I watched " female psychologist" in the evening. The clip is a mother who has a hard time but is tough and stern. It seems that she loves her children deeply in her own way, but it actually restrains and restricts her children. , And finally caused the mother-daughter relationship to collapse, mutual love and obedience, but also limited collapse. What this reminds me is that true love, or loving a group of people, is relaxed, happy, free, comfortable, and safe, rather than restrictive, controlled, tired, or collapsed.
In all kinds of interpersonal relationships, especially in family relations, many people or parents and elders are using the banner of love, invisibly restricting others (children), and always feel "I do this "It’s all for his own good." Maybe the parents did it for the good of the child. But from the perspective of an independent child, he needs to have his own needs, hobbies, pursuits, etc., have his own abilities and the necessary growth process. , Can’t be changed by inserting some experience excessively, so that the child loses the choice opportunity of self-growth and does not have the desired life track. Of course, children’s love for their elderly parents must also be free, allowing the elderly to live the way they want. Love is freedom and respect, love him and give him freedom, respect him!
Henan Yangxia Psychological Studio Wang Xueli (Psychological Counselor)
22:35 on December 10, 2021
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