Asu is now more than three years old, his autonomy is slowly building up, and he is full of curiosity about many things around him. Seeing his mother doing housework, he also wanted to go and help, but every time he did not help his mother. For example, when I helped my mother make dumplings, everything I got was flour; I helped my mother clean the bowl but broke the bowl. At this time, my mother was relieved and angry, and could only helplessly say: "You are still young, these are all the work your mother does. Go and play next to you." When your children help with housework, do you also refuse so cruelly? Or would he scold the child for being unhelpful? What should we do when the child is really unhelpful?
1, do not use adult standards to ask children. Children from three to six years old, they are all unhelpful little experts. In fact, they want to work hard to help, but their abilities are limited and there is no way to meet their parents' requirements. The end result is always more help. We cannot measure children by the standards of adults, because it is very difficult for children at this period to be without omissions like adults.
2, don't refuse your child's help. Many things need time to do well. In the beginning, what the child does is always a little unsatisfactory. We must give the child enough time and space to grow. For example, when making dumplings, you can specially prepare suitable tools and venues for your child, so that the child can learn to make dumplings slowly while playing. Instead of rejecting the child's help from the beginning, help the child take care of everything.
3, use encouragement instead of scolding. Children in this period have relatively strong hands-on skills. He is eager to learn things he doesn't know. If his parents prevent him from doing this, he will lose enthusiasm over time, become lazy and unwilling to try. Children need to be recognized by their parents. Parents encourage their children and affirm their children's efforts. They affirm the value of their children, which can make children full of energy and more confident to do good things.
4, be patient with children. The children are still young after all, and they are always inflexible and clumsy when doing things. Everything is not natural. We need to see the process of children's participation rather than the final result. In this process, use enough patience to treat the child, give the child a demonstration, and carefully teach the child what to do. Over time, the more times the child tries, it will naturally happen.
Housework is a great way to bring children very close to life. The child’s unhelpfulness is temporary. Gradually, he will learn these life abilities, and be able to find his own sense of belonging and value in this ordinary work, making himself more confident.
