will say "My child recognizes the birth", and some people will say "Is he shy when he is so old?" "Your child is too introverted and needs to exercise"! Unknowingly,
puts negative labels on your baby such as "cowardly", "invisible", "unbehaved" and "regressive".
You must know that babies lack self-awareness until they are 6 years old. Almost all of their self-evaluation comes from people they trust and attach to. What's more, "recognition of life" is not really because of being timid, unsightly, or unbehaved, but a stage that needs to be experienced in the process of baby's psychological development.
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As the baby's intelligence develops, TA begins to get to know the people around him, knowing which ones are relatives and which ones are strangers.
babies generally start to show signs of recognizing birth at 5-6 months, gradually becoming obvious at 8-9 months, reaching a peak at 12 months old, and will continue for some time.
Babies recognize that birth is not a bad thing, this is their instinct to protect themselves.
Dr. Christiane, an education expert from the University of Mannheim, Germany, discovered through observation: "The birth recognition period of the baby naturally occurs with her growth. It is very likely that the recognition period will arrive overnight." Baby
can be roughly divided into three stages from birth to the beginning of the "recognition period" and then to the end of the "recognition period".
0-8 months
From birth to eight months, the baby needs the care of adults very much. If this person is a mother, it must be the most in line with his wishes, but if it is someone else, the baby will not Mind.
At this time, everything in the outside world can be seen in his eyes, and there is no such thing as the invisible. There is no such thing as the so-called "recognition".
8 months-1 year old
Most children are considered to be born from 8 months to 1 year old.
Because of this time, they can recognize people who are usually close to them through looks, voice, etc., and will have a sense of distance with strange faces.
Therefore, they either cry when they see strangers, or they have to find family members at night.
after 1 year old
When most babies step into the one-year-old door, it often means that the "recognition period" is coming to an end.
Because after a few months of adaptation, the baby will gradually realize that whenever he needs help, his parents will appear in front of them for the first time, and then when facing some strange things, the baby’s The reaction was not so great. Expert
explained: “Recognition of birth is a sign that a child has begun to establish contact with certain specific people.”
Therefore, a child must recognize birth, which is one of the signs of his growth.
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does not need excessive intervention in recognizing life, remember two points: do not force, do not label.
Don’t force
some mothers to see their children admit their birth, they want their children to get in touch with others, take them out to meet people, and let their friends come home as guests, but the children don’t appreciate it at all and they cry more. In fact,
did a lot of negative stimulation to the baby. There are many friends who come to the house, and everyone is too enthusiastic about the child, which makes the child even more insecure. The best thing about
is that adults should not be overly enthusiastic about their children, what should they do when they enter the home, chat, drink water, watch TV...
parents should not blindly think that the birth is bad, and there is no need to force correction.
If parents force the baby to say hello to a stranger, the child may leave an impression of "unhappy with people", which is very detrimental to the child’s interpersonal communication when he grows up, and it is easy for the child to develop an unsocial personality. The queen didn't know how to communicate with others.
does not label
As mentioned earlier, it is a normal growth behavior for a baby to recognize birth. It does not mean timid, introverted, impolite, or hopeless.
Don’t label children as “cowardly” or “promising” early. You must know that children’s self-cognition and evaluation are derived from the emotions and attitudes of others. Parents label children with Negative labels such as "cowardly", "promiscuous", "impolite", etc.Once the child agrees, it will really affect his personality.
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When the baby is in the birth recognition period, parents can use these 3 methods to help the baby go through the "recognition period":
should give the baby a sense of security
Baby recognition is generally related to "fear", mothers and their neighbors The family should create a warm family environment for the child. During the child's cognizance period, the mother must be patient and not reprimand the child for sudden crying.
Keep a gentle attitude when touching your baby, don't get hot and cold, and give your baby a sense of security.
So he slowly relaxes his fear of tension.
Take the baby out of the house appropriately
When the baby is 3 to 4 months old, the mother can consciously take the baby out of the house to help the baby adapt to the various social environments he may be exposed to as soon as possible.
often takes the baby to community squares, gardens and green spaces, where there are many people and children, so that they can see the fresh and interesting surroundings and feel the voices and impressions of different people.
Children's Kangtang TCM parenting teacher reminds: When participating in group activities, avoid many strange faces appearing at the same time, or many strangers rushing to greet him or scramble to hug him, tease him, etc. This will Increase his fear.
Take your children to outdoor activities more
take your baby out for a walk, there may be unexpected results.
Outdoor sports can make children feel the unfamiliar environment more truly and reap the unique fun in it. It is also a great opportunity to open up and meet strangers.
Recognition of birth is a sign that the child has begun to establish contact with certain specific people, it is growth!
always praise your baby and encourage him, it is very necessary for him to form a good character!
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