When having supper, teammates were still cooking the last vegetable in the kitchen, and Emma and her friends ran into the kitchen with bowls to add a second bowl. The teammate glanced at the rice cooker and realized that the rice was cooked less! Hurry up and stop them, "Hey, you can leave me some food. Have you finished a bowl so soon!"
"We're done with one bowl! Dad, I'll give you a bowl first." Emma also knew that she felt sorry for Dad, so she served a bowl for Dad, and then added a bowl for herself with her friends.
According to normal appetite, the rice cooked by my teammates today was definitely enough, but unexpectedly, both young ladies added a second bowl. The neighbors, who had never seen her add a second bowl, also added a second bowl today, and the rice seemed a little nervous.
Both young ladies ate very well and went to play after eating them quickly. Compared with their usual tedious style, they made great progress and did not worry about adults at all.
Reflecting on today's dinner, the taste of the dishes is really good compared to when the children didn't eat well before, and they all liked it. When they thought of the annoyed look of the children when they didn't eat well before, they couldn't help but wonder, "If the children didn't eat well before because they were not interested in the food, would force them to eat make them feel painful?"
is like myself. If the dishes on the table are not in line with their appetite, they will shy their faces. They will just finish eating just a few bites. The adults have no one to force them to eat, so they can decide whether to eat or not, but if the children are not delicious, the adults will always try their best to force them to eat more.
At this time, being forced to eat becomes a burden for the children. Sometimes I see adults running around with a bowl when feeding children. The child is all about playing, but when the adults put the spoon to their mouths, they open their mouths reflexively. At this time, the adults quickly seize the opportunity to stuff the food into the child's mouth. Over time, the child fails to develop good eating habits and refuses to eat when it is time to eat. After dinner, the adults urge them to eat, and even worse, they develop the habit of loving snacks but not eating.
Under normal circumstances, if you are hungry, you will definitely have a good meal, and the same goes for children. Put yourself in your shoes, how could they have a good meal if they weren't hungry? If I were me, I wouldn't have the appetite to eat. If someone forced me to eat at this time, I would definitely be very angry.
So, when the child doesn't want to eat in the future, let him go, but tell him how long it will take to have the next meal, and if he doesn't have a good meal, he can't eat snacks. Guide the child to establish the concept of "meal time", give the decision to themselves, let them try different choices, practice themselves, and then judge and analyze what to do in the future.
is not just about eating. In daily life and study, parents should also guide their children more and instill reason with less straightforward principles. The same principle is "the knowledge on paper is always shallow, and one must practice it in mind when it is known." Children's growth depends on them to experience various different situations themselves, form their own life experiences, and shape their own subjective concepts.
What adults need to do is to help them understand and discover themselves, let their thoughts and children walk the path of growth again, instead of telling them directly the results, researching and discovering together, and finding solutions to problems together, rather than indoctrinating, not demanding, not compulsory. Instead of turning yourself into your children's "enemy army", you will try every means to become your children's "friendly army" and form a community of interests.
Treat yourself as a child, be friends with the child, and grow up with the child.
