Writer Xue Xiaochan said: "When you reach a certain age, you are recycled. When you receive it, will live the way you want ." After thinking about it carefully, it is indeed the case.
When I was young, I always wanted to be kind to the people around me, and I always thought about being kind to others from the standpoint of others. Even if I feel wronged, I should leave a good impression on others and be a real good person. After a certain age, I realized that it is often not a good thing to get along with others. is too kind and ruthless.
You take care of other people's emotions and help others overcome difficulties, but in the end you may not be able to get the other person's gratitude and reward. Some people think that you are "stupid" and not kind. When you are able to use you, you will talk sweetly, and you will not use you to take advantage of it. Some people are false, saying that you are good in person, and gossiping to others behind your back, saying that you are unbearable.
Why others dare to do bad things on you is because you make people feel that doing bad things on you can do no money. It sounds cruel, but it is real humanity.
People are old and learn to be "ruthless" towards these people. They must be discerning with kindness and be sharp. Too "really" will harm themselves.
is more affectionate to people who are "shameful"
Yishu said: "There is no such thing as empathy in the world. The person involved is like a knife. No matter how concerned the bystanders care, they are separated by a layer of flesh." Life is filled with all kinds of helplessness, and it is inevitable that they will fall into the darkest moments of life.
People are old. No matter how life is, don’t talk to others. If you live well, no one will applaud you; but if you live poorly, others will not empathize with you, but instead watch the fun and don’t bother you.
Why do you say "low-key" in real life? But it is because there are too many people who have the kind of "shameful" mentality. Some people can hide it very well in , while some people will say nakedly. There is no way, this is the real human nature. Only by protecting ourselves can we not be hurt.
Let’s take the matter of how much pension is. People with the same unit and the same working years have different salaries after retirement, but people’s hearts say that if you have a higher pension than him, they will disgust you and say this and that; if he is higher than you, he will show off himself and belittle you a few words by the way.
The concept of "money first" in life in has made many people's comparative heart more distorted, and their mentality of being unfavorable is more serious. Sometimes we feel that it doesn’t matter if outsiders say jealous and disgusting, and we won’t keep it in our hearts; but if our closest relatives are the same, and we can’t stand you in a better life than him, that is the most heartbreaking thing.
When people get old, learn to hide their weaknesses. When facing people who "shamed you", you must learn to be more affectionate. Whether it is outsiders or relatives, only if you are "ruthless and careless" can you protect yourself the best protection, otherwise the hurt will always be soft-hearted.
Be more cruel to people who are "faced with good intentions and evil intentions"
Writer Su Qin said: "Real alienation always likes to wear passionate clothes; true enthusiasm hides a distant outfit."
When people get old, their hearts become soft. Sometimes they can't stand the good words of others and do things that make them regret. Especially in the collective team, some people who are "good-faced and evil-hearted" use other people's kindness and good hearts, speaks the most beautiful words, but do disgusting things .
Taishigong said: "The world is bustling for profit, and the world is bustling for profit." Some people always think that others are fools, say particularly warm words, and do the most despicable things. The sisters in a team had already agreed to see the master who taught boxing during the holidays, and some kind-hearted people came out and said, "Don't go too many people, disturb the master's rest." Just have a few people representing them."
Each of us paid some money, and the kind-hearted person would visit the master on behalf of everyone. I thought it was a good thing for human relationships; but in the end, it was the one who was good-looking and the other was just financing this good-looking and the other.
People are old, don’t easily believe the words of people who are “good-faced and evil-hearted”, and be more cruel to them. don’t get too close to them, nod and just smile, don’t be deceived by others’ surface disguise .
is more heartless to people who "have not enough to take advantage of it",
"Famous to the Collection of Essays of the Mountain" says: "I only know when I get older that is defeated by time is nothing more than fake and hypocritical . Really, it will always survive." In life, we always meet people who "have not enough to take advantage of it", always feel that we are smart, saying hypocritical lies again and again, and taking advantage of it is a forced thing.
has the saying that "the heart of being on guard against others must be avoided, and the heart of being harmed by others must be illegitimate." Some people are smart and scheming, and can calculate; but most of us are real people, and we think that as long as others are good to us, we must be good to others.
When people are old, they must know how to be vigilant and keep their eyes open. Never be confused by other people's kindness. Especially for those of us single elderly people, when facing the sudden "good-minded people", don't think that it is your "charm and ability", and learn to distinguish.
Some people specifically choose the old man to start with it. Today is a bowl of hot dumplings, tomorrow is a plate of braised pork , which warms the heart and moistens the stomach, but makes the old man relax his vigilance and thinks that his second spring has arrived.
Maybe, Others approach you just to try to take advantage of your money . Therefore, being more ruthless in facing those who are dedicated and "not taking advantage of the benefits" is the key to protecting oneself.
Stay away from people who "repay evil with kindness"
Some people say that villains are not scary, the most terrible thing is bad people who "repay evil with kindness" , standing on the moral high ground, asking others how they should treat him, but he has no sense of gratitude to others. When people get old, they must stay away from such people and don’t be kidnapped by such people verbally and do things that are frustrating.
In fact, when people get along with each other, they exchange sincerity for sincerity. But some people always like to "double standards", have low requirements for themselves and high requirements for others, and cannot meet their requirements. They also need to morally kidnap , and even criticize filthy.
Faced with such people, we can only stay away from . Don't be their enemy, and don't interact too much with them . If you can't afford to offend and can afford to hide, it is better to spend time and money on yourself than waste time and money on such a person.
Conclusion:
Yang Jiang Mr. Yang Jiang said: "You have the education that does not hurt others, but you lack aura that is not hurt. If no one protects you, please be kind and have a little sharpness in the future to protect yourself. You must know that in this world, if you are so good that you are unreserved, the other party will be so bad that you are unscrupulous!"
People are old, don't be foolish to be "real" old people. Sometimes The better you are, the worse others dare to treat you. It is said that "good people will be rewarded, but bad people will suffer for thousands of years." It is difficult to say good and evil in the world.
We cannot always deceive ourselves. Knowing that our reality is being used by others and deceived, and being real people foolishly means that we are sorry for ourselves. We should learn to make ourselves cruel and unkind and thus protect ourselves.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
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