan's originally impetuous heart calmed down instantly.
Of course she knows very well that this kind of calm is only temporary. In the following time, this kind of emotion that will be contradicted and figured out will appear frequently, but at least at this moment, she is The child's smile healed.
Li Qian woke up naturally when she slept for the first time. Since the child went to elementary school and arranged several make-up classes on weekends, he was always in a hurry in the morning. After the double reduction, the homework was no longer taken home, and there were no make-up classes on weekends, so he was relieved.
The homework assigned by the teacher was completed in school, and Li Qian gave the child another composition.
After the child finished writing, she became more angry as she read it, let alone whether the writing was good or not, there were a lot of mistakes in it because of sloppy writing, and the "lead" of morning glory was written as "prison"... …
Before school started, she had a peaceful conversation with her children and wrote down the three shortcomings that each other wanted each other to correct in order to smoothly transition to the first semester after the "double reduction" .
Her first requirement of the child is: do things carefully and get rid of sloppy problems. And the child's first requirement of her is: don't get angry at every turn, ask the matter clearly before speaking.
Li Qian didn't want the things she just decided to be "broken" in this way, reminding herself to calm down, and the child quickly admitted the mistake and promised to check it again after the next time.
But to be honest, Li Qian was not in a better mood because of the child’s few guarantees. She thought more about it: before, she could still hope in the remedial class, but now the remedial class is gone. Once you relax your discipline and your child's grades fall, what will you rely on to compete in the future?
She is more afraid that her children will not make up lessons.But other children are "overtaking in corners" all the time, "scrolling" with each other...
her husband persuaded her that the meaning of "double reduction" is to pull the child out of the sea of questions. Coming out is no longer limited to the immediate results and scores, but to put the goal in the long-term, so that they can truly achieve comprehensive development of morality, intelligence, and physical fitness.
Li Qian had no choice but to comfort herself in this way. Everyone is going through this stage and groping. I can only look at it while walking to find a balance.
This year is very special for Wei Yijuan. His daughter Yuehan entered the first grade of junior high school.
In elementary school, the child is very obedient. Generally, the child will do what she says, but since the second semester of the fifth grade, she can clearly feel that the child has his own opinion, and she often confuses her. .
She received her child's schedule as early as the beginning of school. The biggest change is: school ends at 6 pm every day, there are physical education classes every day, and you can take a 40-minute nap at noon every day...
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After school on the first day, Wei Yijuan wants to inquire about the situation of the children at school, such as how is the teacher? Is there anything you don’t understand? Which subject feels more difficult?
she hasn’t said anything yet,The child became anxious and began to complain that the teacher was not good and that the teacher was too harsh.
listened, Wei Yijuan was annoyed and couldn't help accusing the child: "This is only the first day, and you have so many opinions. What should I do afterwards? Don't bring this negative emotion into your studies. "
The child is not happy after hearing this, and said that he will not tell his mother anything anymore, and don't ask her.
Seeing her daughter like a furious little lion, Wei Yijuan feels deeply helpless. This is just the beginning. What can I do in the future?
She went to consult the psychology teacher at the school.
The psychology teacher said: Although the child in junior high school is so tall on the surface, his heart is still a child, and he still needs the approval and care of his parents.
And after entering junior high school, the environment and the friends around have changed, and it is normal to be unable to accept it for a while. Parents and children try to avoid head-on conflict.
Not only she, but many parents have similar problems-
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_span 2pAfter listening to her, she was actually even more at a loss. She could only persuade herself in her heart to be more patient when talking to her daughter in the future, and try not to "mars hit the earth".
is written at the end of the article:
Everyone has their own ideas about enrollment, double reduction and internal scrolling.
What we can do is just hope to tell you through other people's stories——
Mothers are actually the same, scared, at a loss, sometimes anxious and sometimes strong, sometimes I can't figure it out, sometimes I think the child is the cutest in the world, and sometimes I feel so angry that my heart trembles. You are and so is she!
But no matter if others are "involved", between you and your child, you must first do not involute or dislike it. The only thing a child trusts is his parents. The more difficult it is, the less he can't push him away, and the more he must be by his side.
The future is long, so don't worry for now!
Dr. Rainbow "invite" you to say: After the double reduction, how do you arrange your child's spare time?
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