entered high school from junior high school, facing new learning tasks, new environment and new pressure, many children inevitably showed signs of decline in performance, and even led to the vicious situation of children not willing to go to school. As parents, what should we do?
The first level: There are many reasons for the decline in grades. Children want to strive for good grades and prove that children have high demands on themselves. This is a positive performance. Children must be affirmed-high demands on themselves are a good thing. ; Z1z
But at the same time, let the children understand that each person's abilities are different, and the requirements are naturally different. You must evaluate your own abilities and set yourself an objective and pragmatic goal.
Regarding the decline in performance, no one can absolutely guarantee that it will always be the top. The development of society is tortuous and the same is true for personal learning. It is necessary to allow twists and turns, as long as the overall effect is forward, this is right. As a parent,
suggests to help the child in several ways:
1, analyze the reasons for the decline in grades together. Is
because of the increased difficulty of knowledge points, or is the child's recent learning state not good? It is the teacher or the school's reason, etc. You can also go to the school and the teacher to find out the problem and help the child sort out the reason.
2, take the child to solve the problem together.
tells children that it doesn’t matter if their grades drop temporarily. The key point is whether the knowledge points are mastered and whether the child can concentrate on learning. Don't affect the overall forward rhythm because of the temporary decline.
The second level: Reluctance to go to school when grades decline, which proves that the child has a strong self-esteem and weak frustration. You must give the child a certain warning.
Anyone at any stage will encounter setbacks and encounters that embarrass themselves. Tell the child that he shouldn't evade repeatedly because he encounters setbacks. A true warrior does not necessarily succeed, but depends on his courage to face setbacks.
As a parent, for high school students, the psychology is very delicate, we must pay full attention to and adjust, and do not force or suppress.
1. Talk to your children and ask why you don’t want to go to school?
Maybe the child is afraid of classmates making fun of it, or maybe it is afraid of being criticized by the teacher. These reasons can only be revealed through careful conversation with the child. Even if the child is in rebellious adolescence and is unwilling to talk, parents should not lose their temper. They should give the child a certain amount of space and persevere. After finding the cause, solve the symptomatically.
2. Find relatives and friends who have a good relationship with the child to solve.
Some children are reluctant to tell their parents, but they are willing to open up to their friends. When necessary, parents can retreat behind the scenes and wait until they understand the reasons for their children before assisting.
3. Preach to yourself and let the children listen to the story.
High school children are self-centered, and occasionally think that what they encounter is very unique. Parents can use personal experience to tell their children, I have also encountered it, how I solved it at the time, what is the result now, etc.
4. Seek help from a counselor if necessary.
Psychological counseling does not mean unhealthy. If your child is reluctant to go to school for a long time and has serious resistance, you can seek professional help. So as not to delay the time for children to learn, causing more serious resistance. Above
, if your child is also tired of school due to declining grades in high school, you must pay attention to it, be patient, and help your child pass it smoothly.
