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I heard people say that "a baby recognizes its mother in three months", so after I gave birth to the baby, I didn't have many requirements for the baby. I only hoped that the baby would grow up to three months so that he could recognize me as his biological mother. However, what makes me strange is that the baby seems to have "recognized his mother" before he has grown up to three months.
I remember that my daughter recognized her mother very early. When coaxing the baby during the day, if I change her diaper, she will dance happily . When I put my daughter to sleep at night, if I hum the lullaby , she will behave very quietly and be more willing to fall asleep to my singing.
Unfortunately, it would be completely different if he were the father of the child. As soon as the father hugs the baby, the baby will cry and have to be coaxed by me. The baby will show obvious attachment to the mother and especially reject the father! During those few months, I took care of my baby almost every step of the way, and I almost collapsed from exhaustion.
To be honest, the phenomenon of babies "recognizing their mother" makes me feel angry and funny. The angry baby is really too clingy and doesn't understand the hard work of being a mother and raising a baby. What’s funny is that the baby is the mother’s biological child, so he is still the closest to his mother. As a grown man like my husband, if he wants to get close to his baby, the baby will be able to tell that he is not his biological mother.
Sure enough, it is still the flesh that fell from my body, just like my mother. I am a little bit happy to be a mother! However, I’m also curious. Don’t they all say “recognize their mother in March”? Does the baby recognize its mother very early?
Should the baby recognize its mother in three months or earlier?
After the baby was born, I always insisted on breastfeeding. Although the baby closes her eyes to feed every time, she is very smart, as if she can find out which mother is her even if she closes her eyes. From that time on, I noticed that my baby was close to me, but not so close to my husband.
When night comes, my baby clings to me and sleeps. If I am tired and want my husband to coax the baby, I have to take some clothes that I usually wear and put them next to the baby. Let him smell the familiar smell and feel at ease so that he can sleep peacefully without crying. This also makes it easier for my husband to help take care of me and allows me to have a good sleep.
Around the second month after my daughter was born, I discovered that as long as I appeared in front of the baby, the baby would stretch out its hands, kick its legs and look at me with a smile. Around the third month, when the baby sees that I want to let go of his hand, stop coaxing him to play, and want to do other things, the baby will become very nervous and prone to crying.
The baby relies on me to beg for a hug. He cries as soon as I put him down and laughs when I hold him. Sometimes, I tease my baby with colorful things, and the baby laughs louder.
I believe many mothers have this experience! It can be seen that the baby does not really recognize the mother at three months, but "recognizes the mother" before three months.
So, how did the baby "recognize its mother" three months ago?
Recognizing the mother three months ago does not rely on the baby's vision.
First of all, it is certain that the baby recognized the mother three months ago, so the saying that the baby "recognizes the mother in three months" is not accurate. But why do many mothers think that babies only recognize their mother after three months?
This is because, with the baby's vision development, in fact, after 3 months, , can clearly see objects about 75cm away, , and can follow the direction of the object and make eye movements. In the more than two months before this, the baby's vision had only gradually developed from almost zero at first, with eyes closed, to seeing a little clearer and clearer.
Therefore, what is certain is that the baby's recognition of his mother three months ago did not rely on the baby's eyesight, but other abilities.For example, these two abilities can allow babies to recognize their mothers before three months, but many mothers don’t know that babies have them!
Baby's olfactory ability
Although the baby's visual ability can only develop to the extent that it can see distant objects clearly at about 3 months old. But the baby's sense of smell has always been great.
From the first few days after birth, babies have different tastes. At this time, babies can smell the fragrance of breast milk. Babies will show an aversion to pungent smells.
When a baby is about 3 months old, his sense of smell and taste are more fully developed. After the baby smells a smell he doesn't like, he will show withdrawal behavior and express his likes and dislikes through taste. Therefore, the baby who recognizes his mother before three months actually relies on his sense of smell.
The baby's hearing ability
The baby's hearing ability is already present in the mother's womb. The baby will make some fetal movement reactions after hearing the sound in the mother's belly. After the baby is born, the sounds he can hear are around 50-60 decibels . In one or two months, he will open his eyes and cry after hearing the sound for an instant. In about three months, the baby can distinguish sounds.
Therefore, some mothers who often interact with their babies often tell stories to their babies and always talk to their babies. Well, the baby is actually very familiar with this sound as early as three months ago, and can distinguish which is the mother, which is the father, and which is a stranger through the sound.
In short, if mothers find that they can pick up their babies, the babies will be very happy. The baby especially enjoys time with his mother, but he hates being held by others. Babies always like to cling to their mothers and cry when they can't see their mothers. Or, the baby often stares in the direction of the mother and moves his eyes as the mother moves. That means that the baby may already recognize the mother and can easily recognize the mother.
Never underestimate a baby’s ability to recognize its mother. Babies are far more capable than we imagine. As early as three months before the baby is born, the baby can already recognize his mother!
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