When I was confinement, my husband always made me angry. At that time, I said almost every day: If it weren't for my pain when I moved now, I really thought of giving you a set of punches.
After giving birth, women's bodies are mostly weak, and they seldom do large movements. First, they feel tired or painful, and second, they are afraid of leaving any sequelae.
But recently, a woman known as "the strongest pregnant woman in history" became popular because of her postpartum "large-scale" actions.
In the video shared by netizens, a mother who had just given birth rushed out of the delivery room angrily, and walked towards her husband while rushing and cursing. The hospital nurse hurried forward and pulled her away. After the
video was exposed, it immediately caused a heated discussion. Some people laughed and felt that the scene was too funny. But it hurts.
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Refused to play "painless"
Before giving birth, because she was afraid of bearing the pain of childbirth, the woman and her husband discussed it. If all the indicators are met, then she will decisively hit "painless".
As a result, the mother-in-law was afraid that painless would leave her grandson with sequelae when she gave birth, so she refused to call her daughter-in-law "painless", and the husband agreed with the mother's point of view, and suddenly changed his mind.
Without the signature of the family members to pay the money, there is no way to play "painless". Therefore, after the mother tried her best to give birth to the child, she could not help but feel resentment in her heart. Regardless of her weak body, she rushed out of the delivery room and chased after her husband to beat her, just to seek justice for herself.
After learning the reason, netizens shouted: "Good fight." Mothers who give birth will use the word "savior" to describe painlessness: six hours before opening the second finger, it hurts to the point of collapse, but after opening it, does have a feeling of hell to heaven.
The heart-wrenching pain of childbirth is the mother's burden. Painless childbirth is the right of every mother. No one has any reason to decide for them without authorization.
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The "painless" rumor
How many people will it harm
My friend Xiaoyun, because he chose "painless" during childbirth, is hated by his in-laws to this day.
After consulting a doctor with her husband, Xiaoyun chose painless delivery. After learning about this, the mother-in-law came from her hometown overnight and tried her best to persuade Xiaoyun and his wife to give up the idea.
The reason of the mother-in-law is:
"Too much anesthesia, the child will become stupid!" It was made up by cheating money!"
The mother-in-law told her daughter-in-law: "I have given birth to several children, and I will pass it with patience, so I don't have to take this risk!" Yun couldn't take it anymore, and her husband immediately called a doctor to perform a painless delivery. The baby is healthy after birth, and all indicators are normal.
But because of this choice, my mother-in-law has always hated her. Nowadays, as long as the child has a cold and a fever, the mother-in-law will accuse her cynically: it was the choice of "painless" that caused the child's resistance to deteriorate.
Because of ignorance, "painless" is doomed to be blamed.
Many people disagree with the reason for painless childbirth, because they are worried about the sequelae after the operation:
For example, they think that after the painless childbirth, there will be back pain, which will make the baby stupid and affect the quality of breast milk...
But these so-called sequelae are all rumors...
For novel things, unknown risks often make people afraid and fearful, so many elders will ask young people to follow the rules.
But in fact, "painless childbirth" has a history of more than 100 years, and it has been widely used abroad. Many hospitals in China have carried out painless delivery, and some have accounted for 30% to 40% of natural deliveries.
Painless childbirth is a blessing for mothers, but when promoting it, we should also do a good job of popular science, and don't let ignorant rumors break the hearts of mothers.
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Each mother
should have her own choice
The birth of a child means that the mother will suffer. The word mother contains too many heavy meanings, but it is not necessary for a woman to experience the greatness of a mother without having to suffer to death.
Every mother should have the right to choose "pain" or "no pain".
In "Newborn Diary", Medina recalled a scene on the show. Because of the severe pain, she couldn't help shouting before the doctor introduced the painless childbirth: "Don't talk about it, doctor. Bar".
The decision can be very simple, allowing mothers to have the right to choose, not only physically relieved pain, but also spiritually respected.
Recalling the initial childbirth scene, Medina did not lament too much how difficult it was to give birth, but her face was full of happiness.
is not painless, but has the right to choose, and has the understanding and support of her lover. Sometimes happiness can be simple.
Not long ago, I saw this news, a young couple in Hubei discussed not to have a second child, so the wife went to the hospital for sterilization. The father-in-law who learned about this suddenly made a scene in the hospital and threatened to ask the doctor to take the fallopian tubes back!
To tell the truth, whether to give birth or not to raise is a matter of husband and wife. Women have the right to choose whether to give birth or not to give birth. And as an outsider, you can only play the role of providing advice, don't let the so-called old traditions become the shackles of women.
In a family, the best way to get along between in-laws and daughters-in-law, father-in-law, mother-in-law and son-in-law should be "You respect me one foot, I respect you ten feet." Mutual respect, understanding and complementarity, The family can be harmonious and happy.
This article is produced by Sanyou parent-child, caring for mothers' health, focusing on children's education/family marriage, famous doctors, dry goods, good things, and attitudes. Here, we grow together with millions of mothers.
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