Mencius said: "If you don't follow the rules, you can't make a square."
There are national laws and family rules. Good rules are the biggest warning to children's growth.
Mr. Liang Qichao once said: "It is better to set rules for children than to reason with them." Why do you say that? Because in his eyes, what changes life is never a reason, but a rule.
Mr. Liang recalled: When he was young, he lied to his mother once. This lie was exposed on the spot, and he was also taught a lesson by his mother. This was the first time he saw his mother so angry.
Since then, his mother has set a "no lying" rule for him. This rule has accompanied him throughout his life. Whether it is "writing on the bus", "1888 Reform" or "May Fourth Movement", he insists on not lying as his principle.
A common misunderstanding that parents fall into when making rules If the parents themselves are not polite, they often cut in line and swear. Such parents rarely teach children who understand the rules.
Can't bear to set rules for children
Whenever a child makes a mistake, parents always use the child as an excuse. It's hard to get down and want to set a rule for the child, but he compromises in the child's crying.Again and again, the bottom line is lowered until the child is spoiled.
Parents cannot be partial to their children for a lifetime. The rules that are missing now will be made up for by society in the future.
Make the rules as early as possible
Many habits are formed from childhood, and the rules are the same. Some time ago, a news in the circle of friends caused widespread heated discussion. A 10-year-old boy shoved a pregnant woman who was more than 4 months pregnant from behind.
When asked why, the boy said indifferently that he wanted to see if a pregnant woman would have a miscarriage if she fell. There is no remorse between the words! What's even more irritating is that the child's grandmother is still blindly protecting her grandson: "He's still a child, you are so old, what do you care about him?" . It is not wrong for parents and elders to love their children, but this kind of deformed love is not what children need. If you really love children, please teach them: what are the rules and what is the responsibility, not blindly spoiling them.
If you do something wrong, you should be punished When a child does something wrong, punishment is actually a kind of protection.
Through appropriate punishment, let him know his fear, let him realize his mistake, and never dare to do it again in the future, only in this way can the child get real Growth. But parents should remember that only appropriate punishment, must pay attention to proportions.
Let the child bear the consequences
If the child makes a mistake, let the child bear the consequences. If parents are blindly partial, they will only make the previously established rules fall short. There is such a dialogue in the picture book "I Will Always Love You", which impressed Mr. Lin deeply.
This mom goes to great lengths to assure her child, "No matter what, I'll always love you," but mom has her own principles too. You have to take responsibility for your own mistakes, mom will not compromise with you because she loves you !
Parents insist on leading by example
In fact, no matter how much you say, it is not as practical as parents who lead by example. You teach your children to be polite, but you swear all the time. You teach your children not to waste, but you dump food in a big bowl yourself. How can a behavior like
convince children? If parents want their children to really obey the rules, Then parents must lead by example, become a role model for their children, and indirectly influence their children from every bit of life.
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