This article was originally created by Tuanzi Ma’s parenting. Personal comments and sharing are welcome.
During confinement, women should not only pay attention to various physical taboos, but also be "exquisite" where they live for a month.
Most of the people who take care of the mothers are mothers or mother-in-laws. It stands to reason that the "natal mothers" are the ones who know their daughters best and love them the most, but in the matter of "serving confinement", the mothers of the mothers are not in everyone's minds. The first person chooses to go back to her natal house for confinement is not allowed easily.
The "mother" refused to let her daughter go home for confinement. The son-in-law was very supportive.
Xiyue's due date was approaching. She and her husband were discussing who would serve the confinement, and she fell into entanglement for a while.
The mother-in-law’s health has not been able to take care of herself, and she is reluctant to spend money on the confinement, so she wants to go directly to her mother’s confinement 2 span . But when she called home, her mother didn't be happy. Instead, she asked Xiyue how could she confinement in her family's house? My mother suggested that she should pay some money to find a sister-in-law to serve the confinement, and occasionally go to make soup for Xiyue herself.
Xiyue cried sadly when she heard her mother say this. She felt like " splashed water" ,Now my mother doesn't want to take care of her in confinement, and she feels very depressed.
However, the husband thinks this proposal is very good, and he said that doesn’t need the "mother-in-law" to take the money, is normal and don’t give his wife a . My family ran . Later, during the confinement period, her mother came to see her daughter to tell her the reason, and Xiyue realized that her mother was doing her own good.
Why do most women not confinement in their natal families?
Most women will not confinement in their natal family after giving birth. It's not that "mothers" are unwilling to take care of their daughters, but they consider several things.
★ "The natal mother" considers her daughter and son-in-law
In fact, many men don’t agree with their wives going back to their natal house for confinement, and they miss it every day if they don’t go back with their wife. I was dissatisfied by my mother-in-law , but there are many inconveniences in my life when I follow my wife back to live in her natal house.
The mother’s family will also take this into consideration. The mother is worried that her daughter will return to her family for confinement. will affect the relationship between husband and wife ,Therefore, try not to separate the two and avoid conflicts with the son-in-law.
★ The word-of-mouth "exquisiteness" is not very convincing
Another reason is the word-of-mouth "exquisiteness" that some people think women are normal After the small birth , they can’t go back to their natal family. This will bring “unclean” things to the natal family is not good for the family, and they usually return to their natal family after confinement. One trip.
In fact, this is a superstitious statement. Some people may believe it in the past, but it is not very convincing anymore.
★ Avoid the influence of "gossip"
In the past, everyone lived in the countryside from house to house, and neighbors knew everything about each house. If the daughter of someone’s lives in her family for a long time, the neighbors of will inevitably misunderstand whether he is and her husband’s family have a conflict .Guessing and talking gossip behind the back.
Gossip is easy to dispel rumors, and when lie is spread too much, it is regarded as truth by everyone. Not only the face issue but also indirectly affects the relationship between husband and wife.
Confinement is mainly for convenience and comfort, and everything can be discussed.
Women rarely confinement in their natal family. In addition to the above reasons, it is also because they have all taken away their things from their parents after marriage. Going back to your natal family for confinement may have to be big and small , moving back is a bit troublesome.
Actually, there is not much magical attention to where to confinement. It is mainly convenient for everyone and mothers are comfortable and comfortable, The roles of these are very important.
If the wife can only go back to her natal house for confinement , the husband must try his best to cooperate with so as not to make the wife have too much psychological burden. If the confinement is served by the mother-in-law, the husband can privately to ask his wife how he feels . In many cases, the wife cannot "speak clearly" with the mother-in-law, and it is easier for the husband to convey to the elderly.
It’s very important to serve confinement people,He can even affect women's mood for a period of time after childbirth. There are not many families who have forged "confinement feuds" because of conflicts. Therefore, it is a good choice to spend some money to hire a concubine to avoid a lot of family conflicts.
Everyone can discuss everything. In this more than a month, the maternity is the most important thing. When the body and mood of women are restored, the baby will be more energetic.
[Today's topic] Where did you confinement?
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