As a parent, I really worry about my child, especially because the child has a weak personality and is often bullied outside, but he doesn't dare to fight back. As a parent, he becomes anxious when he sees this. On the one hand, the son's inaction made the cousin feel deeply powe

As a parent, I am really worried about my child, especially because the child has a weak personality and is often bullied outside. He does not dare to fight back. Parents are anxious when they see him.

So what should we do in this situation?

's cousin's child has the personality mentioned above. He has been bullied by other children since he was a child. He doesn't dare to take his toys back if his toys are stolen. He just cries when someone pushes him down. He doesn't dare to speak out when someone scolds him. Just hide behind adults.

Regarding the child's behavior, my cousin really feels like she hates iron, because she has taught her children many times that you must fight back when you are bullied, otherwise people will think you are easy to bully, and you will only I will bully you even more.

But my nephew didn’t dare to fight back. My cousin wanted to stand up for her son many times, but most of the times she met were unreasonable parents who thought it was just a petty quarrel between children and there was no need to make a fuss out of a molehill.

My cousin felt helpless about this; on the one hand, her son's inaction made her feel deeply powerless; on the other hand, her cousin knew that parents cannot always protect their children, and children must always learn A person grows up and faces various problems alone.

However, the child's character was so weak that she didn't even know how to educate her son. Fortunately, at this time, the child's grandfather appeared. He was a retired principal who had nothing to do. After hearing about his grandson's condition, he offered to educate the child.

My cousin is of course happy to have someone help educate her children. What’s more, the old man is knowledgeable and may really be able to teach his children well.

Just like this, the child has been with his grandfather since he entered kindergarten. It is the grandfather who educates the child on weekdays.

However, people around him are not optimistic about this matter. Even if grandpa is well-informed, it is difficult to change his personality. In the end, the child may still be bullied.

However, under the guidance of his grandfather, the child changed drastically in just one year.

In the past, this child did not dare to speak loudly when strangers were present. However, under the guidance of his grandfather, this child gradually became cheerful and dared to fight back when bullied.

What is impressive is that once, when my cousin was taking her children to play in the playground near the community, an older child came over and snatched away the toys of her nephew. When my cousin saw it, she thought the child would stand there crying like before. Unexpectedly, the child's next operation shocked her cousin.

I saw the little nephew picking up a toy mallet nearby, pointing at the older child and saying, "Give me back the toy, or I will be rude to you."

The older child saw that the younger nephew dared to talk to him like this , suddenly became arrogant and wanted to teach the little nephew a lesson. Unexpectedly, what the little nephew said next made the older child completely lose his temper.

The little nephew saw that the other party was about to come over with his fists clenched, so he immediately said: "If you dare to touch me, try it. I know your mother and father, and I also know your teacher. If you dare to touch me, I will immediately lie on the ground and cannot get up." When the time comes, go to the hospital for a check-up and you will be compensated. See if your parents will take care of you."

Hearing this, the older child immediately became scared. Some children are not afraid of anything, but there are two things. Personally, he is more afraid of parents and teachers.

Especially for naughty children, they are even more afraid of their parents and teachers. If they know that they are causing trouble outside and they have to pay for it, they must not skin them when they go back.

In the end, the older child could only drop the toy and run away in despair.

My cousin was watching the whole thing not far away. She couldn't believe her eyes. Is this the same child who was often bullied before and didn't dare to fight back?

I didn’t expect that under the guidance of my grandfather, the child would change completely. We are also all curious about what method Grandpa used to make his child so stubborn in just one year.

Seeing everyone's surprised expressions, the principal stepped forward to explain. Grandpa said that children should cultivate three qualities that are not easy to mess with since childhood, so that children will not be bullied wherever they go.

What three traits are not easy to mess with?

1. In terms of momentum, he is not easy to mess with, and people dare not bully him easily.

If your child usually seems to be submissive, if others don’t bully your child, who will he bully? In order to make his children more confident and build their momentum,

’s grandfather enrolled his children in a martial arts class and took them to practice on weekends. On the one hand, he hoped that the children would learn some skills to protect themselves. On the other hand, I also hope that by learning martial arts, my children will become mentally stronger and become less easy to mess with.

This trick really worked. After the child learned martial arts, he was no longer so timid and fearful, and his eyes became more determined. Grandpa

said that if you don’t have the conditions at home, you can also take your children to do more confrontational sports, such as playing basketball, football, etc., so that the children can gain a sense of strength during the confrontation and give their own momentum to When promoted, people feel that they are not easy to mess with.

2. You are not easy to mess with socially, and you have to think carefully before letting someone bully your child.

What kind of children are easily bullied? Children who often live alone and have few friends are more likely to be bullied. Therefore, grandpa usually pays great attention to cultivating children's communication skills and allowing them to make as many friends as possible.

When a child has many friends, no matter where he goes, he will be surrounded by people, and others will not dare to bully him easily. The benefits of this, especially when the child reaches senior grade, will be realized.

3. Be not easy to mess with so that children can clearly identify whether they are being bullied.

When we mention the word "bullying", our first reaction is that the child was beaten. But in fact, there are many ways of bullying, and it’s not just being beaten that counts as bullying.

For example, being robbed of toys, being insulted, being squeezed out, being laughed at, being pushed, being spread rumors, being called nicknames, etc. There are countless ways of bullying, but children have limited knowledge and few experiences, so they are often bullied. Some children cannot accurately identify that they are being bullied.

If you don’t know that you are being bullied, let alone fight back. In this regard, my grandfather has done a very good job. He will read various picture books on bullying themes with his children every day. He also specially recommended to us this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Books", which talks about the problems that most children will encounter. bullying incident and gave a good solution.

's little nephew often reads this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book", so every time he is bullied by other children, he can identify it well and give a timely counterattack to let others know that he is not easy to mess with.

My daughter is often bullied and dare not fight back, so I also bought this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" for my daughter. I found that after my daughter often reads this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book", it really makes a difference. changes.

For example, in the past, my daughter would only cry when she was bullied; but after reading this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" frequently, she would dare to yell at the other person when someone bullied her again. Just her aura would make her lose all control. The other party was frightened.

This set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Books" is really good. There are 8 volumes in the set. In the form of stories, it explains to children the eight major themes of campus bullying that are currently attracting much attention.

For example, in the book "I don't like to be touched", if there are girls at home, I believe that parents are particularly worried about their daughters suffering from loss outside, and they are even more afraid that their daughters will not dare to say anything if they are taken advantage of. Therefore, this book teaches children how to behave when they encounter problems. How to protect yourself when your body is violated.

There are also "I don't like to be called nicknames", "I don't like to be spread rumors", "I don't like to be laughed at". These stories can teach children how to fight back when they encounter verbal bullying? Verbal bullying is as harmful as a child being hit, so parents should not take it lightly.

As children grow up, they will meet all kinds of people and will inevitably have various conflicts with others. As parents, it is impossible for us to protect our children from wind and rain every time. Children must always learn to deal with various problems they encounter in the social process on their own.

So, if you have children at home, you really need to teach them from an early age what to do when they are bullied. Tell your children the stories in this "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" every day. Each story is very representative and can be told repeatedly. Let the children remember these plots and problem-solving methods in their minds. Next If he encounters the same or similar thing, he will know what to do.

's "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" can also be read by scanning the QR code. After personal experience, I feel it is really good and worth buying.