"Although I follow my mother's surname, I will never let my child follow my mother's surname in the future."

text/Xiaoxue's mother

With the improvement of women's social status and family status, more and more demands have been put forward. One of them has caused extensive discussion: that is the problem of children taking their mother's surname!

Generally speaking, people will only find this question very strange. Haven't children been given their father's surname since ancient times? And it seems to be the case all over the world. But some people don't think so, and feel that the child's surname can not only follow the father's surname, but also the mother's surname!

On the Internet, there are also young couples who do not want children and express their opinions that they plan to have two children, one of which will take the father's surname and the other will take the mother's surname, which seems fair.

Can a child take his mother's last name?

The answer to this question is beyond doubt: a child can follow his mother's surname!

Article 22 of my country's current "Marriage Law" stipulates: "Children can follow their father's surname and their mother's surname." But why has it caused so many discussions? There are so many issues involved!

I remember when the big internet celebrity papi sauce was born, a lot of netizens discussed the issue of their children's surnames. felt that papi sauce has always shown the public a strong woman and an independent character, but the child has to have the father's surname , which is difficult to understand and does not match the character.

However, most netizens are rational, and they already want their children to follow their father's surname, and this is also human nature, so why can't they share their father's surname? In fact, it is mainly because of public figures, and the topic itself is very "controversial", so the volume of topics is very high.

The person who came here said bluntly: Although I follow my mother's surname, I will never let my children follow their mother's surname. In this way, the children can please their parents in the future.

There is a lady who has taken her mother's surname since she was a child, but her grandparents don't like her very much at home and always feel that she is an outsider. On the other hand, my grandma and grandpa didn't get too close. Instead, they were closer to the children of my uncle's family. After all, they were the real grandchildren.

Therefore, the lady said "Although I follow my mother's surname, I will never let my children follow their mother's surname in the future" . Although the family relationship has undergone great changes now, the issue of surnames is still deeply ingrained in everyone's thinking. Because the issue of surnames affects the growth of children, it is not worth it.

Let the child take the mother's surname, what may be the impact?

First, it is easy to cause misunderstandings.

In the vast majority of people's perception, it is a deep-rooted idea for children to follow the "father's surname". There are only a few cases in which the child will follow the mother's surname. One of is " door-to-door son-in-law " , the child takes the mother's surname from the beginning, and the other is the divorce of the parents , the child takes the mother's surname. Therefore, if outsiders do not understand the real situation, it is easy to make misunderstandings.

Second, it brings trouble to the child's growth.

It is like saying that there is a second child in the family. The elder brother takes the father's surname and the younger brother takes the mother's surname. After school, there will be misunderstandings when dealing with classmates, thinking that it is a second marriage and reorganizing the family, and indirect children Also depressed.Why are brothers and sisters, but their surnames are different? Faced with the question of the child, has the mother figured out a proper answer?

Third, it affects family relationships

In the eyes of many elderly people, the importance of surnames is self-evident. If there are two children in the family, one takes the father's surname and the other takes the mother's surname, grandparents will love the child who takes the father's surname more, thinking that this is the "root" in the family, and the child who takes the mother's surname is more like an "adoptive" "Give it to in-laws, the elderly on both sides of have their own preferences, which will aggravate the growth contradiction between children.

Of course, some parents may say that the above problems are not problems and can be solved through educational communication. But to be honest, it is not a problem for children to take their mother's surname in a small range, but in terms of trends, it is unlikely that a large-scale child will take their mother's surname. Why does

follow the mother's surname not a big trend?

First, social relations issues

It is undeniable that in all walks of life, even in families, men are responsible for the main part of 's production of . In terms of production relations, productive forces determine production relations. Compared with men, women are inherently deficient in many places, so from this point of view, it is still a social trend to follow the father's surname.

Second, from a historical point of view,

following the father's surname not only represents the permanence of family inheritance, but also is a major issue that guides social stability. The child takes the father's surname, so it is passed down from generation to generation. And if the child takes the mother's surname, you can imagine "one surname for the grandmother, one surname for the son, one surname for the grandson, and another surname for the great-grandson" , four generations of a family with four different surnames, this is not a mess.

Of course, the views above are just my personal opinions, and I am not knowledgeable. If you have better theories to refute , you can share them in the comments below!

But from the general direction of society, if there is no special need, it is still appropriate for the child to follow the father's surname.

I am Xiaoxue's mother, a post-90s mother, follow me and share scientific parenting knowledge every day!