are bullied but do not complain because they are timid; even without the guidance of an adult, one day they will rely on their own courage to fight back or complain.
Some children who are bullied do not complain because they do not know how to ask for help; they must be properly taught by their parents to establish the awareness of asking for help and learn the correct way of asking for help as soon as possible.
In this semester, Guoer was bullied by the same child F twice in kindergarten. Child F has frequent problem behaviors on weekdays, and he is accustomed to using disruptive behaviors to get attention.
And Guoer may be more popular with children in the class this semester. The teacher said that children think Guoer is very good at building blocks, he is brave when playing climbing frames, and he knows a lot of words when he reads books. Some children admire him a little.
I guess, maybe the kids are always calling Guoer’s name and asking him to play with him, but because F is always a little disruptive and may be a bit unpopular, Guoer has become F’s bullying target——F I want to get everyone's attention by bullying the focus kids.
was bullied for the first time when F poured glue on Guo'er's back. After school, I found out that it took me nearly half an hour to scrape the glue on the skin with a brow scraper. . At that time, I thought it was F accidentally. I just told the teacher to tell F children not to do this in the future. The teacher also told F's parents to criticize F. The second time
was bullied, it was very serious! After getting up from a nap, Guoer and child F went to the toilet together. As a result, F pinched Guoer's JJ, and Guoer still did not complain. Until the evening took a bath, Guoer said that he didn't dare to wash JJ because it was very painful. The incident of
being bullied for the second time attracted my attention-I first reviewed the knowledge of sex education with Guoer and played a role. But I realized that this is far from enough, and there is still a long way to go between knowing and doing it; Guoer must learn to complain in kindergarten in order to minimize the chance of being bullied!
will not file a complaint. This will not only make him continue to be bullied, but more serious is that it may cause psychological problems-the negative emotions of being bullied are suppressed in the heart for a long time, no one knows and cannot be resolved.
1. Make a visual cue sheet and teach children to ask for help correctly!
I quickly made a visual reminder list, which reminded Guoer that he had to do three things when he was bullied: "I want to yell at him, I have to run away and tell the teacher!" I posted this reminder
on the refrigerator and let Guoer I went to see and learn every day to help him avoid being seriously bullied in kindergarten and deal with the consequences of being bullied correctly.
2. Adjust the chat time and content about the kindergarten life!
In addition to using this visual cue to teach Guoer to complain, I also advance the daily chat time from before going to bed to the way out of school, and change the focus of the chat from "special things" to "unhappy and uncomfortable things". I can know earlier if Tian Guoer was bullied at school.
under the interaction of "visual cue + chat", on the first school day after being bullied for the second time, Guoer told me that F grabbed the book and the book was torn, so he went to tell the teacher.
3. Write social scripts and teach children to correctly solve social problems through role playing! After
, I wrote the bullying incident as a concise social story, and the focus of the target behavior was "tell the teacher". Then, we conducted social demonstrations by telling social stories and role-playing, so that Guoer deeply understood and learned.
At present, Guoer's ability to complain is still relatively lacking, but at least he has established a sense of seeking help, and is slowly internalizing the ability to seek help; he knows and is slowly practicing: when others do something that makes him feel unhappy or unhappy For comfortable things, you must get out first and then ask for help.
