[Family Education] It's not intentional that children always interrupt, parents can guide you like this!

believe that many parents are familiar with this situation. Two adults are talking about things, the children are always interjecting, and the adult’s conversation is repeatedly interrupted by beatings. At this time, you as a parent will inevitably be embarrassed and angry. This kind of impolite behavior of the child is indeed annoying, but as long as you understand his inner world, you will understand that the child is not deliberately trying to interrupt you. This is caused by their age characteristics.

As parents, what should we do in this situation?

Reason 1: Attracting the attention of adults

Children in early childhood are self-centered. In his mind, the world exists for him, and he cannot bear the attention of his parents. Therefore, when parents chat or call with friends, he will remind them to value their existence by interjecting.

coping methods

let children get attention. When parents communicate with others, no matter how young the child is, they must first solemnly introduce the child to others. This can make the child feel that he is important and not ignored.

Reason 2: Interested in the content of the conversation

As the age grows, children become more and more curious about the things around them. When the mother's conversation with the guest arouses his curiosity, the child will ask some related questions and hope to get some answers. This is the most common way for them to understand the world around them. How to deal with

give children the opportunity to participate in the conversation. If the content of the child's interruption is related to the conversation of the adult, you can try to integrate it into the conversation of the adult, and guide the child to think, learn, and communicate with others; when you and the guest talk about something that the child does not understand, you can take it out appropriately For some time, explain to the child. Rudely rejecting the child's participation in the conversation will only make the child treat others in the same way.

Reason 3: There is nothing to do

When an adult chats with a guest or makes a phone call, the child will be bored because it is not noticed and does not know what to do. At this time, the child is prone to interjection.

coping methods

divert the child's attention. First arrange the child's activities so that he has something to do, such as letting the child watch interesting animation programs, preparing a few drawing books for the child, or preparing some toys that can attract his attention.

Reason 4: Children who haven't learned to wait for

in early childhood usually just say whatever they think, always hoping that their own affairs can always be solved first. Children often directly express their needs by interrupting because of being impatient.

coping method

teaches children how to wait. Find a way to let him know that you need to wait for one person to finish before the other person can continue. Try to guide the child to empathize and experience the feelings of others. For example, when he talks about what he is most excited about, he can intervene and talk about your affairs, making him unable to tell. This will make him unbearable. Then tell him: "When you watch other people talk, if you keep talking , Others will not be able to stand it.” Let the child understand the bad feelings of interrupting.

Small ways to deal with children's interruptions

encourage children to express their opinions and wishes. No matter whether the child's opinion is reasonable or not, parents must pay attention and respect. If the child's ideas are wrong, don't laugh at or reject him, but clearly tell him where he is wrong. This is conducive to cultivating children's honest, frank, and cheerful personality, but also conducive to satisfying children's curiosity, enriching their life experience, expanding children's knowledge, and training children's thinking ability and ability to handle things.

Learning the skills to express one's thoughts in a timely and appropriate manner is an indispensable lesson in interpersonal communication. Therefore, a cheerful parent, no matter what to convey to the child or to discuss something between adults, should give the child the opportunity to speak and encourage the child to speak out their ideas boldly, so that they will learn to express themselves and persuade each other , Reach a consensus.

There has been a custom in our country since ancient times: it is impolite for adults to talk and children to listen, thinking that children are interjecting. In fact, children often interrupt to express their opinions, but the method is wrong. As long as the parents give the rightGuide, teach the child when to speak, the child will definitely correct his behavior. It is worth noting that it is not advisable to stop it at all, as it will be detrimental to the child's psychological growth.