When we criticize, accuse, and suppress our children, their grades will get worse and worse. If we support, encourage, praise, and praise our children, their grades will get better and better. How we treat our children will determine what kind of state they will show
We must be a parent who can be satisfied, and do not have too high requirements for our children. This is particularly important for children. We parents should always be content with what we have.
We should not copy the parenting model of our parents to educate our children. We need to correct this education model. Times are different now, and education for children needs to be improved.
Parents treat their children well, and their children’s grades will get better and better.
The excellent Teacher Song is a psychological counselor of the school of psychoanalysis.
Teacher Song said: Many parents hope that their children will become successful and that their daughters will become successful. However, parents’ expectations are too high and their motivations are too strong. They will look at their children however they want. No matter how they look at them, they will never be pleasing to the eye or dissatisfied. .
always feels that his child is still a little bit behind, so he unnaturally criticizes, blames and suppresses his child.
Even parents cannot control their emotions and will beat and scold their children. Doing so is not only not an encouragement or education to the children, but also a kind of devastating harm.
We all know that if children experience this kind of abuse when they are minors in childhood, they will have various psychological problems when they become adults. Psychological problems are various mental disorders.
Being a parent who can be satisfied is particularly important for children. Even we parents should be content. You must have moderate expectations. If you have had too high expectations for your children in the past, these parents must remember to lower their management expectations.
When your expectations are lowered, you will be easily satisfied. When you are satisfied, you will be happy, your mood will be good, and you will have a positive and optimistic mood and mentality.
Giving children more praise, recognition, support and appreciation will naturally produce good habits of children loving learning.
But many of our parents will say that I can’t do it. I can’t stand it when my child’s grades are not good. Why can’t I stand it? Look at your childhood.
When you were young and your grades were not good and you failed to do something well, your parents couldn’t stand it and they couldn’t help but scold you. So what are you doing? grew up in an environment.
Then today you will unconsciously copy your parents’ parenting methods. Here Teacher Song tells you that you are wrong. You are treating your children with the same educational methods as your parents. But times are different now. Don’t copy your parents’ educational methods. They must be changed. If you don't change, you will continue to hurt your children.
How can we be a satisfied parent?
Contented parents say it is easy, but actually it seems quite difficult to do. Teacher Song gave everyone self-test questions.
Listen carefully, are we people who are easily happy? When we were young, were our parents satisfied with us? Are we spiritually independent people? We have too high expectations for our lovers to bring us happiness, a happy life, and a wealthy life. Do we envy the lives of others?
If two or more points are met, then we are probably a person who is not easily satisfied. If we are a person who is not easily satisfied, then when we face our children, we will have too high expectations for them. The expectations are too harsh and too harsh.
We may unconsciously hurt our children under such high expectations and have more distrust in them.
real case analysis.
Excellent teacher Song gave a real case. She said: There was an adolescent child who had no motivation to study and had a particularly tense relationship with his parents. This child grew up with his parents criticizing and criticizing him. No matter what he did when he grew up, However, parents are not satisfied with being able to find out all kinds of problems with him.
This kid told me, he said: I got second place in the exam, and my parents said: Why didn’t I get first place in the exam? I came first in the exam, and my parents said: Why didn’t I get full marks?
No matter how hard I try, they are not satisfied. I am too tired and I can’t learn anymore. These are the exact words the children said to me. It really makes me feel bad to hear them.
Teacher Song said: Let's take a test. The child's test results came out and he scored 78 points. At this moment, where is your attention focused? What are you thinking at this moment? Our kid scored 78 points.
There are 78 points out of 100 points, and our children can do it, so there are still 22 points that we are not afraid of losing, so let’s take a look and see how we can lose 22 points. Let me help the children. If you think this way, you are a powerful parent.
So what would some parents think about making so many wrong questions? Why did you get a score of 78? How did you learn it? How do you pass the exam, if you are such a parent? Then you are a powerless parent and a parent who hurts your children.
We just need to change to the parents that Teacher Song mentioned earlier. So, as parents, we are with our children, and every word we say to our children will have a very profound impact on their hearts. .
If what we say to our children is critical, self-blaming, and picky, these words are not nutritious, and then these words are conveying anxiety and fear to your children.
makes your child less and less powerful inside, and in the end he will no longer be able to learn. If we say words of encouragement, approval, support and praise to our children, then these words are valuable and nutritious.
The child's heart is filled with energy. Even if he does not do well in the exam, even if he fails, he is not afraid, because his parents are there and they can help him, check for omissions and fill in the gaps, and improve his grades.
So, as our parents, no matter what our children do, no matter what their performance is, we cannot accuse them of suppressing them.
When our children face these difficulties, we need to appease them and work with them to solve problems. We must be positive parents. Driven by the positive energy of our parents, our children's grades will definitely get better and better.
Those children whose grades are declining and whose grades are getting worse and worse. Parents, please correct your education methods. Take a good look and feel how you talked to your children. They were all criticized and blamed. If there is no nutrition, If so, aren't you afraid that your teacher will tell you what to do?
Just do what Teacher Song said, support, encourage, praise, and praise the children so that they have the motivation to learn and good habits.
