People who do not want to be independent can do nothing well.
When a person is independent and gives up relying on others, he becomes extremely powerful. Sooner or later, the child will be independent, and develop the habit of independence sooner, and take the first step towards success sooner.
I used to be a leader who was very capable of working, but he lost his "self-esteem" when facing children. In order for the child to study, he even kneels on the ground and begs him to help the child with his homework.
Once, a 6-year-old son said "to drink milk" in front of everyone, not to drink milk powder, but to suck breast milk like a baby. She didn't agree, and the child slapped her in her arms and even beat her. We are very embarrassed next to us.
In life, we can love our children, and we can still be understood when we spend some time. Doting like her, keeping a 6-year-old man stuck to his mother and making such excessive demands is unacceptable.
As parents, we have experienced the baptism of society and truly realized that it is not our parents that can make ourselves dependent for a lifetime, but 's own knowledge, wisdom, and sweat .
Learning is the same. It is especially important for children to develop the habit of independent learning early.
In the first half of this year, I brought a girl who was in the third year of junior high school and was facing high school entrance examination. The expectations of the parents are very high, and they want their children to be admitted to our local national model high school. Then the children's grades will not reach the scores of ordinary high schools. It is because the gap is a bit big, the expectations are high, and my mother is very anxious. When the child progresses, she is not satisfied with the degree of progress and will not give praise. I told him to sort out the wrong question books carefully. The child’s homework was not efficient when he started, so his parents helped him sort out the wrong question books.Copy it mechanically on the notebook and let the children read it.
Anyone who has read my article knows that the wrong questions are not sorted like this at all. Even if they are written in a few large books, they are of little significance to the final high school entrance examination. "
how to do it?
Be a self-care person first
If a student is incapable of life, even if he finishes university, even if he is 985 or 211, he will not be able to gain a foothold in society, let alone other things. People who lack the ability to be independent are often a burden to the team in the workplace; in the family, they are also a burden to others. Because your parents love you, they let you, but if it involves feelings and marriage, they won't tolerate you so much.
When I first worked, I also did a recruitment job and used a method to test interviewers. Let our administrative front desk tell the interviewer that I am not in the appointed office and ask him to go to me on another floor without telling him the specific office. Many people will be at the elevator entrance for a long time at a loss and dare not ask people. Such interviewers are generally eliminated.
Only parents will love you unconditionally, there is no warmth in the workplace and society.
Use difficulties to exercise yourself and stimulate your will
This is actually a very good way to do. When you are doing your homework, you encounter difficulties and can't write the questions. The first reaction is to ask your classmates? Or use a search tool? Or just copy the homework?
I think the best way is to calm yourself down first, don’t think you don’t, but suggest that I can solve it and encourage myself to take the initiative to find a solution. It’s really not that way. Go with your own thinking. Correspondingly, you must have heard that sentence, never let the leader do short-answer questions, but do multiple-choice questions. This will show you whether you have thought independently and thought about solutions.
Once you pass your own efforts,After solving this problem, I must have felt very happy at the time. I doubled my confidence and felt that I could solve the problem independently. More importantly, the process of solving the problem is the application of knowledge and I will definitely learn. More solid.
Take the initiative to take on collective tasks and responsibilities
No matter the family, the class, the dormitory, it is a collective, everyone needs to play their own role, take the initiative to take on some tasks and responsibility.
In the family, parents are very considerate of their children and do not allow them to do any housework. Even the children’s bedroom and study are our parents’ help to clean up and tidy up. Sometimes, after finishing things up, the child can't find it, and we still complain about our parents.
Why not let them do this by themselves? "There is no big grass under the big tree." If you shelter too well, the slower your child grows and the harder it is to become independent.
When studying, can you take the initiative to take on some question-answering tasks? If you learn a subject very well, help teachers and classmates do some answers.
By contributing to the collective, the sense of existence will be very strong, and gradually will have a sense of responsibility and honor.
Quit the psychology of dependence on others
The typical learning in learning is that when you encounter a problem, you will go to the answer and search the software on your phone... When the teacher checks the endorsement, he will let others People remind themselves.
In this way for a long time, when you start to work, you will not dare to make decisions about anything, make up your mind, and ask for instructions and reports on everything. This style of doing things is no longer what the current workplace needs. A simple and fast pace of work is what leaders like. Therefore, we must learn not to rely on others from now on, and we must quit all these thoughts in our minds.
Conclusion: When you use these methods to train your own independence, you will definitely encounter laziness to interfere with your emotions. Remember, you must control him. Any plan or good idea, once it is interrupted once, the result is that the plan will definitely be aborted.The execution is not final.
Do you have any good ways to cultivate children's independent habits? Welcome everyone to leave a message and discuss.
.I am Ron, the senior, and I focus on primary and secondary education.
