What do most of our parents do in educating their children? Some parents like to show facts and reason with their children, and I repeat them over and over again, tirelessly. Parents' nagging makes the children tired, so it does not produce the ideal educational effect. So, how do we do it?
Teacher Li Meijin has many years of educational experience and is a well-known parenting expert in China. She believes that first-class parents generally do not use reasonable methods to educate their children.
They will first appease the child’s emotions, fully appreciate the child’s inner feelings, think about what the child thinks, and fully stand on the child’s standpoint.
let them try on their own, and they will naturally understand the consequences of the matter after they are battered. This is more effective than simple preaching.
How should smart parents educate their children?
1. Let the children boldly try
Everyone grows up slowly after experiencing setbacks again and again. So sometimes we must have the courage to let our children try boldly and hit a wall.
Every time they suffer a setback, they will gain a growth and gain a wealth of life experience and life experience, which is very beneficial to their growth.
Compared with our nagging, children are more willing to accept this approach. When they try it by themselves, they will know what the consequences of their actions are, and they will not do the same behavior next time. , They will automatically avoid possible risks and problems, which impresses them more than we directly tell them the results.
Many of our parents are eager to share their rich life experience and life experience with our children, so that they can avoid detours.
We are afraid that our children will get hurt, so we give the children a thousand warnings, over and over again, and tirelessly reason with them.
But we have ignored it. Our so-called truth is also summed up after we fall again and again. It is precisely because we have experienced that process that we will have a unique sense of life. Therefore, if children want to enrich their life experience, they must try it themselves!
2. Education should vary from person to person.
Each child has its own unique personality characteristics, so we have to adopt different education methods for different children. Some children are more docile, so if we preach to him, they will be more receptive.
Then we can directly tell them some truths, share our life experience with them, and provide children with certain lessons.
However, some children are naughty and stubborn, and they always like to antagonize their parents. If we nag and reason with our children, they will not listen at all.
Because such children have their own ideas and opinions, and he believes that the truths of their parents are not necessarily correct, they believe in their objective feelings more.
Therefore, no matter how we preach to them, they will continue to do their own way. They will deal with problems according to their own preferences, and will not take the advice provided by parents at all to heart, so they treat such children. We better stop nagging, because nagging is of no use at all.
3. Learn to communicate correctly with children
No one likes a condescending way of talking, and children are of course no exception. So when we communicate with children, we must learn to squat down and maintain a uniform height with the children.
We must communicate with them on an equal footing, learn to discuss issues with them from the perspective of children, and truly walk into the hearts of children. At this moment, we should not regard ourselves as a parent, we will regard ourselves as the child’s a friend.
When we communicate with children, we must first learn to listen, and then give our suggestions. When communicating with children, never be preconceived. Let children fully feel our respect for them and let them feel that they have been treated equally.
If our parents are simply preaching, trying to impose our ideas on the children, let them obey our opinions and act in our own way, then in the end we can only choose to be unhappy, because no one likes it Be constrained.
As children grow older, parents are also awareHere comes the question: children have their own ideas, and often they will not grow up according to their parents' wishes.
Whether it is a boy or a girl, most of them will be repelled by the preaching and scolding of their parents. Many parents will feel that there is no difference between boys and girls, just knowing the reason with emotion.
is actually not the case. Because of the differences in psychological development between boys and girls, parents' education methods are also different in their childhood.
