We are all shouldering the responsibility of eliminating sexism and writing to those fathers who have daughters

In the latest 2021 Global Gender Gap Report released by the World Economic Forum, my country’s sex ratio at birth is 1:1.13 and still ranks first in the world. Although this ratio has been declining year by year after my country has gradually liberalized its fertility policy, The patriarchal phenomenon behind the numbers still makes us feel heavy.

As a father, I have an independent daughter. Thank God for giving me a cheerful and intelligent daughter. She is the jewel in my palm. Only those fathers with daughters can understand this relationship. I hope she can have a happy life, but with the increase in life experience and understanding the various inequalities in this world for women, it makes me feel that my daughter’s future may not be as smooth as I imagined. As a father, it is necessary for me to figure out all this, and then tell my daughter about the PUA imposed on you by this world. Maybe you have no ability to change but you can ignore it.

First of all, it is to reverse the notion that men are superior to women. This is a phenomenon that exists all over the world. Although human science and technology have developed to this day, men’s occupational advantages have been basically wiped out by technology, but society has been dominated by men for thousands of years, and a huge cultural and conceptual formation has been formed. Inertia takes a long time to eliminate. In this society, not only do men have an inherent sense of superiority, but women are also accustomed to their subordinate status and work hard to maintain this concept. Before my daughter was born or even before she grew up, as a beneficiary of this idea, I also felt that it was natural for a woman to obey a man, but when I thought that my daughter would be drunk by a man just because of her gender, I began to feel that All this seems unreasonable. It is very difficult to change people’s perceptions. For example, my mother-in-law’s biggest regret in her life may be that she only has two daughters. The desire for sons has deeply affected my wife. When I learned that I was pregnant with a daughter, I felt that my wife had used it several times. Genius accepts. Although I try to make myself more open-minded, it is inevitable to be influenced by the people around me. After the birth of my daughter, I can feel comforting despite everyone's euphemism, so that I can't be detached. This is the power of the environment. Now I agree that men still rule the world, but I don’t think things will be like this forever. I told her that you can’t fight the world, but you have to believe in your heart that you are no worse than any man, and don’t just because you are when opportunities arise. Women have worries,Don't give up the interests you should fight for yourself. As for what people around you think is beyond your consideration, don't worry about it. If you are a man with a daughter, consider trying your best to change your mindset for your daughter, otherwise you are harming your daughter with the society.

The second is to establish an awareness of independence. Independence comes at a price. You can't call for women's independence while asking men to provide you with financial support. Economic and ideological independence means that you need to face more fierce competition and painful learning. The world is extremely realistic. After achieving these two aspects of independence, it is meaningless to discuss gender equality, because by then no matter what else What kind of ideas people report is unlikely to hurt you. It’s just that in the current society, a girl who wants to achieve independence needs to work harder than a man, and she needs to work harder at the school stage to be able to stand out from the narrower admissions conditions and professional choices (there was once an argument that we took the exam The greater advantage that education has given girls has led to more colleges and universities admitting more girls. Why can’t more women be admitted under the same rules? And on the premise that some majors are not open to women.); In At the work stage, you also need to create better performance to offset the employment pressure and income inequality caused by gender discrimination; you must also resist the temptation of consumerism. This world imposes an identity that women naturally love to consume. When you fall into the trap of consumerism When you are in the middle, you can't get rid of your dependence on family and men, which can only make you further away from the goal of independence.

The last thing is to balance family and career. I don't know why scientific research will conclude that women are perceptual animals, because this inference itself is not scientific. The times are not static, and the idea of ​​male dominance and female dominance is no longer suitable for the present. Women’s social influence through career success is the basis for eliminating gender differences. Women need to work hard to make themselves rational, and they need to understand that sacrificing careers for the family is not worthwhile. The family is equally important for both men and women, leaving the family for women. They can also live well. Leftover women are a concept created by men, and not getting married is not a big deal. In fact, in my family, my wife sacrificed her career to a certain extent for this family, and I have always taken this for granted. It was not until I thought that my daughter would face such an ending, that I realized that my conception had a problem, and that I was willing to take on the responsibility of housework and educating children with my wife.But I want my daughter to know that these are not what she is destined to bear.

As a male, I said this, and I will definitely be classified as a male traitor. It’s okay. If it’s not for my daughter’s love, I would not understand this and would not have the courage to say it all. Now that I have said it, I will do what I said and not just use it to educate others. After writing this article, I silently washed the dishes at home, and bought some vegetables while sending my daughter to make up classes, and prepared a few dishes in the evening. In order for my daughter to have a fairer environment, as a father, I started.