1~8 years old is the "golden eight years" for children to grow up, and each year has a different focus on growth

We often say "80 at the age of three", the first 1000 days of a child's birth is the most important developmental stage. However, according to a study by Yale University in the United States, html has tracked the growth of thousands of children for more than 140 years and found that the growth of children from 1 to 8 years old is particularly important. This stage is the "golden eight years" of for children's growth, and Every year there is a growth focus, parents must not miss it!

1-year-old growth focus: cultivating a sense of security Building and nurturing sense. Especially mothers, because babies get their security from parents (especially mothers).

From Sears' "Intimate Parenting", we can learn that parents should accompany their children as much as possible at this stage, actively respond to their children's various needs, and make children feel concerned, valued, and surrounded by love. And this is the source of the child's sense of security in life. Parents can use a variety of methods, such as humming a song to the child, teasing the child, playing with toys with the child, touching the child, carrying the child with a sling, etc. In short, To make the child feel a sense of presence.

2-year-old growth focus: cultivating humor

2-year-old children have unlocked the skills of sitting, crawling, walking, etc., and can slowly control their bodies and gradually gain their own consciousness. Since children at this stage are particularly sensitive to facial expressions, and are very observant, they will find all kinds of interesting things, and their laughter is very low, so parents should seize the opportunity to cultivate their children's sense of humor.

For example, parents can deliberately imitate their children's actions, wear reverse clothes, shoes, or pretend to be "clumsy" in front of their children , etc., and make children laugh in various ways, which is beneficial to cultivating children's positive emotions. Very beneficial. Parents can also buy some picture books to read with their children and find all kinds of fun in the books together.

3-year-old Growth Focus: Cultivating Creativity

-year-old children, as abstract logical thinking begins to sprout, often have some creative actions that make parents shine. For example, the child begins to know how to use the stool to hold the items on the table, which is the earliest creativity. Children who are full of curiosity and imagination are eager to keep trying and exploring to learn more about themselves.

Smart parents, in addition to giving tolerance and encouragement to their children's various Tianma actions, should also think of ways to cultivate their children's creativity. For example, parents can buy building blocks for their children and let them build different castles; buy drawing boards and crayons for their children, and take care of their children to create what they think;

4-year-old growth focus: cultivate expression ability

-year-old children have unlocked language skills, and oral expression has become richer. Almost every child will become a "little chatter", like to pester their parents to ask questions, and even ask themselves questions, which is very enjoyable, and the children at this time are also ready to go to kindergarten.

According to the characteristics of children's love of talking at this stage, parents should appropriately increase verbal interaction and interact with children more. For example, parents can make up a jingle to teach their children, teach their children to recite ancient poems, and let their children interact with early childhood education robots. It should be noted that parents should correct the child's pronunciation and speed of speech in a timely manner to prevent the child from stuttering.

5-year-old growth focus: cultivating writing ability

Generally speaking, 3-year-olds mainly focus on graffiti, 4-year-olds can try to express with dots and lines, and 5-year-olds enter the sensitive period of written language and can try to imitate and write their own names. If you want your child to practice good handwriting, start at the age of 5.

After parents teach their children the correct sitting posture and pen-holding posture, they can train their children to write from simple to complex, and guide their children to observe the subtle differences between words. For example, let the child write Tian Heyou, Taiheda, etc. at the same time, let him point out the difference, and encourage the child in time when the child performs well.

6-year-old growth focus: cultivating character

6-year-old is a key stage in the development and formation of a child's personality. Parents must not think about releasing the child's nature and indulge the child too much. Children at this stage are easy to enter the "self-centered" thinking mode. Hope Build your own "independent kingdom", and parental indulgence will only lead to worse things in the future.

Children at this stage need a certain amount of independent space. Parents should guide their children more, not overprotect them, and inspire their children to think more. Since the role of the father is "Tarzan-like stability", the child will worship the father even more at this time, and the father's company and attention at this stage is particularly important.

7-year-old growth focus: cultivating empathy

7-year-old is called the "eraser age", many children have scratch marks on every page of their homework, and children are eager to do one thing perfectly. This is true not only for things, but also for people. Children at this stage mature rapidly, begin to know how to think about others, and long for everyone’s approval and respect.

Parents should have good interaction with their children at this time, give creative "feedback" to their problems, guide their children to look at things positively, learn to empathize, and truly mature their minds.

8-year-old growth focus: cultivating independence

8-year-old children are more mature and sensible than 7-year-olds. They are optimistic and positive, like to take the initiative to help others, pay more attention to evaluations from others, and try to find their own place in the home and class. Children at this stage have a stronger sense of independence and independence.

At this stage, parents should stop helping their children deal with everything, but should consciously cultivate their children's independence, such as packing their schoolbags by themselves, going to school by themselves, etc., and encourage them to establish their own circle of friends to smoothly pass through the psychological attachment period. It is a decent exit from parents to let go slowly, and it is more beneficial to the growth of the child!

Hope my sharing is helpful to you! I am Bamboo Mommy, a national second-level public nutritionist, and a post-80s mother. I am willing to share parenting knowledge with you every day and communicate with you about parenting experience. If you like me, please follow me!