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On the road to parenting, many parents will feel very confused at one stage, that is, when their children enter adolescence.
Children have many symptoms after they enter adolescence. They will have their own little secrets, and their relationship with their parents is no longer as dependent and intimate as it was when they were young. As their bodies and minds gradually mature, whether they are boys or girls, they will have The opposite sex generates very strong curiosity.
And this curiosity often affects the hearts of parents, for fear that their children will make principled mistakes on impulse.
I chatted with Sister Li in the office some time ago. Sister Li’s son is in the second grade of junior high school. Although he is still underage, he is already over 175cm tall. From the outside, he looks like a big boy. During the chat with
, Sister Li shared something that had made her very distressed recently.
Once she was anxious to check something on her son's tablet computer, and when she opened it, she found a small movie window that had not been closed. Although she understood that teenage boys would be curious about these, she knew that her son would secretly watch them in private. Sister Li Still a little overwhelmed.
Regarding this, Sister Li also communicated with her husband. The father felt that this was his son’s privacy. As a parent, he should not take the initiative to intervene, otherwise both parties would be embarrassed. However, Sister Li believed that it was necessary to give some side advice to his son. If the child has been Being addicted to this will always affect your academic performance.
In real life, many parents have experienced Sister Li’s confusion. When parents discover that their adolescent children are secretly watching movies, should they intervene? What is the best way to intervene?
Regarding this issue, Professor of China University of Political Science and Law once gave a reply in the program, and his views also triggered heated discussions among many netizens.
When the host raised this question, Professor Ma concluded on the spot that "this is a pseudo question."
In his opinion, in fact, many people have watched such small movies. We have been through this generation after generation, so parents don’t need to panic when they find that their children have such experiences. This is a process of sexual enlightenment, and the best The way to deal with it is to pretend you don’t see it.
With the development of the times, parents' views on parenting are also changing. When sex education is gradually being taken seriously, is turning a blind eye really the best way to deal with the problem?
Let’s listen to netizens’ opinions:
@ Moji: It makes sense. Our generation has basically seen it. This is a process of growing up. Parents should not be too sensitive.
@ Layman Haihai: You can't control this kind of thing. This proves that the children have grown up. As long as it doesn't break the law, it's fine. But we should try to let the children come into contact with it as late as possible and as little as possible!
@ Just like this: Stop saying that this is how generations have passed. Did you have mobile phones and computers before? Things are different now. We still need to guide them well now.
@南城烽火: In fact, this is also a process. The more you stop him, the more curious he becomes. It is better to educate children directly about science. There is nothing difficult to say. Let children understand gender knowledge earlier and better protect themselves.
Parents find that their adolescent children have "little behaviors". How should they respond?
As experts say, children’s sexual enlightenment requires a process. They will have a strong desire to explore the opposite sex out of curiosity. This is a very normal phenomenon that will happen to the vast majority of people, so parents do not need to If you feel that your child's behavior is shameful, you should not expose or reprimand the child on the spot.
When parents find that their adolescent children have "little tricks", they can choose to turn a blind eye and let them grow naturally. They can also provide some positive guidance to their children from the side, such as chatting with them about topics related to adolescence. In the process, children can learn where the boundaries between opposite sexes are and how to protect themselves and others.
Blocking is worse than easing. Many times, parents will infinitely amplify their children's private behaviors and then control them to varying degrees. Parents' tough attitude will not only hurt their children's self-esteem, but also put the parent-child relationship into a very embarrassing and embarrassing situation. Stiff situation.
The topic of this issue
Adolescent children secretly watch movies. Do you think parents should intervene? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area!
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